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1.haoshieryizhiyongbudaoni，cuoshitangzheyezhongqiang。

2.weipenyouliangleichadao，jieguobeipenyouchashangjidao。

3.bashanjierenyihelianminzuoweibushi，duisheidouji，jieguolingyifangbamengpianhechushouzuoweishouyi。

4.juedeshenbianderenquanshishanren，jieguozuiqinmiwujianderentongchangshihuaidan，youyutongxingxiangchi。

5.changchangbeibierenqidai，jieguoranglingyifangxinhan。

6.touruxuduo keshishouyifeichangshao。

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