20-30岁爱情观的成长与转变，30岁的男人的恋爱心理

30suidenanrendelianaixinli，zaizheiyijieduandechengzhangzhong，womenjiangjinglisigegainiandezhuanbian：xunzhaoduixiangdegainianzhuanbian、zeoutiaojiandezhuanbian、aiyubeiaidegainianzhuanbian、aiyuhunyingainiandezhuanbian。houlianggebianhuayuanyuxiangchuqi，yeshiaiqingguanchengshudebiaozhi。

寻找对象的观念转变

xunzhaoduixianggainiandezhuanbianzhuyaotixianzaicongpaichixiangqindaojieshouxiangqin，zaidaozhudongxiangqin。zheizhongguanniandezhuanbianbujinshijieshouxiangqin，erqieshicongbeidongdengdaizhuanbianweizhudonggongji。ruguonimeiyouzheizhongzhuanbian，neijiuyiweizhenihaimeiyouzaidanshendedaolushangchengzhang。

wozheilishuodexiangqinzhishiweilebianyidelijie，yonglaijulishuoming，bingbushishuomeiyouxiangqinjiubunengyouzheizhongzhuanbian，buyaowujie，zheizhongzhuanbianbingbujuxianyuxiangqin。

ruguonijixuzheiyangxiaqu，zheijiekezhinengjishijian。shishishang，daijiashijudade。ruguonibugaibian，nihuibeidongdidengdaibeipogaibian。jianyanzhi，nibixucongbeidongzouxiangzhudong。zheizhishishijianwenti。neixietaobiderenzhengzaitaobishenghuo。

ruguonizai25-30suideshihoutaopao，dangni35suideshihouhuitoukan，taopaojiejuebulerenhewenti，zhihuirangnifuchugengduodeqingchundaijia，daozhizheimenbixiukehaishiyoueryuanshuiping，haishizaodianxinglaibijiaohao。

改变择偶条件

zheizhongzhuanbianshiyigeguocheng，congmeiyouyaoqiu，daohenduoyaoqiu，zaidaohenshaoyaoqiu，zhiyouzainizhudongzhihou，nicaihuifaxianmeiyouyaoqiushibuxingde，yaoqiutaiduoyebuxing。

yikaishinikenengmeiyoushenmeyaoqiu，danshifaxianrenshiderenhezijidezhenshixiangfataibuyiyangle，suoyiniyongzijideyaoqiulaizuzhizheixiebuxihuanderen。

raner，youyuzeoushiyigeshuangxiangtiaojiandewenti，nishedingdezeoutiaojiankenengyijingpaichulezhongguosuoyoudeyixinglianzhe，zheishihaowuyiyide。yinci，zaizheigejieduan，nikenenghuiyudaoyixieganjuelianghaoderen，dannibeinideyaoqiuhepaole，suoyinizhaobudaofuhenitiaojianderen。

zuihou，nitongguoshijianheshenrusikaodechujielun，shedingjiaoshaodeyaoqiu，zhishiweilexiaochuneixiejueduibujieshouderen，bimianlangfeishijian。

ruguonizaizeoutiaojianshangmeiyouzuochurenhediaozheng，niyinggaikaolvzheixietiaojianshiweilemanzunidexuyao，yijitamenshifouruciyoujiazhi，yizhiyunibuyuanyifangqi，xuyaorenzhenduidai。

liru，niliechulenisuoyoudetiaojian。ruguonizhixuanze3-5getiaojian，nihuixuanzenayige，ranhoubatazuoweinidezeoubiaozhun，bingzunxunshangmianbukenengdesanjiaoxing。liru，nanhaitongchangxuanze：xingge+waibiao，fangqiwuzhitiaojian。

suoyiyaoqiu:shanliang，leguan，yanzhi6-8fen，shengaohenianlingpipei，zheishiyigexiangduijiandandeyaoqiu。dangrankeyigaibian，yekeyishenrusikaoweishenmeyaoxuanzezheiyangdeyaoqiu。

dangniyizheizhongfangshishezhitiaojianshi，nihuifaxianzhaodaoyigeduixiangbingbukunnan，yinweihenrongyizhaodaoyigefuhezheixietiaojianderen，nikeyikaishijiaotan。houlai，nibixugenjushijijingyanzongjiehesikaonishifouxiangzhaodaofuhezheixieyaoqiuderen。ruguomeiyou，niyinggaikaolvruhediaozhengyixiayaoqiu。

如何调整择偶要求？

liru，ruguonizhaobudaoshangshuyaoqiudeduixiang，nihuifaxianniyizhiguanxindeshinideshengaohenianling。ranhounikeyiwenziji，niweishenmezheimezaihunideshengao？taduiniyoushenmeyingxiang？nimenlianggezhanzaiyiqihuibupipei，haishidanxinbunengqinwennidezui？haishinihaipanidehaizitaiai？

neigenianlingni？kaolvyixiasheihuixianzou？haishishengyuyouwenti？nianlingganchanshengdedaigou？jingtaiduo？zheixiebeihoudeyingxiangshishenme？zixixiangxiang，zaizuoyigebijiao。

zuihou，wenwenzijiyigewenti。ruguonixiangzainianlingheshengaoshangfangqiyige，nihuifangqishenme？fangqihouninengdedaoshenme？zaishenmetiaojianxia，niyuanyijieshoufangqihoudeaiqingjieguo？

改变爱和被爱的概念

dangwomentanlunyigeduixiangfenshoushi，nihuifaxianyouyigeguanyuaihebeiaidewenti。sheizaitanlunduixiangzhiqianzhuizhushei，sheizaifenshoushibuaishei？haiyouyixiejiexianfeichangmohu。zheibingbuzhongyao。zhongyaodeshizheiduanjingliduiwomendeaiqingguanyouyingxiang。

zheizhongyingxiangshiaihebeiaidewenti。yourenshuo，zaiyiciaiqingjinglizhong，nizaixunzhaoyigeniaideren，dannishibaile，yinweiduifangbugouaini。ruguonixiangzaijianglaizhaodaoyigeainideren，ainiderenhuishuo，taxunzhaodeshiyigeaizijideren，danshiyinweizijibuai，xiangchuqilaihentongku，suoyiyaozhaoyigezijiaideren。

youxierenhaizaiwangshangzixunzheiliangzhongguandian。tamenwenyigetamenaiderenheyigeaitamenderenruhexuanze？shishishang，genghaodedaandangranshizhaodaoyigebicixihuanderen。

danshi，ruguotiaojianbuchengshu，zhiyounixihuanderenhexihuanniderenbixuxuanze，nibixuwenzijiyigewenti。tanlunzheizhongguanxidemudeshishenme？shidanshenma？ruguoshizheiyangdehua，worenweizaizheilianggerenzhong，zuihaoxuanzeyigexihuanzijideren。

yuanyinhenjiandan，yinweizhudongquanzainishouli，duifangxihuanziji，suoyizhiyaonijieshoutanikeyiquxiaodingdan。duiyuyigebuxihuannideren，nixihuan。ta，zuihoudejuedingshizaitazaishouzhong，nichuyubeidongzhuangtai，wufacujinguanxihuoguoyukunnan。

haiyouyigewentiyunanrenhenvrendexingbiehegexingyouguan。yibanlaishuo，nvhaiyinggaixuanzexihuanzijideren，yinweitamenxihuanbeidong，ernanhaigengxihuanzhudong，danyixienvhaixihuanzhudong。ruguonvhaishineizhonghuoyuederen，tamenyekeyizhaodaotamenxihuanderen。

jiarumeiyou，neimenixihuanyigenanhai，buganzhuiqiu，huozheyindaotaquzhuiqiuni，neimenijiuhentongku。

ruguonixiangzhuiruaihe，aishangyigenixihuanderen，nikeyishifangdaliangdeduobaanheqitawuzhi。nikeyihenixihuanderenyiqitiyanxingfenhekuailedeganjue，suoyinidetiyanhuihenhao。tongshi，niyehuizhidaoniduiniaiderenyouduohao，nihuifaxianzijideyixiequedian，dannibuhuihenibuxihuanderenyouzheizhongganjuehexingwei。

zheiliangzhongfangshicunzaizheaidebupingdeng，yincizheizhongbupingdenghenkenengzaiweilaiyizhicunzai。ruguozheizhongbupingdengnengrangaideyifangganjuedao，aiderenhuiyizhiai，zuizhongbianchengbuai。zheiyang，maodunjiuchanshengle。zuihou，zheiwangwangshifenshoudejieshu，suoyizheizhongdanfangmiandeaihebeiaibushihejiehun。

lingwailiangzhongkenengxing，yizhongshiliangzhongganzheizhongganjuekeyimanzu，yizhongshilianggerenzhishiganjuehenhao，buxihuanduifang，danhoulaibicixihuan，suoyiwomenyinggaizhuiqiuzheiliangzhongganjue。

lingyizhongganjueshitongguoxiangqinrenshide。lianggejiatinghelianggerendejibentiaojiandoushiheshide，dantamenjiushibutaixihuan。zaizheizhongqingkuangxia，wojuedehenmafan。weilejianlishenhoudeqinggan，kenengxuyaoxingchenglianghaodegoutongmoshi。fouze，wobuzhidaoruhezaimeiyouqingganjichudeqingkuangxiaweichizhangqiguanxi。

yinci，zheizhongzhuanbianshiyigecongaihebeiaidaoshihezaidaoxianghuxihuanheshihedeguocheng，yejiushishuo，danfangmiandeaiqing，hunyinshizhanbuzhujiaode，shihelianggerendehunyinkeyidanbulixiang，congshihewennuanganqingdaoaiqingdehunyincaisuanhao。

danfangmiandeaiqingzhishiheaiqing，shuangfangdeaiqingcaishihejiehun，zheiyinggaishihunyindejibenyuanze。

 30suidenanrendelianaixinli，zhiyouzaiwomenaishangyigerenhuobeiaizhihou，womencaihuifaxianniaiderenhuibianchengnibuaideren，ernibuaiderenkenenghuibianchengniaideren。nihuifaxianzheigeaihaohenfuqian，danzheishiyizhongchengzhangjingli，womenduiaiqingyoulegengshendelijie。

dangniyishidaozheiyidianshi，nihuijuedeaisihubuneimezhongyao，yinweitahuihenduan，huixiaoshi，tazhijiwomenyizhongchongdong，qiyudeshisuosuide，ranhouwomenxuyaojixubaochiyizhongzerengan，zerenhewusidefengxian，suoyizuizhongdexinggeshifeichangzhongyaode。

爱情和婚姻观念的转变

zheizhongzhuanbianshi，zaiwomenzhuiruaihehou，womenjiangqufenaiqinghehunyin。aishimanzuwomendeduobaan，tarangwomenkuailehexingfen，hunyinmanzuwomenmanzhangshenghuozhongdegudu、peibanhejiatingguishugan。

meiyouaiqingdehunyin，quefaaiqingdejiqinghexingfu，xiandetebiewuliaoheposui，huozherangrenjuedebuyuanyi，huozheyouxieyihan，meiyouhunyinzhiyouaiqing，huirangshenghuoxiangfupingyiyang，meiyougen，meiyouguishugan。

aiqingdexingfubijingshiduanzande，erwuliaodehunyinzhudingshizhangjiude。ruguomeiyouduanzandexingfu，tayijingjinrulezhangqidewuliao，zheishixiandairenbuxiangyaode，suoyizheijiushiweishenmerenmenbuxihuanxiangqin。

ruguoninengfangqizheiduanzandexingfu，jinruzhangqidewuliao，shishishang，zheishichengshudeaiqingguan，yinweichengshuwangwangwending，hunyinwangwangbiaiqingguanxigengwending。

wulunnizouduoyuan，nizuizhongdouhuihuifuwending。congzhangyuanlaikan，aiqingbingbuneimezhongyao。jianliwendingdejiatingguanxihejiatingguanxishipeibanwomenzoudaoshengmingjintouzuikekaodeqinggan。zheishiwomenzhuiqiudehunyindezuizhongjiazhi。

zuihou，wulunnishifoudedaolenixiangdaodeai，zheidoubuzhongyao，yinweiyouyijuhuakeyikandaorenmenyuwangdezhenxiang：yuwangbunengmanzutongku，manzushiwuliaode，suoyiniyaomeyinweidebudaoertongku，yaomeyinweidedaoerwuliao。

jiranshenghuobushitongkujiushiwuliao，neiwojiutangpinglema？

30suidenanrendelianaixinli，zuoweiyigejijileguanderen，wobutichang，wozaifenxiangyijuhua：“shijieshangzhiyouyizhongyingxiongzhuyi，neijiushirenqingshenghuodezhenxianghouyiranreaishenghuo。