wanhuiganqingfuhedezuijiafangfa,hunyinli,diediezhuangzhuangwukebimian。youxierenshuo,hunyinjiuxiangyitiaozhanghe,ouerhuiyoujingtaohailang,yeshiyouningjingshishikeke。danshi,dangliangrenguanxishenxianlengbaoli、fenqinaizhiliekaishi,yingdangruhenuliwanliu?womenyiqilailiaoliaozheiyiganqingxiufude“bixiukecheng”!
1. 先平静下来,给对方一些空间

dangfenqifashengdeshihou,xintaitongchangshidiyifanying。nikenenghuijuedebiequ、naonu,haixiangyizoulezhi。danqingjizhu,lizhibizhengzhigengyouliliang。
为何保持冷静?
qingxuhuahuihuafanerhuirangnantigengweiyanzhong。
pingjingxialainenggourangnizhongxinsikaowentidehexin,erfeijiujieshifeiduicuo。
具体方法
zanshifenkaiyihuier:lizhibingbudaibiaoduobi,ershitongguozishendiaozhengqingxu。jiaruneng,gaosutamen:“womendouyinggaiyidianshijianpingjingxialai,shaohouzailiaoyiliao。”
shenshizijinanti:zaineiduanlengqueqi,wenziji:zheiyichangzhengzhishiyouyuduifangnanti,huoshizijijiuyouyixieqingxubengkui?
2. 倾听,而非辩驳
henduofuqiganqingpolieyuanyinzaiyu,shuangfangxuyao“beirenlijie”,quewangjilequ“lejieduifang”。

lingting,shizuijiadegoutongdejiqiaozhiyi。
聆听的关键点
fangzhiqieduan:ruguoduifangqingtushi,jishinibuyunxuzheigeguandian,yeqingxixintinghou。
tonglixinbiaoshu:keyiyongyixie“wonenglijienideqingxu”huo“wokeyigaoqingchuniweishenmehuizheimexiang”dehua,nengrangduifangjuedebeirenlijie。
buyaojizhebianbo:wanjiuhunyindeguanjiansuozaibingbushizhengzhishifeiduicuo,fanershixunzhaojiejuewentixiangtongdian。
一个小技巧
ruguoduifangshuowan,bufangshishiyiju:“nizheizhongtihuiwoshizhendemeiyouyishidao,wohenganjiniyaogenwoshuo。”yishunjiannenghuanjiejinzhangqifen。
3. 诚信面对困难,学会放下斥责

hunyinshenghuodefengxi,yibanbushiyitiansuoxingchengde。wanliudediyibu,bianshitanrandimianduizheixiewenti。
要应对的个人行为
tuixiezeren:“zheibushiwodecuo,jiushiniyizhibulijiewo!”
tiguoqu:“zhiqiandoushizheiyang,nigenbenbuzaihuwo!”
fanguolai,nikeyizheiyangshuo:
“bicizhijianhaoxiangchuxiewenti,woxiangheniyiqijiejueta,erbushirangnantiyuelaiyuebijiaoyanzhong。”
“yexuwozaimouxiedifangzuodebugouhao,danxiwangyoujihuiqujiuzheng。”
为何学会放下斥责?
chizezhihuirangduifangzaochengjiebeixinli。
chengkendetaiducainengrangduifangkanjiannidegenggai,xiangyaoyiqinuli。
4. 再次构建爱的氛围
wanhuiganqingfuhedezuijiafangfa,hunyindeyiyishilianggerenchuanqizhifuchengxu,erfeiheyueguanxi。dangaiqingzhujianbianqian,shizhuyaoshicongqiande“lanman”。
zenyangfujianlianaideganjue?
zhuiyimeihaojiyi:zhaoyigejingmideyeli,yiqikankanjiehunshipin,huofanyifandajiaguoqudezhaopian,zhuiyicengjingdetianmisuiyue。
xijieshengchanzhizaowenxin:meiriyigeyongbao、yiju“xinku”huoyicizhenxindeganxie,douhuirangduifangkanjianniderenzhen。
yiqizuozijixihuandeshi:liru,yiqizuofan、sansanbu,huoshifanganyiciduantulvyou,ranqibicizhijiandereqing。
5. 学会妥协,寻找均衡点
hunyinli,wanmei“50/50fenpai”queshihennanwancheng。gengduodeshihou,shirangbuhebaorongdemeixue。
怎样让步?
duosheshenchudidesisuo:liru,tadegongzuofanmangshibushirangtahushilejiazhong?erbushiyiweihuxiangzhize“zhidongdemangzhegongzuo”。
shidufangxiazijidejianchibuxie:youshi,xiangyaozuochurangbu,bingbudaibiaoshudiao,fanershiranghunyinhuosheng。
zhongyaobiaozhun:junhengbicizhijianyaoqiu
hunyinjiushi“dajia”deshenghuozhuangtai,erfei“wo”deqianxian。xunzhaorangshuangfangdounengjieshoudejiejuefangfa,bizhengchaosheiyouyoushigengweizhongyao。
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