男友一直拖着不愿意和我结婚该怎么办？

　　fenshounanyouweishenmekuijiu？huoxushiyinweitaqinshoujieshuyuzaihuderenzhijiandeguanxi，zhendeduibuqiduifangdeganshouyufuchu。tahuoxushenganneijiushiyinweizijidebugouchengshu、taobizerenhuozheweibeilefuwuchengnuo。bulunshiwaizaiyinsuhuoshineixinmaodun，fenshounanyoudouchengshoulekuijiudezhemo，tihuizhezijidekuchuhebeishang。taduizijidexingweigandaohuihen，houhuibuyi，neixinbeishenshenneijiusuoyingxiang。zhenduifenshounanyoueryan，tazaoyudebujinshishiquleyigelianren，yeyouduiyuweilaisuochanshengdeyizhonghouzhongfudan——kuijiudefuzuigan。

　　分手所决定的矛盾

　　fenshounanyouweishenmekuijiu，fenshounanyouzenmehuigandaoneijiuni？yexuhuidaqianzangzaifenshousuojuedingdemaodundangzhong。danghunyinzoudaozuihou，nanyoujiangmianlinzheneixindejiujiehemaodun。tayexuyishidaoleshuangfangzhijiandeyouwenti，queyoubuganmianduisheqidiaodeqing。zheileimaodunrangnanyouxianruneixindezhengtuo，fenshousuodailaideneijiuganjiezhongerzhi。

　　负罪感的烦恼

　　fenshounanyouneixinhenyoukenengyizhimobuqudeshifuzuigan。tashenzhizijibicizhijiandesunhai，nanyishihuaitazailianaizhongdeyixieshiwuheguoshi。meiyicihuixiangqicongqiangongchudemeihaohuiyi，tazonghuigandaowujinzizeneijiu。fuzuiganzhemozhetadeneixin，bianchengbaituobuledexinlikunhuo。

　　损害她愧疚

　　fenshounanyougandaokuijiudelingyigeyuanyinshitaduiyusunhaitakuijiu。tazhidaofenshouhuijiduifangchanshengtongkuheyihan，lingyifangkenenghuiyincishenxianbeishangdechujing。nanyouwufayuanliangzijishanghaidaozijicengzuiaideren，bukanrumuchengdansilianyihangongzuoyali。buguanfenshoushiyinweishenme，taduisunhaitakuijiuwufamochu。

　　对于未来职责的重担

　　fenshouzengtianlenanyouduiweilaizerenxindehouzhongfudan。tazhidaofenshoukeyigaibianbicizhijiandeshenghuoguiji，henyoukenengshiquyigenenggoubiciyikaodebanlv。nanyoumianduicongtoukaishidebuquedingyinsuhewuligan，beiganzishenchengdanduiguoqudefuwuchengnuo。zheileishimingganshitagandaohouzhong，congerchanshengyidingdeneijiuxintai。

　　对未来缺憾

　　fenshounanyouyehuiyinweiduiweilaiquehanergandaoneijiu。tahuoxuzhujianzhiyizijiqueding，danyoucuoguobicizhijiandejihuihehenyoukenengxingfu。nanyouyishidaoletiaoxuanfenshouzeyiweizhexuanzefangqiyiduankenenghuiyoumeihaoweilaideguanlian。jianglaideyihangulvrangtabaituobuleneixindeneijiuxintai。

　　愧疚的发展机会

　　danshi，neijiutongshiyeweifenshounanyoudailailefazhanfazhanjiyu。yingduineixindezizehouhuimoji，nanyounenggoufanshengzijizailianaizhongdebugou，bingcongzhongjiqujingyanjiaoxun。genjujienakuijiuqingxu，tanenggougenghaodichengzhanghegaibianxianzhuang，yifangzhitongyangdebuzhengquechansheng。neijiuyeshinanyougewaizhenxijianglaideaiqing，bingxuehuiruhenenggougenghaodiduidaitaren。

　　寻找内心的平衡与学会放下

　　fenshounanyouyeyaoxunzhaoneixindepinghengyuxuehuifangxia。yingduikuijiudexintai，takeyishizheruxiasuoshifangshi：jienazijidexinqing，jinkenengkuanshuzijideguoshi，heduifangkaizhanzhenchengdejiaoliu，jienahuigaiziwogaibian。zhujianshifangneixindeyali，nanyounenggouxiangqianzou，zhaodaoxinderenwuhexingfukuaile。

　　结束语

　　fenshounanyouweishenmekuijiu，fenshounanyoudekuijiuxintaiyuanyuduitazailianaizhongdewentiheduibicideshanghailejie。tajianfuzhehouzhongdezerenxinhefuzuigan，xianruneixindejiujieheneijiudangzhong。danshi，neijiuyeweitatigonglefazhanfazhanjiyu，genjujieshoubingxuehuifangxiaziyideguoshi，nanyounenggoubaituokuijiudefannao，xunmigenghaodemingtian。