50岁男人出轨回归家庭的后遗症，他心理究竟是怎么想的

 50suinanrenchuguihuiguijiatingdehouyizheng，chuguidenanrenxihuandisanzhehaishiqizi？ruguobuaidisanzhe，weishenmeshebudelikai？wenzheigewentiderenbixutianzhendirenweiaishipaitaxingde，renweinanrendeshijiebunengrongrenlianggenvren，renweitayaomeaiqingfu，yaomeaiyuanlaidebanlv。

shishibingfeiruci。renleideqingxubinixiangxiangdeyaofuza。zhenzhengdizhiyouhuohepaitaxingdeshihunyin，erbushiaiqing。

yinci，duiyunanrenlaishuo，aiqingkeyifenweihenduozhong，danqizizhinengyouyizhong。

 dangwozheimeshuodeshihou，henduoqizikenenghuishiwang。zheinandaobuyiweizhenanrenhuidaojiatingzhishiyizhongquanyizhiji，erbushichuyuduiqizideaima？weishenmenvrenyaoyuanliangchuguinanren，rangtazhanbianyi？

 shishishang，aiqingkeyifenweihenduozhong，baokuoduobaandezanshijiqing、ganendezhangqiqinqing、ziliansuotoushedeziai...danshi，ruguonisuoqidaideaiqingduijueduizhongchengyouzheteshudepianhao，neimeyihandeshi，congnanrendejiaodulaikan，wulunshiyuanpeihaishidisanzhedoubushijueduide。

男人爱第三者吗

nanxingduidisanzhedekanfazhuyaofenweiliangzhong：yaomezuoweilinshixiaoqian，yaomezuoweijiumingdaocao。

 danshiwulunnayizhong，nanrenxunzhaodisanfangdeshencengxinlidongjidoushiweilebimianlihun，tongguotaobilaijiejuehunyinzhongmianlindeshijiwenti。

 gengzhijiedishuo，chuguidenanrenbuxianglihun，ruguotamenwufarenshou，tamenzhihuilikai，jishimeiyoudisanfang。yinci，chuguizhishibimianjijichulihunyinwentizuibuguangcaidefangshizhiyi。

nishuo，bayigerendeganqingdangzuogongju，nengsuanaiqingma？

dangran，bukeneng。zheigengxiangshibatadangzuohunyinyouyuzhengdejieyao。

zhengrufuluomuzai《aideyishu》zhongsuoshuo，zhenai：

 “aiqingshiyizhonghuodong，bushifumianqingxu；zheishiyongheng，bushizhuiruaihe。aiqingzhuyaoshifuchuerbushijieshou。chulejiyuyinsu，suoyouxingshideaiwangwangdoubaohanzhegongtongdejibenyaosu:guanxin、zeren、zunzhonghelijie。”

男人对第三者的感情复杂程度能达到以上吗

xianran，zheishibukenengde。shishishang，henduonanrendoumeiyoujingliguozheizhongai，gengbuyongshuoxianjibierenle。

youyunanxingduihunyinqinqingdexuqiuyouliangzhongleixing，jishishizuoweihunyinjieyaodedisanzhe，jieyaohejieyaoyeshibutongde：

①jizhongxing：aiyigeren；

②bijiaoxing：fensan，bijiaoaiqing；

 xianshuo“zhuanxin”zheiyiweizhedangwomenaishangyigerendeshihou，womenzhiaizheigeren。liangxingzhijiandeaiqingdouzaizheigerenshenshang，bierenwufafenxiang。

 biruniaishanglea，ruguoniouranzhuiruaihe，nihuibasuoyoudezhuyiliheganqingdoufangzaiashenshang，b，zheiyangnijiuhuihaowubaoliudibaduiadeganqingquanbuzhuanyidaobshenshang。erqieqianyigeaduinilaishuosihuyijingmeiyoule。

 xuduorencuowudirenweizhiyounvxing“jizhong”，youpianjian。qishishenghuozhongyouhenduonanrenduihunyinheqinqingdeyaoqiushi“jizhong”de。

zheileinanrenzhiyaoheqiziguanxihao，yibanbuhuiqingyichugui，yinweitamentongchangdeqingganmoshishiquanxinquanyididuidaiyigeren。

 raner，yidantamenyuqizideguanxichuxianwenti，biruzhangqizhengchao、lengzhanqijianfuqiguanxiehua，huozheqizishenghaizihouduizijideguanzhudujijuxiajiang，daozhifuqizhijiandegoutongjianshao，ganqingjianruo...zongzhi，yidannijuedezijizaihunyinzhongbuzaibeiai，buzaibeiguanzhu，niduiqizideaijiuhuizhujianmamu，nihenrongyiduihunyingandaoshiwang，zaizheizhongqinmiguanxizhongzhixi。

 zheigeshihou，ruguotayudaoyigezhudongxiyintahuobeidongxiyintadedisanzhe，henrongyibasuoyouyuanbenfangzaiqizishenshangdeganqingdouzhuanyidaodisanzheshenshang。

 zheigenanrenchuguidedongjishibadisanfangdangzuojiumingdaocao，yiwanjiutajihuganhedeqingganshenghuo。jiuxiangzhenzhezhentoushuijueyiyang，tahuifeichangqingxuhua。jishitaduidisanfangdeganqingyuelaiyueqianglie，tayehuizhudongduiqizimobuguanxin，shenzhibuzaiyaoqiuxingshenghuo。

 rangwomencongbijiaoleixingkaishi。zheiyangderenbuhuiguanzhuyigeren，ershihuihuangusizhou，guanzhuzhouweidexinshiwu。zaiaiyigerendetongshi，nikeyibazhuyilizhuanyidaobierenshenshang，ranhoubijiao、shibiehequfenyouxianshixiang。

 birunizuiaia，danniduibhecyeyouyixiexinshanghuohaogan，shuodegengzhibaijiushiyizhong“bijiao”qingganbiaodakeyifenweiaiqing“zuiai”he“ciai”。

 50suinanrenchuguihuiguijiatingdehouyizheng，shenghuozhongyouxienanrendeqingganmoshishi“bijiaoxing”de。yujizhongnanxingxiangbi，“yaomebuai，yaomezhiai”zaiyidingtiaojianxia，tamenkeyitongshiaishanghenduonvren，yejiushiyixiehuahuagongzinan。

 zheizhongnanrenyouyidingdechuguigailv，buguantaheqizideguanxishifouhenhao，yinweitazijideqingganmoshikeyishiyiduiduode。ciwai，nanxingtongchangyoubimianchongtudexiguan。yinci，tamenbuxihuanzhijiejiejuefuqizhijiandemaodun。xiangfan，tamenzongshixiangbadashibianchengxiaoshi，badashibianchengxiaoshi。zhiyuhouyizheng，rufuqizhijianqinmidudexiajiang，keyitongguoxunzhaodisanfanglaitianbu。

 tamenduidisanfangdeqingganyaoqiujitaxiangyaodeqinggantiyan，tamenduidisanfangdeqingganyaoqiujiubugao。tamenbuhuibazijisuoyoudeganqingdouzhuanyijidisanfang，ershidaizhezijixuyaodexintaichugui。

 zheizhongnanrenchuguidedongjishibadisanfangdangzuotapingfanhunyinshenghuozhiwaidezanshixiaoqian。jiuxiangfanhouchilingshiyiyang，tabuhuizaiqingganshangtourutaiduo。wuluntayudisanfangdeguanxiyouduoshen，doubuhuiyingxiangtaduiqizidetaidu。youxierenhuijiahoushenzhiduiqiziganjuegenghao、gengyounaixin，yinweitamenhenleyichilingshi。

 dangran，wulunshinongsuodenanrenhaishigengduodenanren，tamenxunzhaodisanfangdechufadiandoubushiweilerangtamendeshenghuofantianfudi。shuochuanle，wozhishixiangzhaodaoyigejiejuebanfa，keyizanshijiejuehunyinwenti，erbuhuishanghaiwodejirouheguge。

 zheijiushiweishenmenihuikandao，wulunyigenanrenyiqianhedisanfangyouduore，yidantadehunwaiqingbeipuguang，chuguijitadailaidemafanshitianmide。zheigerendediyifanyingshichurenyiliaodeyizhi：shouxianshizheanfushuangfang，danzheizhendebushi。wozhinengbadisanfangganzou。

weishenme？yinweinanrenmeixinmeifei？

bu，zhishinanrenyibandoushilixingde。

xiangyixiang，xiangyaojiejuehunyinwenti，shibushizhiyouchuguidisanzhedejieyao？dangranbushi！

 zhiyudisanzhe，keyiyonglaishengshi，danshidangjieyaobianchengduyao，kaishiyaozijideshihou，nanrenjiuhuitingzhidajia，ziranjiuhuikaishigaibianzhuyilaijiejuewenti。

 zaitongyijuhuazhong，renshiren，bushiguaiwu，bushiqiguaidegongzuo。ruguonishiyigeyouwaiyudebuxingqizi，neimenibixujizhu，buyaoguyikuadahuobiandinanrenduidisanfangdeganqing。zhiyoujiyushishihexuqiu，womencainengkandaofuzadehunyinhunluan，zhaodaogenghaodeshenghuofangshi。

50suinanrenchuguihuiguijiatingdehouyizheng，dangran，yishangliangzhongfenleidouhenlongtong，zhenduibutongdeqingkuangxuyaojutifenxi。