少女表白大叔被拒：他的温柔是陷阱

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　　情感上的担心：思恋不甘

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　　安全借助：孤独和习惯性探寻

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　　接纳自己的不全面：身份认同和未了的事

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　　应对未知的未来：恐惧和怕寂寞

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　　自我认识的实践探索：探寻内心平衡和回答

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　　nvrenfenshouhoulianxiqianrenshishenmexinli，buguannvrenfenshouhoulianluoqianrendexinlidongjishishenme，zuizhongyaodeshizhangwoshenhoudeqingxuyuxuqiu。zheiyangkeyibangzhunvrengenghaodiyingduifenshouhouqingxu，cujintamenmaixianggengjiajiankangxinlizhuangtaihegenghaodemingtian。