发生关系后，他却不愿见面了！

　　zaixiandaishehui，fuqiganqinglidemanyidubeishiweiyizhongguanjiandeguannian。danshi，bansuizhezishenxuqiuheneixindeyuwangsuishibianhua，chuguizhuangkuangyezaibuduanzengjia。zheiyinqileyigezhidesikaowenti：“laogongmanzubulechuguinengbeiyuanliangma？”zheizhongqingkuangqianshedaozhuduoyaosu，ruqingganshangdeduoyuanxing、bicizhijiandejiazhiguan、jiatingqingkuangdeng。taolunzheizhongqingkuangjiangyinlingdajiajinyibusisuohunyinlidezhongshiyuyuanliangdebianjieheguanlian，jiqifuqizhijianxianghuzhijiandadaodebiyaoxing。

　　背驰承诺造成的伤害

　　laogongmanzubulechuguinengbeiyuanliangma，hunyinshenghuoshishijianlizaibicifuwuchengnuohezhongshideqiantixia，erchuguigerenxingweinaishiweibeilezheiyifuwuchengnuo。fuqizhijiandechuguibudandanshidaodeyulunliwenti，yeshiduibanlvneixinshenchudewaishangxingshanghai。chuguigerenxingweipohuaitamenzhijiandexinrenheguishugan，shibanlvzaijingshenshangdedaolebijiaoyanzhongdechongji。duiyuzheiyangdesunhai，buguanshifoufuhe，yuanliangchuguishibushichengweiyigetiaoxuan？

　　责任与担当的矛盾

　　hunyinli，aihezerenshilianggeguanjiandiandeyinsu。aiqingshifuqizhijianqingganshangdeqiaoliang，erzhizeshiweichihunyinshenghuopingwendezhongyaojichu。dangyifangchuguishi，aihezerenzhongjianhuichanshengmaodun。yuanliangchuguidaibiaozheduiaidezhonggui，dantongshiyedaibiaozheduizhizedehulve。shibushiyuanliangchugui，zaiyufuqiliangrenruhebawohehengliangzheilianggefangmian。

　　寻求达到和交流的缺失

　　chuguitongchangshiyinweifuqiganqinglideyifangjuedeqianquedadaoyujiaoliuerzaochengde。danglaogongbunengmanzubanlvdeyaoqiushi，banlvhenyoukenengxunqiubierendedadaoyujiaoliu，zaiciguochengzhongchuguizaocheng。danshi，shifounengyuanliangchugui，haixuyaokaolvdaobanlvshifounengjijixunqiujiejuewentifangshi，rufuqizhijiandegoutongyuhunyinfudaodeng，yigoujianqigengjiankangdefuqiguanxi。

　　文化思想的差别

　　wenhuaduoyangxingzhenduichuguiweifaxingweideguandianyousuochayi。zaiyixiejiusixiangbijiaobaoshouwenhuali，chuguibeichengzuohenyanzhongdepanbiangerenxingwei，hennanbeiyuanliang。danzaiyixieoumeiguojia，zhenduiyuanliangchuguidexintaixiangduixingbaorong。yiner，fuqizhijiandewenhuaneihanhejiazhiguanyeduiyuanliangchuguidezuochujuedingqidaoyidingdeweihai。

　　重建信任与修复损害

　　jiusuanchuguinengbeiyuanliang，zhongjianxinrenhehuifusunhaiyebushiyicuerjiudequanguocheng。shoushangyifangbixuzhenzhenzhengzhengxuehuifangxia，erqiebicibixutongguogoutongyuqinfenmanmanfujianqixinlai。yucitongshi，yuanliangbingbudengyuwangdiao，banlvyeyaochengdanqiyiwu，zhanshichuzhenzhengyiyishangdehuigaiziwogaibian。

　　探寻保持中立第三方的协助

　　yingduifufuchuguiwenti，youshiqingeryijudizuochushibushiyuanliangdejuecebingfeiyishi。zheishi，xunqiubaochizhonglidisanfangdexiezhukenengshiyigezhengquedexuanze。gengzhuanyedehunyinzixunshihuoxinlizixunshikeyitigongkeguanjianyiheyindao，xiezhufuqiliangrenzaishanghaiyuanliangzhongjianzhaodaoyigejunhengdian。

　　laogongmanzubulechuguinengbeiyuanliangma，buguanshifoufuhe，yuanliangchuguibingbushiyigerongyideshiqingqueding。fuqiliangrenbixushensishulvshanghaishuiping、qingganshangdeduoyuanxingjiqizishenjiazhiyishidengduozhongyinsu。meiyigerentiaoxuandoushibuyiyangde，danzhongyaodeshiyaozunzhongduifangdejuece，bingqieweifujianfuqiguanxiergongtongfendou。