分手了心里难受怎么办？分手了还爱着他怎么办？

 fenshoulexinlinanshouzenmeban？fenshoulehaiaizhetazenmeban？meiyigerendoushiyoupengdaofenshouhouhuoshikunnandeqingkuangxia，zheibingbukongbu,kongbudeshi,youderenyouyuyishicuobai，ercihouyijuebuzhen。

一、认清客观事实，释放压力。

 style="text-indent: 2em;">fenshoulexinlinanshouzenmeban？ruguonifenshouhoudeqingkuangxia，yingdangbaozhengbaochiqingxing，qianwanbieganshenmechunshi。nixuyaorenqingnimenzaoyifenshoudekeguanshishi。fenshoumeiyoushenmelebuqide，quanshijiejuedabufenrendoujingliguofenshou，zheishiyigehenguangfandebeicanzaoyu。renshengzaishizaishijieshang，zongshihuipengdaoxuduobushunxindeshier，womenyaoxuezhekankaiyidian。

 ninenggenjuyixiliededujialvyou、juhuihuodongdengzhutihuodongbaxinlingshenchuyayigandenaonuyuyoushangdexintaichangkuaidixuanxiechuqu。ruguonijiangtamenzangyuzaixinli，bianhuiduinidezuoyehexuexipeixunzaochengxuduoxiaochendeyaosu。yincihuoshizhenfenqilaiba，renshengrubaijuguoxi，chukaitanlianai，yeyouxuduoyouqudeshiwudengniqutansuoyufaxian。

二、更不必自取其辱。

 youyubingbingbushifenshouhouzhuyaobiaoxiandeyuenanguoyuetongchu，jiuyiweizheniaidezhen、aideshen。bieshale，zheiqueshizhengshibushangnaxie，doumeiyousheihuixiaizheizhongdezhengshi。quanshidarenle，henduodongxidounenggoudandudebianbie。yincinigengxuyaoxuehaoguanlizishendexintai，bubizuojiduanhuadeshi，yebunengyizhichenjinzaitongchuzhongyingxiangdaozishendezuoyehechangguiderichangshenghuo。erdangniyaoxiangyuqiannanyouzaixuqingyuandehua，neiyangdeqingkuangkendingshibulinide。

 youyujinyoulizhierbaochiqingxingdesisuo，caikeyixiangqingxinimenqingganzhongdedequequecunyoudegezhonggeyangbuquedingxingdenanti，hezaochengfenshoudezhenzhengdeyuangu。danshijishangshi，henduorenyinweijingchangxingdebulizhi，yizhijiandanzhijiedezuochuzhuduogerenxingweihejuece，liru“shanchuweixin、jiaruheimingdandianhua、lingjiexinhuan、shiquziwo”zheixie。wushushilizhengshi，rendaobulizhixiazuodesuoyoujuecedaduoshushicuode，huoshiyuzishendemudeshijieranbutongde。

 yiner，shilianhouyaoxiangfuhe，baochilengjingkanqilaizhiguanzhongyao。ciwai，“caozongxuqiugan”zheiyidianyeburonghushi。changchangyouxierenfenshouhoujilingyifangfaxinxi，yitiandaowanquanshi“shiquleni，wohaiwobuxianghuole”“nibuzai，worenweirenshenghaowujiazhi”“nimeijiuzaiwoshenbian，wodeshijieshouyouyuelaiyuehaoandan”zheixie。zheijiushitaiguodeluoludexuqiugandefanying，chukailingrendichuzhiwai，meiyouqitayichu。

 shidangdebiaoshizishendeaibingmeiyoucuo，danjuebushiyizheileiyudiao。zhishiyaokeyizaochenglingyifangqinggangongmingdedongxi，lirunimenliangrenyiqidegerenaihao，zaiyiqidezhuiyi，neiyangnenggouhuanqilingyifangxinliduinimenqinggandelianlianbushe，yekeyitishengnimendehuatitaolun。

三、提高自己

 zheiyidianhenyoukenengnanyi，youyurendaoerrumuranchanshengdedongxiyishibanhuihenyoukenengmeifagaibian，danruguoziyixiangyaoquzuo，zongqiangguonishenmeshidoubuzuo。tangruonishenmeshidoubuzuojiulijiquwanliu，henyoukenenghuiqudechenggong，danzhibuguoyouzaizoulaolu。zenmewanhuinanpengyou？rutongqianbianyouyigekeng，niyibuxiaoxindiaorule，shuaidequanshenshini，qianxinwankuzhengtuochulai，molemoni，youwusuogujidexiangqianzoule。

 guoqulemeiduojiu，niyoujingguozhei，“guangdang”yixia，youdiaojinnitanle，zheicinitanyeyoushui，zhinenggaodezishengengweilangbeibukan。zaiganqingliyiyangzheiban，jiaruliangrencunzaidebuzumeiyouchulijiufuhe，neijiushizaiweixiayicifenshoudetongchujiashangdiaoliaoeryi，xiayicizhinenggengtong。