害怕被背叛 我和老公总是吵架伤感情怎么办

　　zaiaiqingdejiufenzhong，fenshoulengjingqiyibanyaoduojiuchengweileyigebeishouzhumudehuatitaolun。zheiyiduanshijianbujinjinzhishicongqingganzhongjiefangchulai，yeshiweilelizhisikao，bicizhijianhuifutongku。fenshoulengjingqizhangduyousuobutong，youxierenbixujigexingqinaizhishuyuedeshijianlaihuifuchuangkou，eryouderenyexuzhixujiri。gaiqineiduiyushuangfangeryan，shizhongxinsikaoaiqing、sikaojianglaidebaoguishiguang。zaizheiguochengzhong，shuangfangkeyixiaohuaqingxu、mianduixianshi、xunzhaozhenzhengdekuaile。fenshoulengjingqizhenduixiufuhezhongjianzijineixinzhiguanzhongyao，suoyitadebuduanshijianyehenzhideshensishulv。

　　lengjingqizhenduifenshouzhihoudeqingganxiubuyouweizhongyao，tatigongleshijianyukongjian，rangbicilizhisikaohechendianxintai。danshi，fenshoulengjingqizhangduyousuobutong，meiyougudingyaoqiu。butongqingkuangxia，suoxuyaodelengjingqishijianyeyousuobutong。xiabianzhongdianweiraozheiyichutishenrutantao。

　　1. 个人基本情况确定冷静期

　　fenshoulengjingqiyibanyaoduojiu，meiyigerenqingganchulifangfahehaiyuanshuipingbujinxiangtong，qujueyuzijiduifenshouzhihoudelengjingqiyaoqiushijianyebujinxiangtong。youderenkenengbixubijiaozhangdeshijianlaidiaozhengqingxuhexiufuzishen，erlingyixierenhenyoukenengkeyijiaokuaidizouchuyinying。yiner，fenshoulengjingqizhangduyinggenjuzishendezhuangkuangyuxuqiulaiqueding。

　　2. 情感恩怨的复杂性

　　fenshouzhihoudelengjingqiyequjueyuqingganenyuandefuzaxing。jiarufenshoushiyouyuyixiejiandandeyuangu，bicibingmeiyoutaiduodeqingganjiuchanbuqing，neiyanglengjingqihenyoukenengjiaoduan，jinxujirihuojigexingqi。danshiruguofenshoushejidaofanzadeqinggannanti、panbianerzhangqifenqideng，bicibixubijiaozhangdeshijianwanquanxiaohuahechaoguogezhongwenti，lengjingqihenyoukenenghuiyanzhangdaoduogeyueshenzhigengzhangshijian。

　　3. 沟通方式以及需要空间

　　zaifenshouhou，meigerenduiyugoutongjiaoliuyukongjiandexuqiuyebuyiyang。youderenkenengbixuchediheqianrenduanjuelianluo，yigerenmianduibingzhengliqingxu；erlingyixierenhenyoukenengqidaibaochiyidingdegoutongjiaoliu，yijianqingfenshoudekuchu。genjugerenyaoqiu，lengjingqizhangduyehuiyousuochayi。

　　4. 真实自我和彻底改变幸福快乐

　　fenshoulengjingqidoushizishenxunzhaohechedigaibianxingfukuailedeshijianduan。fenshouhou，meigerendouyoujihuifansiguoqudeaiqingbingsikaozishenduixingfudedingyi。zheigeguochengxuyaoshijianlaitansuo、renzhijiena，danzheixieshijianyoubeinarudaofenshoulengjingqidefanwei。

　　5. 留意不要过分增加冷静期

　　suiranfenshoulengjingqizhenduiqingganxiubuyouweizhongyao，danyaobimianguoduozengjiata。zhangshijiandelengjingqihenyoukenengshishuangfangyuelaiyuenanyibaituofenshouyinying，shenzhiyingxiangdaoxiayiduanganqingdejianshe。yiner，zaiyidingshijianhou，biciyingjinkenengtanxunjunheng，xiufurichangrichangshenghuo，xunzhaoxindejihuiyuxingfu。

　　fenshoulengjingqiyibanyaoduojiu，zongdelaishuo，fenshoulengjingqizhangdumeiyouyigegudingshijiancankao。gerenjibenqingkuang、qingganenyuandefuzaxing、goutongfangshiyuxuqiukongjianyijizhenshiziwodengduozhongyinsukenenghuiyingxiangfenshoulengjingqizhangduan。zuizhongyaodeshiyaoweizijichongzudeshijianlailizhisikaohexiufu，buyaoguofenzengjialengjingqi，yiweichiduiweilaijijidexintaihezixin。