搭讪的法则

 nizhidaoneizhongganjue。nizaijiubahuojulebu，shenzhizhishizouzaijieshang，dangnikandaoderangnijingyandenvzi。takenengfeichangmeili，huozhetadexiaorongrangnihenxiangrenshita，dashanmeinv。danshi，dangnijiejinta，nijinzhangle。niwanglegaishuoshenme，kaishinannanziyu，dashanbiandebukeneng，zaijiduanqingkuangxia，shenzhikenengwangjilezijidemingzi。ruguonixiangzhidaoruhegennvshengdashan，jiuxiangdashandashixuexierbuganjuejinzhanghuohaixiu，zhiyaoanzhaozheixiedashandefazejiandandebuzhou。

搭讪的法则方法1下定决心接近

 zhidaoshenmeshihougaijiejin。zhuidaonvshengdediyibujiushizhaodaoheshidenvsheng。niyinggaizhaoyigekanqilaizhunbeihaorenshixinrendenvsheng，wulunshiyinweitayanjuanlemuqiandetongban，huozhejinjinshiyinweitaxiangchuquxunzhaoyixielequ。suirannibunengzongshifenbiantashifouxiangyaoxindetongban，dantaruoshiyuekaifang，nijiuyueyoukenengchenggong。yixiashiyixieniyinggaijiejintadeanshi：

 xianran，ruguotazaidaliangni。ruguotakanzhenibuzhiyici，shenzhidangnimenyanshenjiechudeshihouweixiao，neimetajiushizaidaliangni。ruguotadepengyoumendoukanzhenixiao，neimeta——huozhezhishaoshitadeyigepengyou——zaidaliangni。zhunbeihaozouguoquba。

 ruguotakanqilaiwuliaohuozheduitadetongbangandaobuyue。yexutazaigennvyouliaotiandeshihoufanfudahaqian，buduanduineiyibanggentayiqilaidechaonaodenanrenfanbaiyan。laiba，chuanzheshanliangkuijiadeqishi——zheishinifeiguoquzhengjiutadejihui。ruguonikandaodeqingkuangzhengque，neimetahuixihuanzheizhongbianhuajiezoude。

 ruguotazaiyuehui，buyaozouguoqu，chufeizheigeyuehuihenmingxianbingbushunli。ruguotagentadenanrenyiduchunchixiangyi，guoduanzoukai。danshi，ruguokantadeyangzixiangshidiyiciyuehui，erqieganjuetafeichangwuliao，huozhegentazaiyiqidenanrenyizhizaikanzijideshouji，ruguonigoudadan，zaitachuqudeshihou，keyizouxiangta。

 ruguotagennvyoureqingxiangju，buyaoqujiejin。ruguotagenyidaqunnvshengzaiyiqi，neishiyihuishi，danruguotazhigenyiweipengyouyiqi，zhengzaijinxingkuaisuerjiliedetanlun，douchaoguoyigexiaoshileyemeikanyiyanzhouweideren，neimetakenenghenmangzhegenpengyoutanlunjinqifashengdeshi。

2dashandashizixinmanmanjiejinta。

 yidannizhaodaolemubiao，nixuyaorangtazhidaoniduizijiyouxinxin，nixihuannizhengzaizuodeshiqing，nihenxiangrenshita，danjishitajujueleniyemeishenmedabule。jizhu，daduoshunvshengzaiqian15fenzhongdetanhuazhongjiuzhidaozijixiangbuxianggennihuijia，yinci，haohaozhenxinideshijian。zheilishiruhezuodaozheiyidian：

 yanshenjiechu。shouxian，congwuzidelingyibiangentayanshenjiechu。ranhou，quebaonilaidaotagenqiandeshihou，jiangmuguangsuodingzaitashenshang。nibubibiaoxiandetailingrenmaogusongran，danniyinggaibiaomingninenggouhenzizaikanzhetadeyanjing，erbushizhidingzhedibanhuonidejiao。

 weixiao。weixiaonengbiaoxiannidedanding，shuomingnibujinzhang。jizhu：nihenmanyiziji，yinci，jishitajujueleni，niyehuiangshoutingxiongzoukai。

buyaomeijingdacai，buyaobaobei。fangkainideshenti——shenmeshidouyoukenengfasheng。

 jitaniquanbudezhuyili。buyaotaikaojinta，shentiqingxiangta，buyaofenshen，buyaomeiwumiaozhongjiukanyixiashouji——huozhewanquanbuyaokanshouji。

 zixinmanmandeyibufenjiushidetideyizhe。nibuyidingyaochuanangguideyifu，danyizheyidingyaoheshendeti，rangrenjuedenizaoshangjiuxiguozaole。

3好的开场白。

 yidannijiejinyiweinvsheng，nibixuquebaonishuoleshihedehua，yinqiletadexingqu。ruguoniyikaishijiuzhancuolejiao，jiukenengnanyiwanhui。yinci，niyinggaijinliangjitaliuxiahaoyinxiang。zheilishiruhezuodaozheiyidian：

 fangsong。ruguonizaitashenbianwufafangsong，tamashangjiuhuizhidao，haihuiyuanlini。tixingziji，zuizaogaodeshiqingbuguoshitadejujue。nandaohuisidiaoma?

 buyaoshiyongdashanshuyu。chufeinijuedetayouhenyuchundeyoumogan，fouzebuyaoyongneixiesuqidedashanshuyu，biru，“nikendingleile，yinweinizhenggewanshangdouzhanjuzhewodesixiang。”nvshengbuxihuanniquefachuangxinjingshen。

 qingchurangtazhidaonizaigentadashan。suirannikenengxuyaoxiyintadepengyou，yinweitamendezantongduitalaishuohenzhongyao，danniyeyinggaiqingchurangtazhidaonixiangyaoxiyintadezhuyili，erbushixiangbiedenanrenyiyang，zoudaobagenvshengmianqian，zhixiwangqizhongrenheyigexihuanta(jishizheijiushinidemude，yebiezheiyang)。

 zhijie。zhijiandanshuo，“wonengjiarunimenma?”huozhe，ruguotakanqilaihenwuliao，erniyouleyongqi，keyizhishuo，“niyuanyiguolaigenwozuozaiyikuaima?woxiangqingnihebeidongxi。”

ziwojieshao。gaosutanidemingzi，ruguonixiangyaoxiandekeaierzhengshi，yekeyigentawoshou。

搭讪的法则方法2

 rangtaganjuezijishishijieshangzuibangdenvsheng。rangwomenmianduixianshi。suoyounvshengdouxiangjuedezijishiteshude。buyaozhicusudishuotahenpiaoliang。xiangfande，rangtazhidaonijuedetaduyiwuer，erqieyaorangtaxinfu。yixiashiruhezuodaozheiyidian：

 tichugentayouguandewenti。buyaocitanhuozhexunwenyinsi。zhiwenjigegentaxiangguandewenti，birutaxihuanzuoshenme，tashifouxihuantadelinju，shenzhishitazuixihuandeqiuduihuodianshiju。niyebuxiwanglikaizhishi，tazaixiang，“wa，tayidiandoubulejiewo。henmingxiantagenwoshuohuazhishiyinweiwodewaibiao。”

 xunwentadeguandian。rangtazhidaonizhongshitadeguandian。wentayixieqingsongdewenti，birutajuedejiubadejiweijiuzenmeyang，shenzhishiwentashifouxihuannidexinxiezi。

 buyaohaipagentabaoyuan，jishinijuedetayijingtingshuoguo。ruguotapiaoliang，youquhuozheyouyoumogan，gaosuta。ruguonixiandesuiyierzhencheng，jiubuhuijitataidayalile。

 dashandashimizhuta。gennvshengdashandeguanjianbujinzaiyurangtaxihuangennitanhua，haiyaorangtajuede，“hei，zheizhenshitaihaole——wohaixiangyaogengduo。”tabuyinggaizhijuedenishijiubaligentashuohuadeyouqunanren，haiyaorangtaxiangyaozaiqitagonggongchangheshangzaijiandaoni。zheilishiruhezuodaozheiyidian：

 jitakandao，shishenmerangniyuzhongbutong。buyaoxuanyao，ershigaosutazhishaoliangsangehuirangtaxiangyaolejienidedongxi。nizaizixueriyu?zailiyuereneilumotuochelvxingleyinian?ku。zhishibuyaoshuohuang。

 xunzhaonimendegongtongdian。xunzhaonimengongtongdedifang，wulunshinimenreaidedaxuelanqiuhuomoxigeshiwu，nidoukeyitanlun。buyaorangtajuede，“woxihuanhezheijiahuoshuohua，danwoburenweihuiyoushenmefazhan，yinweiwomenmeiyourenhegongtongzhichu。”

 gaosutayixieyouqudeshiqing。zhanshijitakan，nishiyigekanbaozhidenanren，zhidaoshijiezhengzaifashengshenmeshiqing。danbuyaokuzao，suiyigaosutayixiezuijinxiyinnideshiqing。

 zuoniziji——zaimouzhongchengdushang。zheiyiweizhe，niyinggairangtazhidaonizhenzhengdemianmu，erbushidaishangxujiademianju，danshi，niyeyinggaidanhuanigexingzhongbijiaodutededifang，zhidaotagenghaodilejieleni，fouzetakenenghuibeinihedao。zheilishiruhezuodaozheiyidian：

 buyaozhuangqiangzuoshi。buyaobazijijiazhuangchenghenshounvshenghuanyingdenanren。rangtakandaonikudeyimian，erqierangtazhidaonixiangyaorenshita。buyaotanlunnishenghuozhongsuoyoudenvhai，fouzetahuixiang，neimeweishenmetayaogenwoshuohuani?

 zhanshiziji。gaosutanidexingqu、zhoumonizuoleshenme，huotiqinigenhaoyoudemeihaotahuohuzhilv。tayinggaiyaoyouyizhongyishi，zhidaozheigegentadashandenanrenshishei。

 jizhu，nibushiyunidexiongdiyiqi。suiranzhihoutanengzhenzhenglejieni，danbieshuocusudexiaohua，fouzegushikenengyiyijuzhibaidejujuejieshu。

 yongnideyoumoxiyinta。nvshengxihuankeyirangtamenxiaodenanren，tebieshiruguotamenkeyihaobufeilijiuzuodaozheiyidian。niyinggairangtazhidaonihenyouqu，erqiekeyigenshangtadesiwei。buyaorangtajuedenizaifeichangnulidishitudoutaxiao，tazhihuiweinigandaonanguode。zheilishiruhezuodaozheiyidian：

 huidahuixiexixuedehua。ruguotashuodaoyixieyouqudeshi，buyaozhishishuo，“zheitaiyouqule”，huozhezhishixiao，danbujihuiying。xiangfan，niyinggaihuidatongyangyouqudedongxi，yixianshininenggenshangtadesiwei。

 qingweidetiaodou。ruguonidefangfazhengque，nvshenghuixihuannitiaodoutamen。keyiquxiaotashuodedongxi，huoquxiaotaneidutedexiaosheng。zheijiangrangnimendeguanxigengjiayouqu。

kaizijidewanxiao。buyaozichao，danyerangtazhidaonimeiyoutaibazijidanghuishi，ninengkaizijidewanxiao。

搭讪的法则方法3优雅离开

 zhidaoshenmeshihounibubeihuanying。youyalikaideyibufenjiushimingbainibubeibierenxuyao。zheikenengshiyouyuduozhongyuanyin。yexunvhaizhishibuxihuanni。zheimeiguanxi。yexutayounanpengyou，buxiwanglangfeinideshijian。yexutazhishixianghuashijianyutadenvyouxiangju。buguanshenmeyuanyin，yidannijuedeshishihoulikaile，jiuzouba。

ruguotanhuawanquanwuqule，tayizhizaikantadeshouji，huobuduanhuangusizhou，shishihoulikaile。

ruguotadepengyoukaishiduinifanbaiyanhuohushini，shishihoulikaile。

 dangnizhidaogaizoudeshihou，qianwanbuyaojinyiburangzijinankan，shuo，“ng，kanqilainibuganxingqu”huo“henbaoqiandaraoni。”zhijiandanshuo，“hei，genniliaotianzhenhao，zaijian。”

weixiaozhezoukai，jishinihenshiwang。

 danshi，ruguotayizhizaixiao、gennibaochimuguangjiechu、wanzijidetoufa，kanqilaisihugennijiaotanhenyukuai，erqiekeqiugengduo，neimeshishihoutachuxiayibule。

 ruguoyiqieshunli，jiujixuxiayibu。ruguonimenzaitanhuazhongzhendeyipaijihe，tahenxianranxihuanni，neimeshishihoudakaiquekou，kankannimendeguanxihuizouxiangnali。nizaishitugentadashan，duiba?suoyi，nihaidengshenmeni?

 ruguonizaijiubahuoyezonghui，ershiqingfazhanhenhao，nikeyishuo，“womenqubiedeanjingxiededifangliaoliao，haoma?”huozhe，“womenlikaizheilizenmeyang?”

 ruguonizhidaonvhaixiangjixugennilianxi，dannibuxiangyinweijulierrangtakangju，nikeyiwen，tahetadepengyoumenshifouxiangyaoqujiejiaoyigegenganjingdejiuba，huoyaoqingtaheniyiqiqunipengyoudejuhui。jizhu，taganggangcairenshini，jishitaxihuanni，takenengbuxiwangzaiyigewanshangjiufazhantaikuai。

 ruguonihaimeiyouzhunbeihaoyaoqingtagennihuijia，dashandefazenikeyiwentadedianhuahaoma。buyaojinzhang。zhiyaoshuoqingchunishizhendezaiyaoyueta。shuo，“hei，genniliaotianhenyukuai，wohenxianghenizaihedongxihuozhechifanshizailiaoliao。nengxianjiwonidedianhuahaomama?”