对于恋爱结婚当中出现了第三者，怎么对付

 meimeitidaoxiaoguafudisanzhedeqingkuangxia，meinvmenyizhihuiyaotoutanxi，muguanglichongmanlenaonuhebaoyuan。aishishenmenizheixiezhangfuzaiwaimiandashangxiaoguafudenvxing，qingxuzeaitongdaowuyiyanbiaodeshuiping，lianaijiehuntamenyouchouhuaizhe，buzhidaoruhelaijiejuezheileigangadejingyu。

 xiaoguafudisanzhewangwangwufayingdui，jiuqujueyuzheizhongxiaoguafudeguannianlimeiyoushuobailedefufuheqinziguanxideguanshu，tamenbazijishizuoxinshenziyouzhe，yuanyutongzhendenianyaolaizhaoyigenanshengyituo。yinci，tamendeneixinfujiuganjiaodi，youyudabufendexiaoguafudisanzhe，dabufenshulizishenbumulingyifangmingyulihejinqian，danqiuzhaoyigenanshengdaqingmaqiaolaipumangudujimodexinshen。neiyangdedisanzhe，lianmianyibanpianhou，xiangtiaoxuexichongyiyang，laolaodibolitiezainanshengdeshenshang，chufeishinanshengzishenbaochiqingxingdiguannianlaidaobuzhengque，chaoqianglipaokaita，buran，tahuiyizhinianfuzhenansheng，zhaojiabuzhu。

 zhaoshangxiaoguafuzuodisanzhedenansheng，qilizudianbianshibuyuandanfuguoduodehunwailianyiwu。yifangmian，yuxiaoguafuzaiyiqi，meiyoulaiyuanyulingyifangqinpenghaoyoudaozhideyouxinghuahuowuxingzhongdegongzuoyali，xiangduixingyibandisanzhelaijiang，nanshengyixiaoguafuzuodisanzhe，bicizhijiandexiangchuhuodonghuisuiyibianjiexie，shaolexuduo jushuhebubian;lingyifangmian，nanshengyongyou jiqiangdegerenyingxiongzhuyiqinghuai，yingduiziranyishen、hanqingmaimaidexiaoguafu，tongchanghuizhituoshengfalianmin、tongqingheaihuzhiqing，dangzheileixinlizhuangtaideanchaomeiyouhuodejinkenengdiyizhi，bianhuiyijianzhongqing，zhuanhuanweiyuxiaoguafudechugui。

怎样应对小寡妇第三者，实际上女性能够做的也就是2件事：

 diyi、yuzhangfujiaoxin。ruguonilejiezhangfuchuguidezhuangkuanghou，buguannideqingxushizenyangdeaitong，yexuehuijianqiangyingdui，jiejinquanlishizishenzhendingyidian，danaotounaoqingxing。nixuyaopangjiaocejidixianluniderenzhihexintai，lianaijiehunbingliejuyixiexiangduidexiaoguafudisanzheshili，qiangdiaozheileihunhouchuguigerenxingweiduijiatinghunyindesunhaiyufensuidu。renzaisuonanmianzuocuoshi，yingdangyaobulinyujiyuzhangfuhuiguozixindejiyu，jishijianhekongjianshitaxunsuqujiejuezheiyiduanhaowudaolideganqing。bubisuibianjiangchuliyi，changshijixianghuyigehuanjiedejiyu。

 dier、tishengziwo，bianhuanxinlizhuangtai。jiranshierzaoyifashengle，zuizhongyaodeshiganjinjiejuekunnan，bibushangjianxinzhangfu，cuicutaquzixingchuli，dannizezhongshitigaogerenxiuyang，bujizishenguodadejingshenyali，zhaoliaohaobaobao，aixizishen，fangzhidangpofu，haofeizishenzhenguideshijianhehuoli。yebubiquzhaodisanzhe，xiangtashuomingzishenduizhangfudeqingyi，yinqitadezerenxin，huozheduitashifangweixiezheixie，zheizhongdoubingbushizuilixianghuadeqingxudiaojie，guigenjiedi，zheihaihuijixubuliyuzishendezizunhepinxing。bibushangbianhuanxinlizhuangtai，batakanzuoshiduifuqiguanxideyigemolian，shizuoduizishenhunhoushenghuodeyigexindelejie，sisuozaocheng zhangfuchuguidebujingyihebiranqushiyaosu，zaijinyibujiejuekunnan。

 nvxingbuyongyouyidiquyingduixiaoguafudisanzhe，nvxingyaoshihaohaoditengxizishen、guanhuaizishen、aishishenmenizhuiqiuwanmeiyouzhiliangderichangshenghuo，tadeshenshangsuoshifangchudejingshenshizhiqichangbianhuiganqidaobieren，yaoshizhangfuzhendexihuanni，tahuizhenshidiganshoudaoneiyangdexifushiwukequdaide。