追女孩的技巧 如何高情商的说话

 ruhe rangnvshengxihuanziji ?gentarenxianliao，“maodun”shiwukebimiande。ruhequjiejuehaozheizhongtanhuaneirongmaodun，tongchangshizijiqingshangzhishanggaoaidefanying。erdangnipengdaotarenmanbujianglidezhuangkuangshi，xuanyonglijirumahechizedefangfa，huoxuhuirangzhuangkuangbiandeyuelaiyuecaogao。

 yibianhuanjielingyifangdexintai，youshiyingyongmouxieyueerruerdeyanyu、rouhewanzhuandeyudiao、heaikeqindexintai，quehuigengqiangjuyoushuodonglingyifangdegongxiao。ruherangnvshengxihuanziji?

 yequeshuo，niruhegenjuweiwandefangfaqubiaoshuzishendejianjie，yiqiyoukeyiranglingyifanglejiedaonidehanyi，zheijiushishuoshuobailede“qingshanggaodeliaotiandejiqiao”le。

 zhongjiugentarenjiaowang，renmenbukeyimeishimeikedouyongzhixingzidefangfaqushuohua，zhongjiuzheifeichangrongyirenaotaren。zhuinvhaidejiqiaoyounaxie?“ganqingdongwu”bingfeizhinikeyishuohualiji、tongkuai，zhishizhinixiangyaoyongzishenbenlaideguannian、xintaiqugentarenxiangchu。

 niyaobiaoshunaxiejianyirengrannenggoubiaoxianchulai，jinjinnidebiaodaxingshi，bixulijingmoulei“tixian”bale。zheiyi“tixian”，jiushishuowanzhuanle。

biruyouneimeyigerendegushi：

 yougezuiguibaba，xiaiyinjiu，wuyuanwuguheduo，yincichangchangyouyuhezuiyewuledashier。laoposhuciquanta，taruheyexinjingbuxialai。

meitian，tadedaerziduitashuo：“fuqin，wojini1geluopan!”

zheiyibabashuo：“xiaohai，niliuzhewanba，wobuxuyaota。”

 xiaohaiqueshuo：“danshinimeiyicihelejiu，huijialeshibingbushijingchangmileluma?zhiqianwohuijialemilelunidaizhuwozou，rujinjinilezheiyiluopan，jiunenggoupeinihuijia!”

 jingdiangushizhongdexiaohaizi，buqingchushiyouxinhuanshibujingyi，yongshifenchengzhi、tongqueshifangfa，wanzhuandizhizebaba“yinjiubutaihao”。woxiangyao，jiaruzheiyibabashi1gehaobaba，taneixinhaowuyiwenyouyidingdedadongde。

yinci，xuehaoneiyangzheizhongwanzhuandeshuohuafangfa，nicaikeyichengzhiweishi1geqingshanggaoderen。

 zhuinvhaidejiqiaoyounaxie?naxiedebiaoshucaisuanzuowanzhuan? wanzhuan，yuanbenshizheizhongxiucifangfa，yechengweiweiwan、huishi、quyudeng。

 yongzaiyuyangoutongjiaoliuzhizhong，shuobaile“shuohuawanzhuan”，zhidejiushishuobubianjiehuoshiduoyuzhishuodehua，yiwanzhuanweiwandefangshishuochuqu，chaoguoqidibierenyijuewugezhongdadaolideshijixiaoguo。

 xuduoneishihou，yinweishejiaomeitichangsuo、shuohuazhezhenshishenfen、naizhishilingyifangxintaidengyaosu，renmenmeifabamouxiegoutongjiaoliuyujulijishuochurukou。

zheishihou，xuanyongraowanzi、wanzhuankankedefangfaqubiaoshu，jinenggouhehushixiadeqingjing，youkeyibiaoshuchuzishendehanyi。

 wanzhuanwojuedeshizheizhongshuohuade“huancunfangfa”，mingbaiyijubuyiyangdezhuangkuangxuanyongzheileifangfaqushuohua，nide“yushang”yeburongyichadaonaerqu。

danruhe“tixian”renmendeyuju，nenggourangbiaoshuchengzhiwei“wanzhuan”ni?

wanzhuandeyujuhuiyou2gexianzhutedian：

1，yongwancixiushiyuju;

2，caiyonganshizhedefangfa;

zheidoushidiaojieyuyandecuoshi。

 yingyongwanzhuandebiaodaxingshi，niwubiyao“qingxing”didiaozhuanzishendeyuyanluojisiwei，duiyushixiadeqingjingduiyuyankaizhandiaojie。 zheieryougeliucheng：

 ruguonizaizhangkouyiqian，zuixianyaoquelizishendeshuohuamudi，shishuodong、zhize、chuochuan、jilihuanshiquxiaolingyifang，zheizhongnenggouweiwandibiaoxianchulai。

 yongyoushuohuamudiyihou，zaiyijujieshoulingyibandejieshoudu，yonglingyifangkeyigaoqingchuhezhangwodeyuyan，kaizhantixianxingdebiaoshu，zhizhilingyifangjuewudaoniyuyanzhongdezhunquehanyi。

yongyouzheiyijibenyaosuyihou，jiexiaqujiushishuoruheshijicaozuodenantile。

 yingyongwancitixianbiaoshude3gefangshi shuobaile“wanci”，shuobaile，jiushishuogenjubixudecuoci，bayuanxianrangrenbukaixinhuoshijiaoweidisudeshier，huanchengjiaoweidedang、wenwenerya、zhongxinghuadebiaodaxingshi。

 meiguozhimingyuyanxuejiachafeili·n·liqizai《yuyixue》zhong，congrendeganqingxiangdaoshijiaoduiwanzhuanyurengoutongzuoguoneiyangdepouxi：

 ganqingxiangdaozaicidehanyizhongshikanqilaifeichangguanjiandeciju，juebujinxianyurenzhongheguojianeiyangdefanchou。zaibenrenrichangshenghuo，xiangshenwang、bingzheng、weifafanzui、chufazheizhongshier，nanyibimiandilingrenzaochengbukaixindexiangdao。gengshiduizheizhongdajiasuobihuidehuatitaolun，wanzhuanyuzheileiyuyanzhongde“xiaoduye”，bidingjiuhuizaochengweihaile。

 nenggoushuo，wancifajiushishuoduibenlaineixinxiangbiaoshudeyanyukaizhan“bianruan”，jinerrangyujugengfeichangrongyijindaotarendeerduolimianli。

neizenyangcainengjiangrenmenbenlaideyujuzhuanhuacheng“wanci”ni?youjizhongfangshi ：

fangshi yi，yunyongwanyan，jianshaojuzidecijixingshuiping。

buyiyangdeciju，douhanyoubuyiyangdeganqingyanse;jiusuanshixushutongshiqing，yeshibuyiyangqiangliedudecijugongrenmenyingyong。

 ruguonitaolunmoushiqingshi，yibianrangyuyanfeichangrongyibeiguanzhongsuojiena，nenggoushidubianruojuzideciji，bayujubiaoshudemingxianshuipingjianshao。

biruyouyipianguowaidexiaoyoumo：

 yimingnvxingjijimangmangdizouruyijiandianpu，duiyingyeyuanshuo：“5fenzhongqian，worangdaerzilaimaiyibangdeguojiang，huilaiyicheng，fenliangbuzu，zheigairuhebiaoshuni?”

yingyeyuanwenminglimaodihuida：“furen，qinghuiquchengyichengnidedaerzi。”

 neiweiyingyeyuanmeiyoulijibiaomingshinvxingdedaerzitoushiledeguojiang，zhishirangtahuilaichengyichengdaerzidexiuzhong，yineiyangweiwandefangfaquanshizheneiweinvxing。

 zheiyifangshi deguanjiandianqujueyu，bulijichuangjianmaodun，zhishiyong“tiexin”he“zhencheng”dexintai，weiwanbiaoshuchuzishendehanyi。

 zheibixushuohuazhecaozonghaozishendexintai，yeyaomingbaicaiyongshidudeyuju，cuocijirenpingjingdejuede，jinerrangtingzhonggengbijiaoguanxin。

 ruguonikeyiguanlizijidexintai，zhongshilingyifangdejuede，tiexinlingyifangdejingyu，zheijiuhuibianweilingzheizhongshuohuafangfa，bingfeiyongxuqingjiayitixianchuqudeyuyan。zheijiushishuowancigenhuanghuadechabiele。

再看来1个事例。

 moulvyoushedeyimingdaoyouyuanren，zaichanshenglvyoutuandetuanyuanyouwanshi，gukezhongyoujigepaishefashaoyou，meidaoyichujiubutingdizhaoxiang。

 “zhuweituanyuan，woguodiyuliaokuo，haokandediquyeyouxuduo，meibixujiangnideshijiandouhuazaixiangtongdiqushangbian。duozouyizou，duoguangyiguangbiededelvyoujingdian，huoxuhuifajuedaliangzuigaipaishedemeilifengjinge!”

 neiweidaoyouyuanren，jiushishuoduiyumouxiegukede“womenyiqiduopaiduozhang”zheihuaershuode。tameiyouyongmingxiandeducuyuyan，lijishuo“bubipaile，zhejiganshijian”，zhishiyongdile1geshuipingdeyuyanqubaozhuangtadehanyi。

tingjiandaoyouyuanrenneimeshuo，womendouzhidaoyingdangyaoruhezuole。

 zaishenghuoqijuzhizhong，renmenfeichangrongyizaoshoudaobierenyouqiuyurenmen，errenmenyoubukenkaolvqiguidingqueyoumafanlijihuijuedezhuangkuang，zheishihouxuanyongwanyanjujuedefangfa，tongchangshizuiheshide。

 biruxiaominde1geqinqipengyouxiangtatuixiaochanpinnvtupidayi，xiaominyoumeiyoumaizhangdayideyaoqiu，danaiyuqingmian，youbutaihaolijihuijue，jirenbuyuanhuigudejuede，zheizhongqingkuangxia，xiaominjiuxuanyongwancidefangfajiangdao：

 “ganxienideguanzhu!shihuashishuo，yinweiwoxianggoumaizheijianpidayi，keshiqiahaoqianjiriwolaogonggongchu，tongyiwoyaomaizheijianpidayizengjiwo。jiarutaqueshibangwomaihuiqu，neimewobutaihaozaimailai!”

 wulunxiaomindelaogongshifouqueshineiyangzuo，tazheileihuijuefangfadourangbiciyongyouxiannili。ruguonikeyiyijushixiadezhuangkuang，bawojihui，bianchu1geyouxiaodeyuanyin，jiukeyiqiadangdituicilingyifangle。

 huoxu，zaishijiyingyongdeneishihou，huanshixiangyaonifengxianjiyidiudiuzishende“yande”de，yongyongxindeyudiaoshayoujieshideshuo，jiuhuijirenzhenshiyouxiaodejuede。

fangshi er，yunyongquyu，balijidehanyiguaigewanshuochuqu。

 yibiantigaoyuyihuobiedemudi，erbalaohuadeweiwankankemouxie。moushuipingshang，zheiyifangshi jiushishuoyongchentuodefangfa，bazhenshidezhixinhua“tuochuqu”，jinerranglingyifangganwudaozhizhongdehanyi。

birurenmenlejiedezhanguojiaose“suqin”，zongyouneimeyigerendegushi。

chunqiushiqi，youshuojiasuqinzhouyoulieguo，lizhukangqin，jinerbeituiwei“hezongkangqin”dezongyuezhang，shengualiuguoxiangyin。

 mouxierendujisuqindecaineng，bianzaiyanwangyanqianjinlechanyan，shuotashijuxinpocederen。yanwangqingxinchanyan，shengshulesuqin。suqinfajuezheishihou，youkushuobuchu，bianyiwanzhuandefangfaduiyanwangzuoweizishenbianbo。

tashuo：“chenyizhongxinrenaolejunzhu。”

yanwangguaiyi，biwenheyin。

 suqinshuo：“junzhubuzhidao，womenjiagebilinjudeqiziyouwaiyu，palaogonglejie，bianzaijiuzhongxialedu。tadexiaolaopolingmingxianjiu，jipadushalaogong，youpatalejiehouganpaozhumu，bianzhuangzuoshibaishuaihuailegaojiaobei，jieguoaileyicantongda。wodejingyugengebilinjudexiaolaopoxiangtong，yuanbenshiyibianyanguoquhuilaishicheng，queyinzhongxinrenaolejunzhu，zaochenglecaiji。”

yanwangbeisuqinwanzhuanchengzhideyanyuchudongle，zaiyicixinlaitabingweiyizhongren。

 suqinjiushishuoyingyongxiangduidequyufangfa，bazishenbichenggebilinjudexiaolaopo，anshizheshuoshanxinbuyidinghuodehaobao，erbingbushilijiyuantianyouren、shenyuan。

 quyuzheileibiaodaxingshi，budankeyitigaoyuyierdedaolingyifangxinlai，yiqihaikeyiyongyubiaodajifenghejixiao。biruyouneimeyigerendegushi：

meiguowenxuejiaxiaobonayuquesiliandunyouyuzongjiaoguanjiguandiandebuyiyang，changchangyixiemaodun。

 youyiri，quesiliandunzouzailushanghexiaobonaxiangfeng，bianjifengshougulinxundexiaobonashuo：“nijianzhidiujinmeiguorendelian，waiguorenjiandaonizheitaoguge，hairenweimeiguozainaojihuangni!”

 xiaobonakanguoyixiaxiaquanshenfeibiaodequesiliandun，youyoudihuiyingshuo：“meishier，danglaowaiyaoshijiandaoni，jiulejiemeiguolaobaixingnaojihuangdeyuangule。”

 xiaobonabingmeiyoulijizeguaiquesiliandun，zhishicaiyongquzhedefangfa，fangzhilingyifangdeluojixinggouzao，genjuquyuxiangfanqujifenglingyifang。

yinweizheiyihuiyingshiyizhaolingyifangdeluojixingmingzhengyanshundishengchanzhizaochuqu，lingyifanghuoxujiuwuyanyiduile。

 nenggoushuo，quyuyingyongdezhongyaobingbushiqujueyuzhichenyuanyi，zhishiwanzhuandiduofangmianchentuohuoshianshizhe，ranglingyifangzishentihuidaoyujuzhongdezhenshihanyi。

zheileifangfa，tongchang“dianhoujizhi”，que“yanyoujineryiwuxian”。quyuyibanyoujileifangfa：

1，xiangdui，yongleisideshiqingjiaoyulingyifanglingwu，ruhuangjindoushifaliangde，nixiangzheshibushinihuangjinni?

 2，fanyu，yongfanguolaidejiaofadianxinglingyifanglejie，rutashiyoubuhaodedianying，woquanxiandoushebudekan，bizheshuangyanshuichedichang。

 3，shengdong，bashiqingdetexingbiandaweicitixinglingyifang，ruwopingchangfeichangshaochiyan，nizuodezheizhongcainenggouyihuiguobangwotianbuhuijiale!

4，xingrong，babenshenhuanzuobiedeyutitishilingyifang，niruokulianmeilashangnenggouchengzuonide“zhongmenlakai”。

bawozheizhongquyudefangfa，nisuishisuididoukeyibiaoshuqingsongle。

fangshi san，genjuhuishi，babushidangdecijuhuantangbuhuanyao。

huijiushishuobihui，shijiushishuoxumei。shuobailehuishi，jiushishuoyongxumeizhici，tidaibihuideciju。

 biru“shenwang”zheiyiciju，zongyouxuduo“xumei”zhici，ru“qushi”、“zhuanguo”、“cishi”、“zuogu”、“zhangmian”、“shengu”zheixie，naizhinikeyiyong“xinzangtingzhitiaodong”、“xinxueguanyibuzhandong”zheizhongjiaofa。

 zaipingshigoutongjiaoliuzhizhong，yijuchangsuohetanhuaneironglingyiban，shiduyongmouxiexumeizhicitidaizheixiehanyizhijie、yansenonghoudeyuhui，jiukeyizaochengfeichanghaodegoutongjiaoliushijixiaoguo。

biruyimingpenyoupeitalaopoguangshangdian，neiweipengyoudeqizituihenduan，danquemailaizheitiaoniuzikuzi。

 zaiyushijingziyanqianshiyifushi，pengyoudeqizibaoyuanniuzikuzidemoyangbupiaoliang，guidingzaiquhuanlingzheitiaoniuzikuzi。neiweipenyoumeiyoulijigaozhilaoposhuo“jiushinidexiaoduantui，buyichuanniuzikuzi”，zhishiwanzhuandishuo：

 “neimaduofushikuanshi，shiweigezhonggeyangshenxingderenbuzhide。zheizhongkuanshi，haowuyiwenbukeyiherenherendeshenxing。youxierendazhangtui，huoxuchuanniuzikuzihuipiaoliangxie，danworenweinichuanlveweikuanchangdeniuzikuzigengqiangkan。”

 neiweipenyoujiubumingshuoyouyutalaopo“xiaoduantui，chuanniuzikuzibupiaoliang”，zhishishuomeigerendouyousuoyourendetedian，buyiyangderenyijuzishendetedianchuanzhedabanjiuhuigengqiangkan。

 zaitadeyuyanzhizhong，zishizhizhongmeiyoutanjilaopodequexian，fangzhijiangchuzheixieranglaoposhanggandehuayu。zheijiushishuoqingshanggaodeyuyanjiqiaole。

youguanhuishi，youyigejingdiangushi：

 xiaowangkaidedeshidepaizhaohaoshi“16444”，yincibierenjingxiangdouquantashuo：“nidecheliangpaizhaohao16444，tingqilaishi‘yilushangsisidesi’，taibuqichen，huanshixiangfangfahuanyigezhaoxiangba!”

 danshixiaozhaoquezideqile，bianbodao：“zheiyihaoshifenqichena，duqilaijiushishuo‘duolafafafa’，duoduodelankejiukeyifacaizhifu，butaihaoma?”