挽回爱情心态学：挽回前一定要知道的三个重点

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wanhuiaiqingxintaixue：wanhuiqianyidingyaozhidaodesangezhongdian

一、请搞清楚，想挽回的那一方一定是弱势。

 zheiqishiyonghenjiandandeluojijiukeyilijiele，danhenqiguaideshihenduorendouhuihulvezheigezuijibendedaqianti，suoyizuochulaihenduowanhuidedongzuodourangduifangfeichangfangan。weishenmefanganni？yinweibeiwanhuideyifanghuijuedenihaishigaobuqingchuzhuangkuang。

 dangranhuigaobuqingchuzhuangkuangshimanzirandeyijianshi，yinweitifenshouderenbiqibeifenshouderen，gengnengquchengdanfenshouhoudekongxu、xiguandegaibian，erbeibipobixuzuofenshoujuedingdeneigerenhuiyinweiwufajieshoushishi，bingqiexiguanturanbeigaibianhaiyouturanbeichouzoudeandingganerkaishikonghuanggenjiaolv，zheiliangjianshiqingdougangganghaohuirangzijihenrongyikanbuqingchuxianshi。youqiyinweiweilebaochi“nengfuhe”dezheigexiwang，womenjiuhuikaishixiangxiangchuzijixiangyaodeshishichulai。

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zhengyinwei「haiyouxihuanba」suoyiyinggaizaijiniyicijihui。

zhengyinwei「haiyouxihuanba」suoyitabuyinggairucijuejue。

zhengyinwei「haiyouxihuanba」suoyitayinggaiyaojieshoufuhedeyaoqiu。

 danduifangdequeyoukenenghaiyouxihuan，danshijibenshangtajiuyijingshishoubulejixugennizaiyiqilecaihuitifenshou，nisuoxiangxiangde“xihuan”gentasuoganshoude“xihuan”zaojiuyijingshibutongshijiedeganshou。

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二、只有当对方「自己想要」跟你接触的时候，挽回的行为才会是加分。

 woxiangdajiayinggaidouyoubeizijibuxihuanderenxihuandejingyanba？ruguonigenbenbuxianggenneigerenyoujiechu，neiruguojintianwowenni「tayaozenmegennijiechunicaihuiyuanyigentazaiyiqi？」nihuizenmehuida？

 dangrannikenengzheishihouyouhuichuxianyigeniantou：「keshitacengjingyuanyigenwozaiyiqijiushibuhuidaoneizhongchengduba？」a，nikan，youchuxianwodiyidiansuojiangdemangdianle。duifangdangrankenengmeiyoudaoduiyutaorenyandezhuiqiuzheneiyangtaoyanni，danyibiyudeqingshishangshiyiyangde。

suoyinixianzaiyidingyouhuixiang：「suoyizenmerangta『zijixiangyao』genwojiechu？」ai，guoranshixianhenshena，qingkanxiayidian。

三、当你想着「所以到底要怎么挽回」的时候，就是告诉对方跟你分手是对的。

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