和女生聊天技巧:怎样和女孩聊天找话题

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和女生聊天技巧

一，饰演亲戚朋友

 renmenzaihenvshenggangkaishixianliaodeneishihou，haiyaolijiraokaijiebeixin，qianwanbiequwennvsheng“nijiaoshenme，niduobianda，niyeshiganshenmede?”zheileidelurenhuihuadehuatitaolun。

 youyudangnineiyangzuojiuhuibeinvshengtiedaole1ge“luren”debiaoshi，errenherendebenxingquanshihuiduilurendoushiyouzhongfangyuxin，zheiduirenmenhenvshengxunsushengjiguanlianshihenbuliangyingxiangde。

neimarenmenyingdangzenyangraokaijiebeixinni?

1，学好赞扬

 zheiyizanyangbingbushizheixie“nihaopiaolianga，nihaokeaia，nihaomei”zheileide，youyuyiyangdehuabuqingchuyoushiduoshaonanshengzaoyiduitashuoyiguo，errenmenyuanyizaigangkaishijiudedaonvshengdeqinlai，jiujueduibukeyizuozaiqizhongzhishou。

 haodezanyangjiushishuoshanyufajuetadeguanjiandian，zhaodaotabutongxunchangdediqu，shidezanyangshitajihujiumeiyoujushuoguodezanyang，neimenijiunengqudechenggongdebianchengtadeweiyi。

例如：

 nidexiaoronghaoxiangnengronghuarenhe，buguanyiqianqingxushizaitaidecaogao，yaoshijiandaonidexiaorong，doushijinbuzhudeyuelaiyuekaixinqilai。

nidemeiyizhangtu，doumeidexiangconghualizouchuqudexianzi。

wojuedewobuyingdangzhuanshi，shijianhaishibijiaofengxiande。

nideyizhedabanrangrenjuedeyanchuwutaifan，juedenihenxiangnvmote。

nideduantoufayaowoxiangdaolechujizhongxueshiqi，wozuiaiqiyadenagetongxue，chunchunde。

2，起个绰号

 zhinengpeinitaishudeyouxiurencaihuirangniqiwaihao，neimayiyangdadaoli，rangniqiwaihaoderenshifoujiuxiangdangyujiushinihenzuishuxiderenni?

参考答案是：是的。

youyurendewuyishihuimengpianzishen，yxiangdangyux，neimaxjiushishuoxiangdangyuy。

 ruguonijinvshengqi1gechuohao，1gejihujiumeirenjiaoguotadechuohao，neimenijiunengqudechenggongdezainvshengdewuyishizhongtiedaole“qinqipengyou”debiaoshi。

yexuzaiyihoudexianliaozhongyechixudetidao，neimanideyinxiangjiuhuishenshendideyinjizainvshengdeneineixin。

例如：

zhihouwoyejiaonixiaojiaozha，zongshineimewanpi。

daniangninhao，wojiushidaye。

qizijintianyouwusinianxianggong?

dabendan，kuaijiwogankuaigunquyongcan。

xiaolanzhu，taiyangguangdoushaitunbula，xinglaimeiyou?

 dangniyingyonglezuoyoudefangfayihou，nvshengzaiherenmengangkaishidexianliaozhongjiuhuiyuelaiyuefeichangjiqing，youyuhewonvshengyibushiluren，zhishiqinqipengyou。

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二，由浅入深

 jinguanrenmennenggou baozhenggangkaishijiuraokailejiebeixin，keshirenmenshishishanggennvshengbingbushilejie，neimarenmenyingdangzaidiergehuanjiedeneishihou，qushifangchulainidexinxineirong，jiqibixusoujichunvshengdexinxineirong，neiyangzuo，jiunengtishengnvshengduinideguishugan。

1，简单自我介绍

dangnixiangyaozhidaohuodetarendewupin，neimashidefangshi jiushishuoxianjiyutarenwupin。

 jiandanziwojieshaolibiandoushiyouhengaodedaxuewen，dangniyongchuantongshifangshi quziwojieshao：“woshixx，wojiushizuoxxde，wo2019nianxxsui....”

 neiyangyidianerhanyiyemeiyou，nvshengyebuqingchugaizenyangjienidehua，zhiyouhuiying“e”“ng”zheileidehua，neiyangxianliaojiuwuqule。

ershidezuofajiushishuoxiangxijieshaowanzishendemouxiangtongxinxineirongyihou，jiashangjiju“nilei?”

例如：

woshikuadaqici，nilei?

wojiushizuozimeitipingtaide，nilei?

我还29了，你嘞?

 renmenneiyangdejiandanziwojieshao，jinenggou taochunvshengneilidexinxineirong，haikeyiwomenyiqidehuatitaolunhelidetuokuanxialai。

2，学好意见反馈

 dangniyingyong“nilei?”dejiqiaoqutaochunvshengdexinxineirongyihou，renmenjiubukeyizaicizaiqumingquetichuxiagehuatitaolun，youyuneiyanggenchahukoumeiyoushenmechabie。

 erqiadangdezuofajiushishuoduiyunvshengrangnidecankaodaan，kaizhan1gequweideyijianfankui，neiyangdehuanvshenghuiyuanyigennizaiciliaoxialai，youyuwobukuzao，yegengweixiangyaohuiyingnixiagenanti。

例如：

youerjiaoshi?neibujiunenggou meitiandouqiyaxiaohaizile?

21sui?tashigeheshichuduixiangdenianlinge。

shichangxiaoshou?neimenideyanjiangkoucaihaowuyiwenfeichanghao，zhihoupeinizhengchaohaowuyiwenchaodanshini。

 dangniyunyongzuoyoudejiqiaoquhenvshenghuhuanxinxineirongyihou，bicidoushiduixianghuyougedagaidezhangwo，jinenggou tishengduiyunvshengdeguishugan，haikeyiwomenyiqiduiyunvshengdexinxineirongzuochuxiayijieduandefangshouzhanshu。

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三，妙用使用价值

 kongquewubiyaokaipingnenggouxiyinzhudaoyixingpengyouhetapeizhong，zheiyi“kongquekaiping”dejibenyuanliyingyongzairenmenxiyinzhunvshengshangbiandoushixiangtongdeheli。

 keshixuduodixiongdoushiweifanbuzhengque，huilijigennvshengjiangchutadeshiyongjiazhi，liru：“wohaizaiyijianqiyeshangshizuofuzerende，yiyueshouyiyouqianduo。”

 renweineiyangnenggou xiyinzhudaonvsheng，shijishangtaneiyangzuojiudengyincizaixianbai，erxianbaitongchangdoubukeyixiyinzhudaonvsheng，fandaohuirangrendichu。

neimarenmenyingdangzenyangqiadangdequzhanxianzishendeshiyongjiazhi，quxiyinzhunvsheng，youburongyizaochengnvshengdedichuni?

例如：

manshendoushitou，gangzaijianshenhuisuolianle1gezhongtou。(chuanchunigaoduandaqidejianshenhuisuohuoshiquanshenjirouxiangpian)

doukuaiesi，zheiershangcanruheneimeman。(chuanchunidegaoduandaqidefandianheshicaixiangpian)

wojuedededeyanpizidouhuidajiadouou，haokun。(xiayijuqueshuozaizuo1gejiaoweidadexinxiangmudejihuafangan)

beifaduchedimeixingzile。(fa1gezishenzuozheanquanjiashiweideshijiaopaisheqianbiandeyongduzhuangkuangxiaoshiping)

zheierhaomei。(fayizhangdujialvyoudepiaoliangfengjingdexiangpian)

弟兄们学好了没有?

qiadangdezhanxianshiyongjiazhidefangshi shi：xintai+shiyongjiazhi

 neiyangjinenggou zhanxianlerenmendeshiyongjiazhijinvshengjiandao，yiqiyekeyirangnvshengyouhuakepei，tahuihuiyingnidexintai，youyuzheijiushinijitadelouti。

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四，学好倾听

 shehuixuejiamasiluodexuyaocengcililungaozhirenmen，zhongshiyaoqiu(baohanshourenzhongshihezishenzhongshi)shisuoyourendejichuyaoqiuzhishou。

zaiyurenxiangchuzhong，shuohuazhezongqidaizishendehuanengzaochenglingyifangdexingquaihao、liuyihehaowuyiwen。

 jiarubanishuohuadejiyujinliangdijilingyifang，bingqianxinlingting，yichengxiangdaiditonglingyifanggongxiangyuyue，fentantongchu，biaoshuxinlai，huhuanxinxineirong，jiuhuishilingyifangduinizaochengqinqieganhezhiyugan。

womenzailianaizhongdoushixiangtong，woyiqianshuoguo：huodetadexin，taderentinisuiyina。

 niyuanyihuodetadexin，woyedexuehaoqingting，zhengqueyindaotaxiangniqingtu，qingtingtaneixindeshengyin，shaoshuoduowen，nvxinghuiganjueniyeshigezuigaiqingqingdenansheng。

 youmeiyouganjuenilaomazifeichanglaotao?nvxingma，yaoshinikeyizhengqueyindaotagennikaikou，kaiqitadehuaxiazidianyuankaiguan，tajiunenggentashuogebuduan，ershanyuqingtingderenquanshiqingshanggaoderen。

ruhezhengqueyindaotaxiangniqingtuni?

wofeichangchangjiandejiqiaojiushiyiwomianbutihuidaotade“quanbu”laijinxinghuatitaolun，liru：

 1，“nizheiyanjiemaoshihuadeba，tingpiaoliangde。”suihouwulunmeizhizenmeshuohua，wodoushizhengqueyindaotazaicishuoxialai，“niduicaizhuang/zhengrongshoushu/ptuyounaxieguandian?”yewulunmeizhizenmeshuohua，wodoushiwen“zenmehuishi?”rangtazaicishuoxialai。

 2，“nishenxingtingbangde，pingchangchangyouqujianshenba。”suihouwulunmeizhizenmeshuohua，wodoushizhengqueyindaotazaicishuoxialai，“niduiyundongjianshen/jianfeishoushenyounaxieguandian?”

 3，“nideshengyintingqilaihenwenrou，gechangbixuhenchaohaoting。”wulunmeizhijiangguonaxie，zaicizhengqueyindao，“pingchangxiaitingnaxiedege/changnaxiedege/xiainajiagexing?”suihouzaicizhengqueyindao，“zenmehuishi?”

 4，“jiniyougupingjingdeqichang，yingdangshicongyegongsibangongshizheileidegongzuoba?”wulunyoumeiyoucaidao，wodoushizaicizhengqueyindao“weihecongyezheiyizhizaoxingye/niduiwoxianzaizheiyigongzuozhongyounaxieguandian?/duiweilaiyounaxiezongtimubiao?”

 dixiongmenzhuyineitiaoguanxishi：yi“tihui”jinxinghuatitaolun——daopaquguanjiancituokuan——kaizhankaifangshiwenti——zhengqueyindaomeizhiqingtu

nashangbiandeshililaifenxi：

“nizheiyanjiemaoshihuadeba，tingpiaoliangde。”(jiandaonvshengpiaoliangdeyanjiemao)

 “niduicaizhuang/zhengrongshoushu/ptuyounaxieguandian?”(huayanjiemaozheiyiguanjianzidetuokuanshicaizhuang/zhengrongshoushu/ptuzheixieyounaxieguandianjiushishuo1gechangkaishidenanti)

“younaxieguandian”(kaifangshiwenti)

“zenmehuishi?”(duiyunvshengdedafuzaicizhengqueyindaomeizhishushuo)

huoxu，chukaizuoyoudejiqiao，niyaobiancheng1gelingtingdedashenhaideduoyidianyingyongwoxialiedeyuju：

“然后?”

“tingyouqude，jiexiaquruhele?”

“nizaicishuo，xiangtingzheni”

 yongzheizhongyujuquchixudezhengqueyindaonvshengxiangniqingtu，dangnvshengxiangniqingtudeneishihou，nikeyihuodedediebaoyehuihenduo，duixiangquxiyinzhutayehuishifenyouyi，zhibizhiji，fangkebaizhanbaisheng。

 zunzhaowojiaonidezheizhongjiqiao，jiangxiezhunibianchengyiweiqudechenggongdelingtingzhe，peiyangmeiyicihenvshenggoutongjiaoliudeneishihoubixuyingyongzheizhongbiaozhundexiguanxing，jiangtaneihuazuonidelingtinggongzuonengli，woyehuifajue，nvshengpeinixianliaodeneishihouhuabiandegengjiaduo，duinideyikaoyebianzhong，zuizhongqiaoqiaodebatadexindoudaozoule...

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五，效仿另一方

 shehuixintaixueyouyigechengwei“yushijingzixiaoyong”，guanjianshiyongzaiyurenxiangchu，xiangqujingzilidewodeneishihou，jininaxiedexiaobiaoqing，yushijingzijiuhuixianshixinxichuninaxiedexiaobiaoqing。

 zaiyurenxiangchuzhong，duiyutarenhao，tarenyehuiduirenmenhao，xiangfanduiyutarenbutaihao，tarenyeshidehuiduirenmenbutaihao，renquanshihuxiangde!

yushijingzixiaoyongdejieding：huxiangxiaideliangrenhuizaochengleisidegerenxingwei，youleisigerenxingweideliangrenhuigongshenghaogandu。

1，xiaofangtadeyudiaoyuqi

 suoyourenshuohuachangyoumouxiegudingbudongdexiguanxing，huoshiyoukoutouyu，dangniyechangchangzaitayanqianjiangchutachangshuohuadeyudiaoyuqi，huoshikoutouyu，neitadewuyishijiuhuigaozhita：nijienaletadehexintainianxinxin，hewotashixiangtongzhongren。

lirunvshengchangshuo：xx?zhaobudaode。

nihaikeyilijixiaofangta：yongcan?zhaobudaode，yeyouyiduishiermeijinxing。

2，xiaofangtachangjiandexiaobiaoqing

 xuduonvshengzaixianliaodeneishihoudouxiaifabuqing，ertamenhaowuyiwenhuiyouneimahaoduogexiaobiaoqingshichangchangfade，neimenihaiyaomomodidebazheizhongxiaobiaoqinggerenshouzangqilai，zaizhihouxianliaodeneishihouyechangchangfasongjita。

 yiqianwonadaode1gexiaofujianv，tayongzishenlaizuodongtaibiaoqing，woyelijigerenshouzangleqilai，changchangfanzhefasongjita，tachangchangshuodeyiduanhuajiushishuo：youyongwodebiaoqing。

keshijiushishuowoyezheizhongxiaoxiaozishi，jiutoutoudibatadexindaozoule。

3，xiaofangtadezhitiyuyan

 zheiyijiushishuoyingyongzairenmenhenvshengyouhuideneishihou，tarenhedezhitiyuyan：zuozi，zuozi，xingzoudezitai，lianbuqingxuheshoudezishideng，quanshinenggou xiaofangde。

例如：

 nvshengpeinilingjulierzuo，taqiaoyoutui，woyeqiaozuotui，tayoushoutuoxiahe，woyezuoshoutuoxiahe，tayongzuoshouduanqishuibei，woyeyongyoushouduanqishuibei...

xieshoubingjianerzoudeneishihou，gensuizhitadejiaobu，tamaikaizuojiaowoyemaikaizuojiao，tamaikaiyoujiaowoyemaikaiyoujiao。

tashuohuaxiaizhayan，renmenhaiyaozhayan，waiboziniyewaibozi，taxiaibianshuohuabianbaishoujujue，niyelijixiaofang。

renhedouxiangyushijingzixiangtong，sheidoushixiaizishen，yexudaoyingchuqude，shitademoyang，neimatanengcuowuniqingqingma?

 nikeyirangtaduinizaochenghaogandu，youyunizishizhizhongdoukeyihetalizaixiangtongpindaolanmushang，weichitongpinlvdeqizhi，keyirangdajiaxianghujianchuangjianqichongzuduodeqinjinganhexiangsidu，neimeniliqudechenggongbujiugengjinma?