童年阴影对女人一生的影响

我 19 岁，普本大一学生。我的问题是如何克服原生家庭给自己带来的自卑呢？我很小的时候我的父母就不会给我鼓励，再加上小时候不那么优秀，我的母亲经常在别人面前说我不好，甚至在我的小伙伴面前数落我讽刺我。

 woshizhongjidexiaoxuedeshihouwogugusonglewoyishuangxiaopixiewotaixihuanle，danshiwomashuowokaodehaojiujiwochuan，jieguowomeikaohaotabaxiesongayidenver。wozhendehennanguo，shenzhixiangquayijiabatatouhuilai。wocongneixinjiujuedezijiburubieren，yizhiyuwohoulaiyizhihenbuzixin，shifenfangbukai，keyisuinianlingzengzhangwaijiashangzhangxianghaisuanguodequyoubushaorenkua，nengliyehaixing。manmanhaoyixiedanshiwoneixinhaishihenbuzixinde。

 qicishiwofumujingchangchaojia，weiyixiexiaoshihuozhejialideshi。zhiqianjiniantamendachaodanaohenkongbu，woneixinhenkongjuyehenkangju。tebieshixianzaitamenchaojia，wobuzhidaozenmequan，zhixiangduoqilai。wobabahenxiaoqiaishengmenqi，womaxinggebaozaobushoukongzhichaojiashuaidongxishenzhishanghaiziji。suiranwojuedewobabazuoweiyigezhangfukenengzuodebuhao，danshitaduiwohaishihenhaode，zuoweifuqintazuodehenhao。tamenchaojiawohuibuzijuebangwoba，kenengwoyebudui。

 woxianzaihenanpengyouzaiyiqiyoudianrongyishengqiaibijiao，erqiebuaigoutong，wohendanxinzijihuibianchengwobamabuhaodeyangzi。nishuolianrenshiyimianjingzi，wojuedewonanpengyouyeyouxiebianhua。woshenzhizijizheiyangxiaqubuhao，huikeyikongzhiziji，rangzijihuanzhongfangshisikao，danshihaishihennan，wobuzhidaogaizenmeban，woxianggaibian。wozaixuexiaodeshihouhenxianghuijia，daojialiyayideqifenyourangwohenxiangtaoli。

冷爱的回复：

 nidetongnianqueshiguodehenkunnan。wowanquankeyilijieniyouyishuanghenxihuandexie，danshinimamaqueyinweinimeikaohaobatasongjilebieren，zhihounishenzhixiangyaobatatouhuilai。qishizheishuangxiejiushinitongnianjudadeyinyu，niyizhixiangtouhuinishiqudetongnian，touhuiyuanbenshuyunidelaizijiatingdeguanai，suoyiwowanquannenggoulijienidetongku。danshiwoyaogaosuniyigehaoxiaoxi，nixianzaicaishijiusui，caishangdayi，jiunenggouqingxirenshidaozheiyiqie，niyijingfeichanglebuqi，woxiangxinniwanquankeyichengweiyigegenghaoderen，kongzhihaozijideqingxu。

 nishuonibabazuoweiyigefuqinzuodehenhao，tamenchaojianihuibuzijuedibangta，renyudaomaodundeshihoukendinghuiqubangzhuneixieyuzijiqinjinderen，zheishishuzhengchang，yemeiyourenhewenti，nimamahuishanghaizijikenengshitadecuo。nijierutamendemaodunguranshibuduide，danshinidezheizhongbiaoxianshihenzhengchangde。wodejianyishi，nikeyishaogenzijideyuanshengjiatingjiechu，rangtamenzijiquchulizijideshiqing，niduohuadianshijianzaixuexiao，duohuadianshijianzaiziwotishengshangmian。

 keyishuo，xianzaihenduodayidexueshenghaimeiyounanpengyou，haishigedanshengouni，haodainiyougenanpengyou，zheiyesuanbucuodele。aishiyizhongxuyaoxuexidenengli，taxuyaoyigeguochengquchengzhang，nixianzaibuaigoutongbudaibiaoniweilaijiubuaigoutong，zheishixuyaoshijiande。ganxienijizhuwocengjingshuodehua“lianrenxiangyimianjingzi”。henhao，zhishaoxianzainiconglimianzhaojianleniziji。

 nikeyiqiyongyigezhuanyongdebijiben，bazijimeiyitiandesikaoheqingxushangyixiedebodong，youqishigenzijidejiatinghegenninanpengyouzhijiandeguanxidaijinidesikao，doujiluxialai。

 nixianzaizhengzaidudaxue，jingjishangyebuyidingfeichangkuanyu，danshiwoxiangxinxiangdushuzheiyileihuafeibijiaodideshiqinghaishifeichangshihenizaizheigejieduanqujinxingde。anzhaowoguoquliechudeshudanyijipingchangtuijiandeshu，jinkenengduoduyixieshuba，yinweiniyouhenduoshijian。yonghuafeibijiaodidefangshiquziwotisheng、renzhensikao，woxiangxinnimeiduyibenshudouhuidedaoyixiexindedongxi，ranhouzaishenghuodangzhongmanmanqutihuita，quziwotisheng。zaizheimenianqingdeshihoujiunengyouzheiyangdejuecha，niyidingkeyizuodaobingqiehuoquzhenzhengdexingfude。

 xianzai，shijianjiushinideziyuan。zhuyi，nianqingdeshihouyidinghuifancuo，danshiqianwanbuyaorangzijifanrenhewufawanhuidecuo。yidingyaozhuyibiyun，zheishizhende，biedeshiqinganzhaowoganggangshuodefangshiquzuojiuhaole。jiayouba，meishaonv。