挽回男友高阶技能：如何将短择转为长择？

　　nanrenzaiwaimianchuguilaopoyinggaizenmeban，yingduizhangfuzaiwaimianwaiyudekeguanshishi，qiziyingruheyingduiyuchulineiyangdejiongjingni？diyi，qizibixupingjingxialai，bubishenxianqingxuzhaozezhong，ershiyinggaibaochilixinghelizhi。cizhi，qiziyinggaihezhangfukaizhanzhenchengdejiaoliu，biaoshuzijidexiangfayuduichuguidefennuhesunhai。yucitongshi，qiziyeyaolingtingzhangfudemiaoshuheyijian，bianyuzhangwoshencengyuanyinhewentidegenyuan。chucizhiwai，chuangjianbicixinrenhetoumingsejiaoliushizhongyao，fufuyingdangyitongxunzhaojiejuefangan，liruyikaofufuzixunguwendezhichi，fujianfuqiganqinghexiuhuderenke。zuizhuyaodeshi，qizijiandingzuorendedixianzunxunyuanze，baohuzijideliyihezizun，zuochushihezijiguanlijuece。hunyinlidekunjingyutiaozhanbixushuangfanggongtongyingdui，genjuzhenchenggoutongyulejiequzhaodaojiejuewentifangshi。

　　第一步：接受现实，保持冷静

　　nanrenzaiwaimianchuguilaopoyinggaizenmeban，zhangfuwaiyuduirenheqizieryandoushiyigechenzhongdaji，danxianzaizuizhuyaodeshiqiziyaobaochilengjing。qingxuwufakongzhifanerhuirangshiergengweifuza。qiziyingjinliangkongzhihaozijideqingxu，zailizhizhuangtaixiasisuozenmekandaizheizhongqingkuang。

　　第二步：探寻缘故，开展聆听和沟通

　　weilenengxunzhaojiejuewentidebanfa，qizixuyaohezhangfuzhenchengdigoutongjiaoliu。zheibujinjinshiduizhangfumingquetichuzhiyihebiaodashiwangdehaojihui，doushizhangwoshenhouyuangudehaojihui。lingtingzhangfudemiaoshuheyijian，lejietaxinlidexuqiuhecunzaidewenti，congergenghaodijiejuezheiyijiongjing。

　　第三步：重建信任，求助

　　chuguihaowuyiwenduiqiziderenkezaochenglejidadeyanlidaji，keshiqizinenggouyuanliangtazhangfubingxiashouzhongjianxinren。zheijiuxuyaolianggerenyiqiqinfen，genjufufuzixunhuoshijishuzhuanyezhidaolaiqieshijiejuefuqizhijiandenanti。yikaozhuanyerenyuanzhuanyezhidao，qizinenggoudongderuhejiejuejingshenshangdegulvyubuan，tongshiweizhangfuchuangzaojihuizhengmingzijigenggaiheyongqi。

　　第四步：重新思考婚姻生活，保护自己

　　qizidangmianduizhangfuchuguizhihou，yingdangzhongxinsikaohunyinshenghuodezhuangkuanghejianglai。takendingduizuorendedixianzunxunyuanzeyouqingxiderenzhi，busuibianrangbuziyidezunyanliyi。jiaruhunyinshenghuowufamibu，qizikeyikaolvxuehuisikaozhidingzishenjuece。tayaodongdebaohuziji，bulunshizaicaifuziyouhuoshizaifalvshangxunzhaoshiyidequebao。

　　第五步：重视自我提升，复建幸福快乐

　　buguanhunyinshenghuozuihouhequhecong，qizidouyingziwozhongxin，zhongshibenshendefazhanhemeihao。zheiyeshiqizizouchuyinying、yingjiexinshenghuodeguanjiansuozai。tanengtongguozhiyeshengyafazhan、xuexijineng、fazhanxingquaihaodengxingshichongshiziwo，weiyihoudiandingjichu。

　　汇总：

　　nanrenzaiwaimianchuguilaopoyinggaizenmeban，nanrenzaiwaibianchuguishiyizhongrangrenbeishangdekeguanshishi，keshiqiziyingdangyonggandemiandui，erqiecaiyongjijizhudongdexingwei。baochilengjing、zhenchenggoutongjiaoliu、zhongjianxinren、baohuziji、guanzhuziwofazhan，zheidoushiqizijiejuezheigejiongjingdeguanjianyinsu。buguanzuihoudejieguozenyang，qizixuyaoyizijideaiqingweichufadian，jizijiyujiatingxunzhaoyigegengmeihaodemingtian。