男友想分手时，女孩们该做什么事呢？

花镇你好，我是个25 岁的女孩，最近 感情 遇到一些问题，想向你请教一下。

 wogentalianaiyinianle，shipengyoujieshaorenshide。yikaishideshihoutaduiwohenhao，tadegefangmiantiaojianyedouhenfuhewoduilingyibandeqidai，yinianlaiwoduitadeganqingyouzengwujian，shenzhidaoleyiribujianrugesanqiudechengdu。danshi，nanyoubuzhicongshenmeshihoukaishibiandeduiwoyouxiehulenghure，woshangxinqueyebuzhidaogaizenmewen。houlainanyoutanbaishuo，shitamamajieyiwonianjibitada，fanduiliangrenzaiyiqi，nanyouburenxinzhishuo，jiuyouyishuyuanwo，xiangrangwotichufenshou。

 wojuedehennanyijieshou，dangshigentadakudanaoyichanghou，nanyoudayingbufenshou，ranhouzhongxinkaishimeiwanjiwodadianhua，xianzaiguanxiyijinghuanhexialaile，kewohaishijuedebuganxin。mingmingdangchurenshideshihoutajiuzhidaowonianjiyaobitadale，erqieyejiuliangsuidechaju，yebusuantebiedaba？tazenmenengyinweitamamadejijuhuajiuduiwoquanpanfourenle？

 wojuedezijixianzaizaizheiduanganqingzhongbiandehenbeidong，huazhenyoumeiyoushenmehaodejianyirangwobuyaoneimebeidong，rangtanengduiwogengzhuanyiyixie？

老师的回复：

 zailianaizhong，dangnijuedetadexinyijingliniyuanqu，niyuelaiyuezhuabuzhutadeshihou；dangnifaxiantajiaotaliangzhichuan，buxiangfenshoudanbuganxindeshihou，kunaobushijiejuewentidebanfa，jishiniyongkunaozanshiliuzhuta，tachizaohaishihuizoudiaode。

nanyouxiangfenshoushi，nvhaimenyaozuodejijianshishi：

1、buyaoshituzinvehuozhenvedaiduifang。

 jutizuofashi，buyaozaihetaduqi，buyaozaishuorenhehenhua，buyaozaishuoshenmewozhidaonibuaiwo”“wojiuzhidaonibianxinle，kanshangqitanvhaile”“wojiuzhendezheimerangnitaoyanma？”“woleniyebuhuishangxinde”denghua。fanshinijuedehuirangduifangbuyukuai，huozhenengrangzijijieqi、danhuazijiweiqudehuadoubuyaoshuo。

2、jishimingzhiduifangzaipianni，yebuyaozhichu。

 biru，dangtaquhenvtongshichifanbeiniwuyifaxian，taquegaosunineitianzai jiaban，nijiuzhuangbuzhidaojike，buyaobanidecaizhiyongzaijiechuanduifangshang，ziji xinlimingbaijiuhao；ruguotashitanni，nijiuweixiao，yebuyaogaosutanizhidaozhei jianshi，chufeiniyijingxiadingjuexinyaohetachedilaosibuxiangwanglai。

3、jishiduifangwuzhongshengyoudizhizeni，yequanpanjieshou，bubianjie。

 ruguotakaishixianqini“bushigongwuyuan、laoshi” “fumubuxihuanni” “zhang detaiai” “bupiaoliang”，buyaofanchunxiangji，zhixuyaoqingqingdigaosuta：“wohechang buxiangxiangnishuodeneiyang……danxianshiruci’wojienaxianzaideziji。”

4、dabanziji，quzhaobeinilengluoyijiudepengyoumen，rangzijiguodegengkaixin

 anpaizhoumoqujuhui，ranhoubashoujiguanle，buyaodayingtadelinshiyuehui， ruguotayaozhaoni，taziranhuifanni，mutayaochu，tashizhaoqitashi jian，buyongdanxincuoguotadedianhuahuozheyuehui，buyongxiangtaguoduobaobeinidexingzong。

5、mianduita，yaoshiruo，biaodanidewuzhuheduiduifangdexuyao。

当他指责你的时候，处理方式采用第 条。告诉他 ：“wosuiranbushiwanmeide，danshangtianhenhouaiwo，jiwoyigebucuodenanpengyou。”shenshoubudaxiaolianren，tabuhuijixude。

6、biaodaduitadexinshang，yinengrangtajuedeyuyueweimubiao。

 ruguotaduinitanjitadegongzuo，niyaozanmeita：“zhendema？tongshilimianyinggaizhiyounidedaozheiyangderongyuba？ ”ruguotabiaodajusanghuozhebuman，niyaogaosuta：“niyijingzuodegouhaole。