分手之后想挽留？如何挽回前男友？

 fenshouzhihouxiangwanliu？ruhewanhuiqiannanyou？zaifenshoudeyujuli，shuodejiaoduodebianshi，“wohenlei”，“wojibushangnixingfukuaile”，“womenbuheshi”，“dajiazuopengyouba”dengleisideyuju。

 yingduineiyangdehuayu，nvhaizuodejiaoduodebianshiqiqiulingyifang，jiuchanbuqinglingyifang，weixielingyifang，qidainengyunyonglingyifangdelianminzhixinshitahehaoruchu。danshi，nvhaimen，nimenyaogaoqingchudangyigenanrenjiangchufenshoudeyikeqi，niyizhizaibierendeneixinjiuzaoyichuzaiyigefourendedifangle。neima，zailingyifangjiangchutamenshi，gaizenyangwanhuiqianren？

一、不必作出低價值的挽回个人行为

 fenshouhouhuimitulezishen，shiqulixing，zheiyeshihenduorendoushiyoudezhuangkuang。tamenfeijinxinsiduozhongfangfa，haojingezhonggeyangfangshixiangwanhuilingyifangdexin，nalejieyueganyuecuo，yuecuoyueda。zhizhilingyifangbazijijijiaruheimingdanle。wanhuibuqujueyuzuoshiduoshaoduideshi，erqujueyunifanshiduoshaocuo！zheiyeshidajiakangnalaoshishuoguodehua。neima，zaiwanhuiganqinglibian，jiaoweifeichangrongyifashengyichangdezuofayoushenme？

 changshisipilailian，yizhitongdianhuafaxiaoxi。fenshouhoujienabushangmeitianhuayanqiaoyuzhandaoyiqideren，huranbujianzaizishendeshenghuozhizhong。xiangshiquxinderenfengkuangdixunzhaolingyifang，buduanditongdianhuafaweixin，qukukuaiqiulingyifangkuanrong，qidaofuhexing。zaochengleguanxiehuashengji，zaochengtarendedichu。

 lingyifangrenaoxiajiangchuhenduobuhaotingdehua，jiejuedilaheilequanbudelianxidianhua。jiranshifenshouneiliangrendoushiyouyiwu，nideshenshangbidingyoutajieshoubuleledequexian，ciketayanlijinyouhuaiyinxiangdeni，nizuoshenmeshiqingquanshicuode。zheileixingweibianshiduankaixiangjiaogerenxingweirangjiufenshengji，yinciniqianwanbiesipilailian。

 changshilianxitadexiaohuobanhuojiashu。bukeyisaoraota，youxiangyaozhidaoyouguantadexingji，congqinqipengyouzhonghuodetadexinxi？qianwanbieneimeben！youyutadepenyoujiashuzhinengjiangniquanbudehuawanhaowusundiduitashuo，naizhihaihuijixuxiangtajubaonisaoraodaozheixierendeshenghuo。zheibujinlingdaotayanfan，jiuliantadeqinqipengyoudoushihuiyanfan。nongbuhaohaiyichuanshi，shichuanbainimenfenshoudexinxi，rangyongxinhaiyoujihuiqukaojinta。yinciniqianwanbiechangshilianxitadepengyoumenhejiashu。

 zhengqiupenyoudexiangfabingqushizheyumeiwubidewanhuifangshi。jibukenaixiangwanhuilingyifangqueyouyichoumozhandeqingkuangxia，ganwanbukeyisuiyizhengqiupenyoudejianyi，naizhizaibaidutieba、xinlangweibo、blogzheixiefangshifatieziqusouji“gejiegaoshou”detiyi。

 qingganwentiqishiwenbenshangnenggouxushuqingchuni？mianqianrenchuduixiangderenyoubushitamen，tamenweishenmehuilejiezenmezuocaiduini。neiyangfangcundaluandeni，zishenmeiyoupouxiqingxifenshoudeyuangu，yaofouzedehuanirujinjiuzaiduizhengzhiliaogaibianxianzhuang，erbushikongxuelaifengshizheyixieyumeidefangshi。

 changchangdanxinganqingjiushizheiyanggaoyiduanluo,shizhongdouwufaheqiannanyouzhongguiyuhaole。renyuanbenjiuhuiyouqiqingliuyunanyiqingyijiupiekaifumianqingxuqufenfaxiangshang。tebieshizairouruodeqingkuangxia，niantoujiuhuipianzhongbutaihaodefangwei。keshizheibanxiaojideniantou，duiyufuhexingeryanshibingmeiyousuoyoudeyichu，zhinengganraoniwanhuidezhixingnengli。xiyinfazelibiantiji，nizenyangdexintai，naxiedexiangfayuzhoukongjiandexiyinlibianhuijinimentigongnaxie。niyinggaishulihaozishendexintai，jijizhudongwanghaodelingyuquxiang，guannianweihaigerenxingwei。

二、敢于应对分手的客观事实

 meiyigerendoujuedezishendeganqingkeyibaitouxielao。danbingbushiqidairuhe，neimajiuhuiruhede，youshiyixieyuanguzhishifashengletaduinijiangchufenshoutamen。ruguonimeifayingduizheicubujifangdeshanghaideqingkuangxiajiuhuifeichangrongyishenxianxiaochenhunhoudexinqingzhizhong，quanburendouchongmanlefumianqingxu。yaoxiangwanhuilingyifang，zuixiannidejiejuefumianqingxu，yongganmianduiqinggan，zuoyigejijizhudongleguanxiangshangderen。

 suzaojijizhudongjijidexintai。shijishangfenshouhouhenduorendoushihuiyidiebule，youshangdexintaizhanlinglezhengyigeneixin。ruguoyitiandaowandouhuidianjizhefenshouzheijianshiqing，nanguojiuhuifeichangrongyidaozhiqingganshangdewufakongzhi，zaochengzuochuxiebulizishenwanhuideshierlai，buduanjibierengongzuoyali，neimajiuhuirangbierengengweixinlizhuangtaishangfourenni，juedefenshoushiduide，neizhishirangwanhuigengweijiannanle。yinciyaoxiangsuzaoshenxinjiankangdexinlizhuangtai，jiuyidingzhaoxiefenfaxiangshangdeshierlaizuo，fensanhuazhuanzhulirangziyibubidianjizhefenshoudeshier。biru：qupashan，genxiaohuobanqugechangdeng，rangzishendexinqingyukuaiqilai。

 badeshijianhuoliyongzaitigaozijidedeshenshang。tanlianaishi，ganqingshangbicizhijiandoushihuibazijiyidingdeshizhangheshijiantoufangdaolingyifangdedeshenshang，youyizhongzhuangkuangbianshizuoweixuqiugangaodeyifang，jiuhuizailingyifangzijintourugengduodedeshijianhehuoli，yitiandaowanjinjinweiraolingyifangzhuandong，zheimianbuleburongyiranglingyifangshangxiazishen，zaochengzishenmeiyouhuashijianlaiyuanyuwojibenjianshe。yinci，cike，jiuqianwanbieqianxinwankuqidaolingyifangzaigennizaiyiqile，yuqishuoneimekelingdewanhui，haibibushangbazheiyifenqidaolingyifangdequdongliyongzaizigededajianshang。jinyoulianxubuduandewanshanziwo，jiuhuigengweiyouzichan，gengweidiyouyouhuoli。

 tigaozijidelianaidengji。youshi，lianaidengjidebutaigao，jiunanyilejiehezhuomolingyifangzaixiangganshenme，yaoxiangdeyoushisha，erzheigeshihoutongchangjiubuzhizenmegenbierengoutongjiaoliuhehuifulingyifang。yinciruguoxianggenbierenjiaowangdehemu，jiuxuyaotishengzijidelianaidengji。nixuyaozuodebianshidongdequfenxiguanjiandian，bianshizixiguanchatarendeqingxinghezishi，zaitongguozishendepouxi，bingzuochushiyidehuifu。jiufangfohenduonvshengchangshuozishenmeiyouanquangan，neizuoweinanhaizidenijiuxuyaoqufajueshiyinweishenmezhishiletaquefaanquangan，jinyoumingbaishishenmeyuanyin，caihuiyufayoumudexingdiyubierengongchu。ruguonizaiyiciwaiyifangdeniantou，weitarenkaolvdeqingkuangxia，neimalingyifangjiuhuigengweizhenshizheiyifenqinggan。

三、以普通朋友的方法与前男友共处

 yibanzhuangkuangxia，yidanliangrenfenshou，xianghuzhijiandeyingxiangkendinghuixiandefeichanggangahuoshihenjiroujiangying。jiaruzheigeshihouqiangzhiquxiubuguanlian，haowuyiwenhuidebuchangshi。yincizaifenshouyihou，yidingyaoqingxididongdezishendejingzhundingwei，gaohaoyigeputongpengyou。

 fenshouzhihouxiangwanliu？yaobazijijingzhundingweichengputongpengyou，zuixiannidejienafenshouzheiyikeguanshishi。jiaruniliankeguanshishidoujinxingbushang，haitannaxiejingzhundingweichengputongpengyou，nizongshigaozhizishen，nimenshiputongpengyou，keshiquexiangyaozuozhelianrencaihuizuodeshier，yonglianrendeguifanguidingta。zheiyangzizuobulaiputongpengyoude，youyunipianbushangta。jienalefenshoudekeguanshishi，nicaihuidongdenimenzaidangqianhuanjie，shimeiyourenhedeguanliande。neiyangnicainenggouzhenshidiyiputongpengyoudezhenshishenfengentagongchu，tacaihuiduinisangshifangbei，youyutayekeyiganshoudaobuhuiqujiuchanbuqingta，tabubidanxinnishashihouhuifasheng。zhixunimenbicihainengyihaopengyouxingshigongchu，nihaishipatazhaobudaonidegenggaima？

 qicifenshouyihouyidingyaoyouzhezishendeshenghuo，bukeyiyifenshoujiujuedequanshijiedoutale，yitiandaowanzaineilishangxinnanguo。yikaishifenshousheidouburongyixiguanxingde，keshiyounengruheni？zaidangqianhuanjieeryan，keyiyouzhezishenshenghuo，erqiebashenghuoguojingcaifencheng，caikeyizaiduxiyinzhudaotademuguang。rangziyiyouzhechucaideshenghuo，nenggouliyongyixiefangshishitarenshidao，shitajuede，tameiyouniyiyangnenggouguodefeichanghao，bazijiduitadexuqiuganjiangxiaqu，banimenzhongjiandewentidianjiangxiaqu，wanhuidekunnanjiujianshaoxuduole。jiurushenzhenqingganzixungongsizhuguankangnachangshuo：“shitaganjue，tabuzainishenpangshi，zongshihuicuoguoleyixiexingfudewupin。”zhidaotaganjuehenizaiyiqishenghuoyoukenengbizishenyigerenshenghuoyaokaixindeqingkuangxia，niyejiujijingshunlixiyinzhudaotale。

 fenshouzenyangwanliu？zainimenhuoshiputongpengyoudehuanjiezhong，diaojiezishendeqingxuhenzhongyao。henyoukenengyikaishijingzhundingweibianchengputongpengyoudeqingkuangxia，huitebiebuxiguan，shijishangxinlihenxiangyaozhaolingyifang、henzheji、henxinfan，zheigeshihoujiuyidingyaoyizhizhuzishendechongdong。zaizheigehuanjiezhong，rangziyiweichijijidexintai，weichixiangyoushenghuodexintai。dangnimenkeyiyiqichuqushuoshuohuadeqingkuangxia，yebubitanguoqudeshier，ranglingyifangmeiyouneimedagongzuoyali，weichiyigeqingsongzizaideqifen，rangshuangfangdounenggouxiangyouciciyouhui，neiyangyenenggouweixiayiciyouhuifahuitezhang。