谈婚论嫁后怎么挽回婚姻

　　tanhunlunjiahouzenmewanhuihunyin，nishibushikandaoguozheiyangdehuamian?yiduiyiqianxingfudefuqi，youyusuosuizhengzhi、lengbaoli，zuihoulaidaoliyibianyuan。nidangpengyouhuozhejiaren，xiangquanhequebuzhidaoruhekaikou，shengpashuocuohuafandaojiutuobujue。shijishang，fuqiganqingpoliebukepa，gengkepadeshisheqixiufuhenyoukeneng。jinri，dajiajiukeyitongguozhenshigushihexinlixuefangfa，jiaodajia5geguanjianyinsu，xiezhufufuzhongxindianranaidehuoyan，ranghunyinjuedifengsheng。

　　第一步：聆听，而非说服教育

　　“nisuoshuodemeiju，doushizaiquedingtamenderensheng”

　　bushaorenzaiquanheshi，xihuanyongdaolikongxi：“weilebaobaorenrenba”“liyidiulian”……danzheizhongfangshitongchangdebuchangshi。yinweirenzaiqingxushikongshi，xuyaodebushipingding，ershijiangkandao、beirenlijie。

　　如何做?

　　xuehuifangxiaguandian，zhuanzhuyulingting：rangbicijiangchugezibiequ，liru：“womingbainizuijinhenlei，keyigenwoshuochunideganshouma?”。

　　buqieduan、bufanbo：jibiantingdaodeshimaiyuan，yeyaonaixintinghou。xinliyanjiushuoming，dangyigerenjuedebeilingtingshi，fennuzhijiuhuixiajiang50%。

　　shili：hubeiyiduifuqiyinpoxiguanxiyaolihun，renmindiaojieyuanwanguilangenju“beikaobeilingting”zhaodaowentiguanjian，congerranggonggongpopobanlixinfang，fuqiganqinghuanjie。

　　第二步：唤起共同回忆，复建情感联结

　　“aibuhuixiaoshi，jiushibeirichangshenghuoyanmai”

　　hunyinlizuizhimingdebingbushizhengzhi，fanershi“wangque”——wangjicengjingweishenmexianglian。genjuhuanqigongtonghuiyi，keyirangbicizaicijiandaobicizhijiandezhengui。

　　如何做?

　　zhengqueyindaozhuiyimeihaoshike：“haijidenimendiyicilvxingma?neishidajiaduokaixina!”。

　　yongzhaopian、wujiankaiqiqingxu：lirufanyuehunshazhao、xiaohaichushengshideduanshipin，ranglixingjibaikeguan。

　　shehuixinlixuegenju：danaoduimeihaohuiyiyoutianranlianlianbushe，zhuiyinengjihuoduobaandefenmi，lingrenzhongxindianranmanzugan。

　　第三步：正视问题，但“不提过去”

　　“hunyinxuyaochuliwenti，erfeichulilingyifang”

　　xuduofuqizhengchaoshi，huijiangchennianwangshifanchuzixiangcansha。quanhedeguanjianzaiyuduijiaoshixiafenqi，bingfeijiuchanbuqingyiwang。

　　如何做?

　　tanhunlunjiahouzenmewanhuihunyin，yong“feibaoligoutong”gongshijisuan：xushukeguanshishi+biaodaganshou+tixuqiu。biru：“zuijindenifeichangshaopeizhewo(keguanshishi)，wogandaogudan(tihui)，qidaimeixingqihuiyouyiciyouhui(yaoqiu)”(wangyeyemian5)。

　　disanfangdiaojiegenggaoxiao：jiarufenqifanza，tiyiqingzhuanyedehunyinzixunshi。jiangxifuzhoudehunyinjiatingfudaoshiyinianquanhe118gejiating，kaodeshijishuzhuanyexieshang。