恋爱咨询：为什么我老是遇到渣男?

 lianaizixunyoushenma？zaiqianbujiujieshoudeganqingdianziyoujianzhong，fajueyouneimeyileidianziyoujian，juqingshangmianyouxuduo leisidian，liru：lejiebushangyizhounvhaijiutongyishangchuangle，jieguolingyifangfanlianwuqing;beitadehuayanqiaoyuchudongtongyile，jieguolingyifangchuguipichugelianheguozuzhi;chibuzhutadeqiangliejingongjienale，jieguobushangyigeyuejiuwuyuanwugufenshou……neimelianaizhongderenbiaoxianyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanlianaizhongdiandewenzhangba。

zheizhongnvhaigenwoshuo：weishalaoshiyudaozhanan?

 rujindenvhaiyebushishagua，yudaozhananyihou，chiyiqianzhangyizhi，yibujinjinyoukuyounao，huifanshengbenshenyoushenmexiyinzhuhuaxinnandetexing，sisuozenyangjiejuehuaxinnan。manglaihuizongleyixiafeichangrongyixiyinzhulaihuaxinnandenvhaidetexing，jianyishuliyouxialiesanlei：1.sha。2.sha。3.shanvren。

 shenmejiao“shanvren”?shanvrenbingbushizhenshazi，bingbushizhilimingxiandiyuzhengchangren，yebushiqingshangzhishangmingxiandiyuzhengchangren。shanvrende“sha”，shisiweinianqinghua。shibeibierenmailehaibangzongshuqian，shinvhanzhideshenmengmeizhidexin，shishenglinianling38zhishangqingshang18。shanvrenduitanlianaitianmanxiangxiang，danbuhuitanlianai。duinanrentianmanqidai，danbumingbainanrendeyaoqiu。zongganjueshijieshangmeiyouzhenshidehuaidan，keshiyoubianbiebuchulaiyoulie。dangnvhaichuyuzheiyihuanjiedeqingkuangxia，jiuhenrongyiyinlaihuaxinnan。

 shanvrenbingbushizhenshazi，tamenshishifenyiqiezhengchangdenvsheng，jinjinxiangjiaobiedenvhaier，jinpoganchaleyidian。lianaizixunyoushenma？congxiaobeibabamamajiaoguanzhangdaledenvhai，yehuiyongtongyangdexintailaijiaoguanzheishijie，jiusuanchiyixiekuiyebuzaiyi，quebuzhidaoxiaokuidoukenchi，dakuidangranyehenjinle。

 shanvrende“sha”shijieduanxingde，shanvrennanyiyishidaozishende“sha”，dantamenzaozhongwanhuiyishidaozishengaibianconghui，shoulongquexinyaner，zhongzhishenjingdatiao，yuelaiyueshenzhongjimin，lirufenshouhoudeqingkuangxia。meiyigeconghuinvhaidouyiqianshishanvren，youyujingliguozuishadezishen，nvhaimencaizhidao“conghui”zhenduiyigeshidanlibodenvrenyouduoguanjian。

 shanvrende“sha”yeyouyileizhuyaobiaoxian：youyudanxinfushang，yinci butanlianai。tanlianairutongduqian，zuoshanguanhudou，nenggouquebaonidezichanburongyijiangdi，danyeshizhongburongyizengjia，dangtarendezichanzengjiadeqingkuangxia，butanlianaidenirengranzhiliuzaiyuandibudong，meiyouyiqiefazhan，erqieyouyuzhangqixingbutanlianai，niduinanrendepanduannenglishuaitui，chidun，yulaiyubulingqiao，wufashibienanrendezhuguanyinsu，yudaozhanandegailvyehuiyulaiyugao。

 tanlianaidemudibingbushirang2geshenaiderenzaiyiqi，yiqieshunliguoshanghunrizidexingfudeshenghuo，zhishirang2gebuzuwanmeiderenzaiyiqi，hubanghuzhubianweideziji。yiner，ruguonihuanshi“shanvren”deqingkuangxia，henaxiedenanrenzaiyiqi，jibenshangjueceleninengbianchengnaxiedenvren。zhangqixingbutanlianaidenvhai，huizhujiansangshitanlianaidezijuexing，zhangqixingyuanditabuzou，meiyouyiqiefazhanyuzhuanbian，haonanrenjuedetabuzuhao，yudaozhanandejilvyegaoxie。

 lianaizhongdianyoushenme？dangnvhaihuanshishanvrendeqingkuangxia，nanrenruguoyouxiangzheliaomei，shanvrenjiuchuleibacui，shishidezheshoumubiao，youyupaoshanvrenbuhuafeiguoduoshijian，yiliangjuhuayanqiaoyujiuzugoubatamenmideqihunbasu，yidianxiaoenxiaohuijiukeyichudongtamen，xiangbijishaochengduodetouru，shanvrengengjianxinxinkoukaihedefuwuchengnuo。huaxinnandemuguanghenqianbo，duanqineineigaobudongyigenvren，bianhuihuanbieren，qineihaihuijixugesanchawuzhuanguotoulaitiaodouliaoboyixia，kanhaiyoumeiyoufashengguanxidehenyoukeneng。duibibiedenvhai，shanvrenhaonaxia、haokengpian，jialianwumei、xingjiabigao，zenhuibuxiyinzhuhuaxinnan?

 dainiyibushi“shanvren”，ninengjuyouyiyanjianbiechuhuaxinnandemuguang。huaxinnanzuozeixinxuzuoguoduo，mianbuleyixiedanxu，weilegenghaodirangneixinhaoguodian，tamenyouqikanbushangqizhitaiqiangdenvren，youyuzaizheizhongqiangdanvrendeshenshangtamenwufadedaoyiqieyichu。

 ciwai，renshenglumanmanshangpengdaoyilianggehuaxinnan，shijishangbushishenmehendadeshier，dajiadangjinhuanjiedeyaoqiujueceledajiahuimishangshenmeyangderen，womenkeyiziwodiaokanshiyigeqianbodenvren，shigeshanvren，beinanrendexiaoenxiaohuichudong，danwuxuduiyucishinanyishihuai，zhongjiuwenchongbudingwufengpinjiededan，yudaozhananyiqian，dajiabenshenjiucunyouzhongduonanti，huaxinnanshijinggaozhong，pengdaotamenjiuyiweizhedajiahulvebenshendenantihaozhangshijianle，yinci caihuibeihuaxinnanchengxuerru，congzheiyishijiaoeryan，yudaozhananyebuyidingshicuoshi。

 lianaizhongderen,huaxinnanshidajiarenshenglushangdelaoshi，zaidajialanduodeqingkuangxiajiyuhouzhongdeyipibian，cujindajiachengzhang，bianchenggengqiangderen，shiwomenzhenqiehaijideyigedadaoli：suoweiaiqing，bingbushijinshangtianhua，zhishihualongdianjing。