如何正确定位“高攀”这件事

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为何出现这样的案例时，总会被被定位为女方高攀了男方呢，女方不是已经付出了比美女们得到的物质资源少、需自己付出一定物质的代价了么，一个没钱的男人即使长相不错也不算条件好啊，说高攀的话，不就是肯定了不属于雄性竞争因素的外貌的地位了么，感觉处在这样关系中的女方也是很委屈，比美女们生活上物质上辛苦却还可能是高攀了男方。我的看法是不是有偏差啊花镇，还望花镇解惑，谢谢啦，么么 ~

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