夫妻之间吵架冷战？4个妙招教你打破这个僵局

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-01-寻找大家相互的事儿做为谈论话题

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-02-学好倾听，细心听另一方把话讲完

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-03-学好交往的方法，操纵好心态

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-04-明白用語言去解决怒气

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结束语：

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