分手初期如何突破对方的心态防御？

　　fenshouzenmewanhuinanyou？zheishiyigeranghenduonvhaiziyihuodenanti。bulunshiyouyuzhengzhi、wuhuihuoshiwaizaiyinsu，dangqinglvquedingfenshou，henduorendouhuibeishangdecubujifang。danshi，buyaofangqixiwang。zaifenshouhou，youhenduofangfakeyicaiyonglaichangshiwanliunanyoudeneixin。zuizhongyaodeshiyaolingtingtadeganshouyuxuqiu，congmuqiandeqingkuangzhongjiqujiaoxun，suihouzhubuwanshangoutongjiaoliuherenke。yucitongshi，zhanshichuziyidejijibianhuayuchengzhang，weifuhexingdiandingjichu。jinguanmeiyoushangshangzhice，danshizhiyaozhenxinshiyiqinfen，yexutamennenggouzhongguiyuhao。fenshoubingbuyidingyiweizhejieshu，wanliunanyoudeneixinhuoxubuzaiyaoyuan。

　　fenshouzenmewanhuinanyoudeguanjiansuozai

　　阻拦冲动情绪起伏

　　fenshoudeyishunjian，womendeqingxutongchangxingfenqiekongzhibule。danshi，ruguowomenxiangyaowanliunanyou，womenyinggaipingjingxialai，bingkeguandikandaizheiyiqingkuang。bunengrangchongdongqingxuqifuhexinwomenzijidexingwei，fanershiyaodongdekongzhihaozijideqingxu，lengjingfenxibingzhidingxiangyingdefangan。

　　聆听和沟通的意义

　　zaifenshouhou，lingtinghehezuoshifujianguanliandeguanjiansuozai。zhangwonanyoudetiyanyuxuqiuqishiduiyuwomenzhangwowentidegenyuanyouweizhongyao。zhanshichuzhenzhengguanxintadebiaoxian，bingbiaoshitongyiyitongchuliwenti。tongguokaifangyuzunzhongdeduitan，womenkeyizaicigoujianqiyouxiaogoutongfangshi，weifanhuiyiqidiandingjichu。

　　个人提升和提升自己

　　nanyouhenyoukenengliqushiyinweijuedewomenbingmeiyoufazhanhuozhewufamanzutadeqidai。zaizheiduanshijian，zhiliyutishengzijishishifenzhongyaode。nulizuoyigegenghaoderen，bulunshizaigongzuozhong、xuexihaishigerenaihaoshang。genjuzhanshichuziyidejijibianhuayuchengzhang，womenkeyixiyinzhunanyouzhuyili，houzhongxinjifataduiyuwomenzijidexingquaihao。

　　再次拉近关系和诱惑力

　　xiufufenshouzhihoudeguanlianxuzhongxinlajinguanxi。dajiaxuyaozunshouyiqianshangtanchengnuo，bingzhanshichuchixubuduandegaijinheqinfen。chucizhiwai，womenkeyigenjunenggougenghaodizhaoguhaoziji、gaishanrongmaoxingxianglaitishengzijideyouhuoli，laixiyinnanyouzhuyiliheranqitaduiyuwomenzijidereqing。

　　给对方一些时间和空间

　　fenshouhou，womenyexujiqiewanliunanyou，danjiduifangyixieshijianhekongjianshishifenzhongyaode。youshi，nanyouxuyaoshijianlaijiejuezijideqingxuhexinxu。womenyinggaizhongshitadejueding，bingyuyitayidingdekewanxing。yucitongshi，womenhaikeyiliyongzheiduanshijianlaisikaoyufazhan，weifanhuiyiqigaohaogengchongzudezhunbei。

　　寻求专业支持和鼓励

　　fenshoubingbuyidingshidajiayigerenkeyijiejuewenti，henduoshihoubixuxunqiuzhuanyezhichiheguli。keyixuanzezixunxinlixuezhuanjiahuolianaizhuanjia，tamennenggoutigongyixiejianyiyufangfalaibangzhuzijinenggougenghaodiwanliunanyou。chucizhiwai，pengyouhuoqinyoudeshiyongyehenzhongyao，tamennenggoujiwomentigongjingshencengmiandelijiehezhichi。

　　汇总

　　jinguanfenshouzenmewanhuinanyoubingmeiyouburongzhiyidehuida，danshitongguolengjingfenxi、lingtinggoutongjiaoliu、gerentishengheyouhuolidetigao、zaicilajinguanxi、jiyushijianhekongjianjiqixunqiuzhuanyezhichiheguli，womenkeyiyougengduodejihuizhongguiyuhao。fenshoubuyidingdaibiaozhejieshu，zhixuwomenzhenchengqinfen，huoxuwomenkeyiwanliunanyoudeneixin，zaiduchuangzaomeihaoshenghuozhijiandeguanxi。