恋爱婚姻之分手后如何延长对方的好感留存期？

 henduorenhuiwenwojiang，weihefenshouyihoulingyifangruanyingbuchi，ruheyebulicaiwo?neimelianaihehunyindequbieshishenmeni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanlianaihunyinjiatingdewenzhangba。

youyutaduinizaoyimeiyouhaogandudecunliule。

zaifenshouyihou，lianaizhongdeshuangfangdoushihuilijingyigejieduan——haoganducunliuqi。

 huanjuhuashuo，meirenkeyishuobuaijiubuaile，zaihaoganducunliuqixiannei，nizishizhizhonghuishilingyifangneixindeyigenci，babuchulai，yehushibushang。

 yibanlaishuo，haoganducunliuqishiwanliushijicaozuozuiyouxiaodejieduan，chaoguozheiyijieduan，wanliudeshijicaozuohuizengjiananduxishu。

neima，zheiyiqimiaodehaoganducunliuqi，youmuyoufangfanenggouzengjiani?

 lianaihunyinjiating，shijishang，haoganducunliuqiyuanyuyuyigeshifenzhimingdexinlixuelilun——caishixiaoyong(zegarnikeffect)。

caishixiaoyongjiushizhidajiahuiweimeiwanchengdemeirirenwuxiazhudaliangdezhuanzhuli。

meirirenwumeiwancheng、zongtimubiaoweiwancheng，naozhongbianhuiyouyigexiangshengchixutishinilaidadaomubiao、dadaomubiao。

erzaiwomenxiangxidezuolezheijianshiqing，naozhongdenagexiangshengbianhuixiaotui，shierzishenyehuibeixunsudewangque。

 yinci zaifenshouyihou，yidannideqiannanyouwanquanjuedezheiyiduanqinggandaozheili，jienalefenshoudekeguanshishi，tajiukeyichenggongdejiangquanbudezhuanzhuliyizou。

fenshouhoudetongchulianzheguoqudezhuiyi，yehuibeituoshanjiejue。

ziran，yijumeiyigerendezhuangkuangbuyiyang，caishixiaoyongdefanyingsuduyebushitongyangde。

 danshijunzhieryan，liangrenfenshouhoucaishixiaoyonghuizaiyidaoliangyueneichediqixiao。yejiushilianrenfenshouhoudehaoganducunliuqijunzhiqixian，zaiyidaoliangyueyinei。

 henduorenbianhuixiangxiang：“neiwozaizheiliyilianggeyueyinei，badajiadewujiebiaoshuqingxi，ranglingyifangzaiciyijianshiyouhaogan，wobuhuijiukeyiwanliulemeiyou?”

这一理解是有误的。

wanliucongbushiyigejianyideshijicaozuo，dajia2gejiusuanfuhexingle，doubuyiweizhewanliujiuwanchengle。

 wanliushiyigezhongzhangxiandebuzhou，fuhexingjinjinzaiqizhongdeyibu，erzheiyihoudegaibian、gerentisheng、hunyinguanxidetigaozheixie，yeshiwanliuzhongbunengquefade。

 youyuzaijibenshangquanbudehunyinpolieshilizhong，fenshoudezhenshiyuangu，doubingbushizaocheng fenshoudemouyiexingshijian。erzaocheng fenshoudezheiyiexingshijian，zhibuguoyigebaofadianbale。

yinci ，“biaoshuqingxijiunengfuhexing”zheiyidianzishenbianshigewuhui。

zhenshihelidewanliushijicaozuo，yidingshigenju“shizhiyaoqiu”yishangkaizhande。

 keshiwoganggangchangshuodewanliuzheiyizhongzhangxiandeshijicaozuo，yaoxiangshijixiaoguolirunzuidahua、jieguozuiyoukongzhi，bidingshizaihaoganducunliuqilishijicaozuo，caikeyijinxing。

 wojugelizi，yigerenyaoqubanjianshenguan，zai2gegaopinzhidejianshenhuisuozhongjianbuduandanxin。zheigeshihou，tadepenyoujitamensongleyizhangzaiqizhongyijiajianshenhuisuodejianshenguan，nijuedezheigerenhaihuijixudanxingaixuannayijiama?

 zheiyidanxindequanguocheng，jiuhaoxiangshifenshouhoulingyifangdanxinxubuxuyaozaicizaiyiqi，ersongkabianshilijijiejuelezheileibuduandeguji，yejiushichulimeilezheiyiyaoqiu。

yejiushishuobianshi：fenshouyihoulingyifangshijishangduinishiyouyaoqiude，keyidanhaoganducunliuqiguoqu，yaoqiuyejiumeile。

neihaoganducunliuqiyoumuyouhenyoukenengzengjiani?

有。

shehuixinlixueyouyigejichulilunjiaofanxiangxinlizhuangtaijishuxing(reversepsychology)。

 fanxiangxinlizhuangtaijishuxingbianshidangrenmenlijingmingxiandeganqingqifushi，dajiahuijiangxintaihunluande(qianyishide)qianyidaoyouduteshijiyiyideshiqinghuomouyirendeshenshang。

jianyieryanbianshi，dajiagenggaoduzhongshimeifadedao deshiqing，womenbunengyouzhedewupinquegengjubeiyouhuoli。

 womenkeyiyunyongzheiyixinlizhuangtaijishuxing，caozongniqiannanyoudexintai，shitajiangxintaidaliangdetouyingdaonideshenshang，shitagengliuyini。jiushiyizhongyoubiaozhunde“fenshou”：

lianaihehunyindequbieshishenmeni？nibuyongnilailijiyingduiqiannanyou，yaoqiutahuijia，neiyangzuohuirangdajiafenlidegengzhangyuan。