挽回死心的男人的基础

　　wanhuisixindenanrendejichu，“tahuranshuoduizheiduanganqingshiwangtoudingle，wocaiyishidaoqinzibashenaiderentuiyuande……”jinlaijiedaoyiweifensimenshengengbanyesiliao，ziziqixuedeqingtu，rangwoxiangdaohoutaiguanlichengqianshangwanxiangjindexunqiubangzhu。dangcengjingshuoguo“yishengshouhu”delaopo，huranmanmanshuyuanshuyuan，naizhitilihun，dabufennanrenzaihuangluanzhongyoubingluantouyi，fandaojiakuailehunyinshenghuodefenlie。jinri，woyaobacongshishinianzhenglidehunyinwanhuixinjuebuyiyulifenxiangjidajia，zheigebushizhaoshu，ershizhenzhengnengpengchuhunyinbenzhidepojuzhidao。

　　一、理智思考：别急着追，给对方缓口气的时间也

　　haoduorenyitingdaoqizishuo“meifaguole”，diyifanyingjiushisipilailian：dianhuasaorao、dudamenkou、zhuaizheqinpenghaoyoujiangqing。kexiangbeitangzhedeshouganbennengfanyingsuohuiquyiyang，niyuezhuidejin，tayuexiangyaotao。zheishihou，hebuxuexiyikeqingjingdedashu，jiduifangkongchuyipian“qingxulvyin”，dengbiciqingxukuangfengbaoyuyiwangzaijiang。

　　zhaoyigeqingjingdewuhou，paobeicha，bajinqiheqizidezhengzhi、lengbaolidouxiangshibofangdianyingyiyangzainaohailiguoyibian。shilaoba“landelini”guazaizuishang，rangtagandaobushouzhongshi?huoshihuilaijiutanzaishafawanshouji，jiangtadepijuanzuoweilisuoyingdang?woyudaodechengxuyuanlaoli，jiushizaizheiyangdesikaozhongjingxing，zishenlianxusannianwangdiaojiehunjinianriri，zheixiebeihulvedeqiwang，zuizhongchenglejikuahunyinshenghuodemaicao。

　　二、提升自己：使自己越来越好，是最深情的影响力

　　wanliubingbushidiweiquyue，fanershinengrangduifangzaicikandaonideliangdian。buyaozaikangzhejiwotou、yizhezhoubabadetxuchumen，zailifadianhuanyigejingshenshizhifaxing，banzhangjianshenguanbadadunanshouyishou。neizaigenggaigengweizhongyao，baokaoyimenyizhixiangxuedesheyingke，huoshigenzheshipinxuexijigejiachangcai。

　　gebidelinjuzhangge，hunyinshenghuoliangqihongdengzhihoukaishixuechahua。congmaoshoumaojiaozheduanzhiye，daonengchachujingmeixianhuahuashubaizaifanzhuoshang，zheileirenzhenshenghuoganjing，liankekedelaopodouhuirenbuzhukuazan“xianghuanleyigeren”。qishirenrutongcishi，ruguonibazishendamopaoguangdeshanshanfaguang，ziranjiuhuixiyinduifangmuguang。

　　三、坦诚交流：把“讲理”换为“说句心里话”

　　wanhuisixindenanrendejichu，haoduorenyikaikoujiurangnishiwang：“wobingbujiuwangjilejiesonghaizima，guanyuneimeqifen?”“niweishenmejiubunengtiliangwogongzuohenxinku?”neiyangdehuazhinenghuoshangjiayou。shiyixiabayudiaoruanchulai：“jinqikanzhenileidezhiroujianbu，wofeichangxintong，ruguowokeyiduochengdandianjiuxingle。”

　　goutongdeshihoujilao“sanbuyuanze”：butiguoqu，buhuxiangmaiyuan，buhuabing。keyichangshiyixia“libaitianlianyihui”，guanbidianshiheshouji，xianggangtanlianaishineiyang，nixuelitayincha，jianjiandiliaoyiliaobicizhijiandeshiwanghexiwang。rutongxiufutaoqideyongxinijinshanjiagonggongyi，xiufuguanxiyeyaoneiyangxixinwenroudihuihua。

　　四、重建信任：用“小幸福”堆各种大小温馨

　　xinlailiele，rutongkepodeyushijingzi，xiubuxuyaoshijianhexixin。yuqishuoyaneryouxinshuo“wochizaoyouyitiangai”，bibushangcongmeitiandexiaoshizuoqi：zhudongbahuanxiyifurengjinxidiji，xiabanleshundaopeitaxihuanchidetangchaobanli，haijidejitadediandongchetizaochongwandian。

　　haopengyoulaozhaodechulifangshijiuhentiexin，tatoutoujiluxialailaopode“gouwuqingdan”：huanyigeshushidejingzhuizhen、maibenlaixiangkandeshu、chiyidunhuoguodian。suoyidangxisuiyuanwangbeiyiyishixian，laopoyanzhongdetifangyemanmanhuaweidadong。ganqingzhongdexinlai，shibeizheizhong“shishizaizaide”dezaiyizaicigoujiande。