经常跟老公吵架想离婚又舍不得孩子，和老公离婚怎么沟通

 helaogonglihunzenmegoutong？xuduohunyinbuxingfuderen，queyizhibuganlihun。niwenweishenme？99%derenhuishuoshiyinweihaizi，doushuobuganlihunshipalihunhouduihaizishanghaitaida。

yiweibaomazhizetazhangfuyixiliebuhelideshiqing：

 “wojiaoxiaolian。wojinnian31sui。woshiyigebaoma。wozhangfuhewoshitongguoxiangqinrenshide。xianzaiwomenyijingjiehunwunianle。womenyouyigesansuidehaizi，danwomendehunyinyizhibuxingfu。

weishenmehunyinbuxingfu？worenweiwentidegenyuanshi：womendesanguanhenbuyizhi。

 quniannianchu，tadepengyouxiangtajieleyiwanyuan。taxianranbitadelianhaiganjing，dantarengranxuyaoshoufei。zuihou，taqiangpowoxiangtadepengyoujieleyiwanyuan。

jieqianyejiugoule，shijiankuaidaole，womenzongshiyaoxiangzhehuilai，danshiwoyijingtixingtahenduocile，tahaishibufangzaixinshang。

houlai，wobatabijile，tabanchulezijidewaili，duiwoshuo：

“jiechuqudeqianmeiyouzhudonghuilaia，zheisihushizijiduomexiaoqia。”

tinglezheijuhua，wojihuyaobeiguoqule。tashidafangde，danshidafangdejieguoni？

qiandaoxianzaihaimeiyouhuilai，yijiarenpeizhetachitu。

 haiyouyici，womendezhangfuheqizihezuihaodepengyouyiqichifan。kuaijieshudeshihou，wozaiweixinshangjitazhuanle500yuan，rangtatoutoujiezhang。

danshitamocengceng，yidianjiezhangdeyisidoumeiyou，daozuihouhaishiwoguimidezhangfubazhangjiele。

zheiyangdeshiqing，yijingmeiyoufashengguoyiliangcile，suoyiyiciyouyicidechibaishi，wozhendejuedetebiediuren。

shihouwowenta：“weishenmebujiezhang？”

tadehuidayehenpingjing：“yinweibuxiangjie。”

wojiezhewenta：“weishenmebuxiangjie？”

tashuo，woguimifuqiliangdoushizuodashengyide，zheiyidunfanyebucuo。

yitingdaozheihua，wolikegentajile：

 “youqianderenshibierende。weishenmeyouqiandeshihouyaoqingke？womenmeiyouduoshaoqian，danwomenbunengchiyidunfan。qiongrenbunengai。nijieyiwankuaiqianjipengyoudekangkaizainali？”

tingdaowozheimeshuo，tayehenzheji。erqie，tayezhidaozijibujiangli，suoyixiangbaqishiyazaiwoshenshang。

 raner，wobuxiguanta。jieguo，womendachaoleyijia。shishishang，zheiyangdezhengchaomeisantianjiuhuifashengyici。xianzaiwozhendejuedewohetayijingshougoule，woxianglihunbuzhiyici。

danshi，bijingwomenhaiyouyigehaizia，haizishiwugude。wodaodigaizenmeban？”

tinglexiaoliandegushihou，wodenaohailiyizhifuxianzhesangeguanjianci。

zheisangeguanjiancishi：sanguanbuhe，lihun，haizi。

womenlaitantan“lihun”he“haizi”。

xianghelaogonglihun，queshebudehaizi，wogaizenmeban？

shishishang，dangnixinzhongyoulezheigexiangfa，shouxianyaowenwenziji：“zhendeshiyinweihaizicaibuganlihunma？”

shishishang，zaixianshishenghuozhong，haizimenchangchangbeidangzuojiekou：

birushangbanchidao，zaichenshushangbanchidaodeyuanyinshi，henduonvhaidouhuishuozaoshangsonghaizishangxuedelushangdanwule。

danshijishang，tamenzhishishuileyihuierlanjue，zuihoumeiyouganshangditie。

zaijugelizi，jialilailekeren，keshifangziquemeiyougudeshangshoushiluanzaode。

 xuduonvhaigandaohenganga，yushiyoukaishitanlunhaizi，shuohaizitaishoule，zijigangdasaowanfangzi，jiubeihaizinongdeluanqibazao。

shenghuozhong，haizibeidangzuojiekoudelizishubushengshu。helaogonglihunzenmegoutong？

lihunzheijianshiyeshiruci，haizishigehaojiekou。

yinci，nizhendeyoubiyaowenwenziji：wobuganhenanrenlihun，zhendeshiweilehaizima？

jiarunijingguoyifansikao，zuizhongdedaolekendingdedaan，jiuzhengmingnizaizheiduanganqingzhongdeshushiganzhendehencha。

 ciwai，conghaizidejiaodulaikan，yuqijitayigekansiwanzhengdejiating，burujitayigebangyang，yigeganyuaiyuhen，nulizhuiqiuzijixingfudedanvrendebangyang。

zheiwuyiduihaizidejiaoyuhechengzhanggengyouli。

danshiruguonizuizhongfaxianhaizizhishiyigejiekou，neimenijiuyaoxiangyixiang:weishenmewoyaoweizijizhaozheiyangdejiekou？

shishishang，yuanyinyehenmingxian：niqueshiduizheiduanhunyingandaobuman，dantongshi，niyeduizheiduanhunyinchongmanleyilai。

 zheijiuxiangyigetaolijihuangderen，meitianzaitaolijihuangdelushangchiwotou，suirantayijingkuaiyaochitule，dantaduizheiwotouhaishizhiyoubaoyuan，buhuidiudiaota。

jiarurengdiaozheigewotou，taohuangzhezhiyoueduzidefen。

jiexialai，womenzaicihuidaoganqingzhong：

 jirannixianzailibukaizheiduanguanxi，neimemeitianweishifoulihunerzhengzhashimeiyouyiyide。ciwai，dangnimeitiandouzaibaoyuanshi，nihennanyoujinglixihejiejuewenti。

zuihou，zaishuoyibian“sanguanbuhe”。

youqishilianggerenfenshouhou，henduorendouhuiyong“sanguanbuhe”zheisigezi，jilianggerendeganqinghuagejuhao。

danwentishi：zheigeshijieshangmeiyouwanquanqihedesanguana，yinweiwomenmeigerendoushibutongde。

shishishang，zhiyaolianggerensanguandeqihedunenggoubaochizaiyidingdefanweinei，zheizhongguanxijiubuhuichuxianwenti。

以小莲为例：

 congzhenggemiaoshuzhong，womenkeyikanchunanrenshiyigehaomianzideren，dantamenxihuanliyongxiaoshiqing。xiangfan，xiaolianzaihuaqianhejiaopengyoufangmianfeichanglixingheyouguilv。

 xianran，lianggerendexiaofeiguannianyouhendadechayi，tamenjingchangyinweizheizhongchayierzhengchao。raner，zheizhongchayizhendenengdaibiaolianggerendesanzhongguandianma？

shishishang，ruguolianggerenjinyibujiaqianggoutong，zheigewentibingbunanjiejue。

 yinanrenjieqianweili，xiaolianqishikeyixianxiangyixiang，weishenmenanrenyaojieqianjipengyou。guigenjiedi，zheibuguoshiyigemianziwenti。

yinci，ruguoxiaoliannengzaibujieqiandejichushang，hainengjinanrenzhuanhuimianzi，wentiziranjiujiejuele。zenyangcainengdadaozheige

 shishishang，xiaoliankeyijieguonanrendehua，duipengyoushuo：“e，xiongdi，nilaiwanleyibu。nigegangmaileyiliangche，qiandouzazaishangmianle。”

 womaileyiliangxinche，zheishiyizhanggengdadelian。suoyi，weilezheizhangdalian，nanrenkendingbuhuishuozijihaiyouyuqian，suoyibunengjieqianma？

rangwomenlaitantannanrenbudeshi，weishenmenanrenbuyuanyimaidan？tazhishixiangtanxiaobianyi。

neiyangdehua，nixiacijiubuyaozaidaitachuqule，ershiyigerenheguimiyiqichifan，haiyaojinliangdianyixiehenguidecai。

rangnanrenbujingyijiankandaozhangdan，tayidinghuidachiyijing。weilejianshaozheiyizhongdasunshi，nanrenhuizuochurangbu。

 dicengluoji：zaiguanxizhong，tiaoduifangdemaobingshiyijiantebiejiandandeshiqing，erqienengqidaofaxiedezuoyong，hainengzhanjudaodedezhigaodian。

 danshiwentishi，zheizuizhongbuhuirangnigengkuaile。zheizhongyouyuegandixiaobulenixiaojixintaidailaidetongku，duifangdefanjihuirangshiqingbiandegengzao。

 helaogonglihunzenmegoutong？zaizheigeshihou，xiangxiangweishenmeduifangzheimehuai。nibuxianglikaitadeyuanyinkenenggengyoubangzhu。zheikeyirangnigengyoudonglijiejuezheixiewenti，erbushijiandandibazerentuijiduifang。