男友以前女友的标准要求我，我该怎么办？

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　　nanrenchuguiyibanduojiuhuilihun？zheishiyigerangbushaorenyouxingqudenanti。danshi，huiyingzheigewentibingmeiyouneimejianyi。zuixian，lihunshijianzhangduanzaiyubutongqingkuanghegebiechayi。

　　内心裂缝：外遇的毁坏

　　chuguiduihunyinguanliandaozhilehenyanzhongdexinliyinyinghexinrenwenti。bansuipanbianyutongku，bixushijianququanyuzheizhongchuangkou，zaicilajinguanxi。zheiyiguochengkenenghaixuyaohaoduogeyuenaizhigengjiushijian，youyushoushangyifangyexumeifasuibiankuanrong，erqiexuyaoshijianlaizaijuedingshifouchixubaochizheiyiduanhunyin。

　　冷静期：思考婚姻

　　lengjingqizaiwaiyushijiandefashengshibijiaochangjiande。zheiyiduanshijianduifuqilaijiangshiguanjianxingde，taxuyaojingxiaxinlai，sisuozijidexiangfayuweilai。zaizheigejieduan，bicitongchangxuyaoyiduanshijianlailengjingfenxi，pingdinghunyindejiazhiyukechixu。zheiyiguochengduibicidoufeichangzhongyao，yinweitayouliyutamenzuochulizhidequeding，bingfeizaoshouqingxuyingxiang。

　　婚姻挽留：修补裂开

　　zaichuguishijianyihou，youyixiefuqihenyoukenengshizhewanliuhunyin。tamenyexuxunzhaojishuzhuanyexiezhu，canyuhunyinzhidaohuohunyinxiufufangan，yihuanjiehunyincunzaidewenti。zheiyiguochengtongchangxuyaofeichangyiduanshijian，youyufuqibixunuligaijingoutongjiaoliu、fujianhunyinguanxi，binggongtongfendouchulihunyinzhongdeyixiliewenti。

　　家庭原因：危害离婚的外在因素

　　chukaichuguishijianzishen，lihundeshijianhaihuijixuzaoshoubiedetiaojiandexianzhi。jiatingqingkuang、hunyinlishishijian、ernvdecunyoujiqibicizhijianduijiatingyalidedanfudoushihuiduilihundeshijianzaochengyingxiang。youshi，yifanghenyoukenengxiangyaorenshouchugui，yinweitamenqidaiweichiyigejiatingdewanhaoxing，youqishizaiyouhaizideqingkuangxia。

　　zongeryanzhi，nanrenchuguiyibanduojiuhuilihunzheigewentimeiyouyigejutishijianguifan。meiduifuqidexianxiangquanshiyuzhongbutongde，lihunshijianzaiyuhenduoyaosu。zhenduishoushangyifangeryan，taxuyaoshijianlaichulitongku，zhongjianxinren。danduiyufuqibicieryan，taxuyaoshijianlaisikao、gaijinhehuifuhunyin。zuizhuyaodeshi，quedinglihundeshijianyingdangdoushijiyushendusikaohechongfenkaolvduozhongyaosuhouzuochudebuerzhixuan。buguanquedingzenyang，xunzhaojishuzhuanyezhichihegulidoushishifenzhongyaode，bulunshixiubuhunyinhuoshizuochugengjiannandexuanze。