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xihuanderentaoyanzijizenmeban？suhuashuo：“renheshiqingdoukeyinuli，zhiyouaiqingbuneng”。ruguonizhidaonixihuanderenbuxihuanni，tongchangyousanzhongfangfa。

 diyizhongshichixindaodi，jishishitongguogezhongshouduanhuodede，yeshisuoweide：“dedaotaderen，debudaotadexin”zuihoushoukudezhinengshiziji。

diershituijudier，hetazuopengyou，momodiguanxinta，xihuanta，qiantishinibunengshuonixihuanshenme，zheiyangdeanlianzhihuirangnigengtongku；

disanshiguoduanfangqi，xiangwangyujianghu。

01、迷恋到底，自己受伤了

zaizhumingzuojialuyaodexiaoshuo《pingfandeshijie》zhong，fuxianzhangdeerziliqianqianaishanglewenrou、meili、keaidetianrunye。suiranliqianqianmeiyoushangxiaxue，yemeiyouduhenduoshu，dantagenghuopo。tadeaihaoshikaiche。dangshi，jiashishirenmendelixiangzhiye。zheijiushisuoweide：“qicheyixiang，huangjinwanliang”dantianrunyexinzhongzhiyoutadeshaoange。

liyichuqupaoche，jiujitianrunyemailegezhongshimaodedongxihepiaoliangdeyifu，danrunyeyidianyebulingqing。danglixiangqiancongyiliangpaochehuilaishi，taqurunyedelaoshisusheherunyeliaotian。

runyezongshizhaojiekoupaochuqu。lixiangqianbujindasaolerunyedesushe，haibaluzishangdechaihuozhenglidezhengzhengqiqi，zheizhenrangtianrunyefangan。jibianruci，lixiangqianrengranchimiyugaibian。

xihuanderentaoyanzijizenmeban？tianrunyexinzhongdesunshaoanyinweijiatingyuanyinyiranfangqilerunye。yiweimingjiaohexiuliandemingjiaohexiuliandenvzijiehun。tianrunyexianruleshiliandetongkuzhizhong。tongshi，youyurunyeermahelijiadeyali，tianrunyezuizhongjiajilelixiangqian。

raner，tianrunyejujuelvxingqizideyiwu，zheiranglixiangqianfeichangshengqi。ku、ma、chaojiadoumeiyong。jiuliantianrunyeyebagongzuozhuandaoleqitadifang，fuqiliangguozhemingbujianjingchuandeshenghuo。

aitianrunyedeliqianxintong，xianranshiranshiyiduifuqi，dantawufadedaorunyedewennuanheai。yigecengjingkuailedenianqingrenbujinxuehuilexiyan，erqiejingchanghejiu。hezuihou，tazaiwubianwujideshamozhonghaojiao，zheirangtadeqizihexiongditianrunshengwufarenshou。

youyici，lixiangqianhezuihou，takaichesonghuo。jieguo，tachulechehuo，shiquleshuangtui。zheishi，tianrunyeturanhuiyiqizhuanyi，jilelixiangqiandeaihewenrou。congneishiqi，tamenguozhexingfudeshenghuo。

suiranzaizhumingzuojialuyaodexiaoshuo《pingfandeshijie》zhong，chimideliqianqianzhongyudedaolecengjingbuxihuantadetianrunyedeai，dantadexinshiduometongku，tafuchuleduoshaodaijia。

xianzaixiangrunyezheiyangshanliangdenvhaikenengbuduole。jintiandenvhaizhuiqiuta“sanbu”yuanze，bujieshou，bujujue，bufuzeren，ruguolixiangqianyudaozheiyangdenvhai，tazhudingshibeiju。

02、默默等待，关心体贴

nannvzhijianyouchuncuideyouyima？zhihugaozan：“shide，jiusuannanrenshalewoyebushuowoxihuanni，nvrensideshihoujiazhuangbuzhidao，haoxiangshenmedoumeifashengguo”。

suhuashuo：“shijieshangzhiyouliangyangdongxishizangbuzhude。yigeshidapenti，lingyigeshiai。”yinci，henduonannvzhijiandechuncuiyouyi，yibandoushiyigechidenanrenmomowuwendefuchu。

dangwodepengyouxiaodongshangdaxueshi，tamilianshangleyanzi。meigezhoumo，tadouyaozuosigeduoxiaoshidegongjiaochequyanzisuozaidexuexiaokanta，dantazhidaoyanzibuxihuanta。

yanzizongshibatadediyigenanpengyouzangzaixinli，yongyuanbuhuiwangji。danyexuwoyijingxiguanlexiaodongdepeiban。yanzihexiaodongzaiyiqi。tamensuoweidepengyouzaiyiqi，yiqichangge，yiqipashan，yiqichihe。tamencongweikuaguoleichi。

zhuanyanjian，yanziyuxibeibudeyigechengshiqiandinglehetong，erxiaodongyutieluxiangmubuqiandinglehetong。zuoweiyimingcaiwurenyuan，tagensuixiangmububianbuquanguo。

jibianruci，xiaodongmeigeyuedouhuiquyanzisuozaidechengshi，bangyanzixiyifu，tuodi，daitachanggekandianying。yanzibuxihuanyuangongsushe，suoyixiaodongfuqianjitazuleyitaogongyu。jibianruci，tamenrengranbuzaiyiqi。

turanyouyitian，yanzigaosuxiaodongtayaojiehunle。xiaodongbeibaoweile。nibushishuonibunengwangjinidediyifengongzuoma？wopeiniwangjile，danwodenglezheimeduonian，nituranxianghebierenjiehun。neitian，xiaodonghezuile，kudeyituanzao。tawulunruheyebumingbaiweishenmetadeaidebudaohuibao。

congwomendepengyouxiaodongshenshang，womenkeyikandao，bushitabunengwangjitadediyigenanpengyou，ershinibuzhidetawangji。dangtaxinzhongdeneigerenchuxianshi，tahuiwangjiyiqie，baokuoniqibaniandemilian。

xiaodongbuzhidaodeshi，duiyuyigebuxihuanniderenlaishuo，jishitafuchugengduo，yeshitulaode。jianglaizhiyoutazijihuishouku。shangxinjuewangdexiaodongjiajileyigechuzhongbiyedenvhai。womendouweitagandaonanguo。womendouhenyanzidanwutataijiu，shangdetaishen。

03、果断放弃，忘记江湖

zaiqingganshijieli，youxierenqingxingerzizhi。dangtamenyudaotamenxihuandenvhaishi，dangtafaxiannvhaibuxihuanzijishi，taguoduandifangqile，jihushiwuqingde。danshiyouxieren，dangtamenyudaotamenxihuandenvhaishi，jishiduifangbuxihuantamenziji，tamenrengranmiliantamen，momodifuchu。

 zuihou，tamenzhinengrenshouzijidetongku。womenchengzhiweizhongshiganqingderen，danzaixianshishenghuozhong，neixiewuqingderenwangwangbineixiezhongshiganqingderengengnengchuliganqing。

xiaoyizaiqingganshijielishiyigexiangduiqingxingderen。dangtayudaotaxihuandenvhaishi，tahuizhuiqiu，dandangtafaxiannvhaibuxihuanzijishi，taguoduandifangqile。yigexihuantadenvhaichengrentabuxihuanta，yecongbutuoyan，zhijiehecanrendijujue。

 tacengjingaiguomeigeren，yebeiaiguo。xianzaitazhaodaoleyigejiaotashidideerxi，shengleyigenver，guozhexingfuershirundeshenghuo。

yinci，dangnifaxianzijixihuanderen，buxihuandeshihou，buyaojixu，zhengsuowei：“ruguoninabuzhushazi，zuihaobatajuqilai”zuizhongyaodeshiyaoguoduanfangqi，tigaoziji，huaxiang，zhediezifei，zhudingyaoyouyigegenghaodenvhaidengzheni。

dangnilikaiyigecengjingrenweizijiyishengdoumiliantadenvhai，jinianhou，dangnizaicijianmianshi，nihuifaxianweishenmenihuiyouzheiyangdeganjue，tajiushizheiyang，feichangyibana。

xihuanderentaoyanzijizenmeban？zai《sanshisui》zhong，wangmannideqiannanyouyizhizaineilidengdaiwangmannidehuigui，danjishiwangmanniyijingjinpilijin，beipohuidaojiaxiang，tayebuxiangheqiannanyouhehao。suoyi，ruguonizhidaonixihuanderenbuxihuanni，buyaojixu，guoduandifangqi。“renheshiqingdoukeyinuli，danaishibukenengde”。