爱的语言 如何维护长期关系?

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 xunzhaoyifenainidaodiyouduomenan?youzheyifenqingjiujingyouduogui?woguoderenneimeduo，nayigecaijiushiwonage?youweishenmejintianhaishishanmengermingrijiuyidijimao?aiyougaizenyanglengzang?

 “yueshangliushaotou，renyuehuanghunhou”delanman，jiujingzangzheshiduoshaobulvweijiandeshazhaohoumian?zaiwenrouxiangfuchendedajia，aideyuyanshishenmeni？douhuiyongyicicichangshicuowulaijiechushengmingzhongzuizhongyaodexingfukuailemituan……

闪灯還是不闪灯?

 jiarunikankan《feichengwurao》yingdanglejie，nvhaiermiedengdaibiaozheduinanteyaojiabinmeiyouxingquaihao。zai《zhongguorenyuehuidiaochabaipishu》zhong，dajiafajueyou22%derenburongyitiaoxuanyudiyiyinxiangbutaihaoderenzaiduyouhui。

shenmekeyiyinrandajiadexindeng?

 duiyuneryan，dangtajiandaonanhaizidiyimianshipoyoudongxinzhiyi，danhuranfaxiantadeyilingyoulingrenzhenjingdeyouji，yongcandeqingkuangxia，jingranshiqizhuozidiaodemilishishiransongjinzuizhong，talijijigainanmiedeng。

 erfengerganjue，dangtajiandaoyigenanrenshengzheqikanshouji，huoshidixiatouyongcanyiyanbufadeqingkuangxia，tadefeijiukuaiqizhale，tadeqiannanyoushiweixinpengyouquanhenhaowandekaixinguo，fangyanwangququanshishengxianghuangexiaoyu，tawufarongrenzishenzhishenningjiedeqitili，tashitayouxiaodaodashushidanshidejuedele。

 yinci dangyunjiandaoyigeshifenganjingdenanshengdeqingkuangxia，tadexindoukuaihuale，kezuizhongzaitadeshoujilifajuelenantongdexiangpian;erfengerdeyihuoshinanyoujiujingshisheidenanguazi?

 yun2020nian27sui，taturangangkaishidanxin，youyutafajueqiyemeiyiniandoushihuijinquyixiegeng“xinxian”denvhaier，tadepifuyanseyutamenbiqilaizaoyiyixiequbiele。tagangkaishiyihuo，jiujingnanhaizishifouzaihuzheizhong?tahaipaxiangxiang，jiarunianlingzaidaxialai，tashifouhuixiangjianjiandidiaoxiedexinxianshuiguo，pobudeyi“saleidazhecuxiao”?zhiqiantamiedengdeqingkuangxiaguoduan，danrujintagangkaishidanxin，fangfotameimieyigedeng，jiuxiaomiezishenyigehenyoukenengdejiyu，erzheixie“youji”hemili，queshirangtananyirenshou。

 fengerjiaoda deyihuoshi，nanrenjiujingyaoshenme，youyutajiandaoxuduo nanhaizidenvpengyouyemeiyoutahaokan，danshiweihetamenquebianchengyidui?

youyigemeiguonvhaiyehetayouyiyangdeyihuo，tazaiwangluoshangdejinrongluntantichuwenti：

 zijiershiwusui，feichangpiaoliang，xiangjiageinianxin50wanmeijinderen。zheiyibanshangyoumuyouxinzichaochuwushiwanderen?dajiadoujiehunlema?wozhenxinchengyidiqiujiaozhuweiyigenanti——zenmecainengjiageiyigefuren?weiheyixiefushangdelaopokanshangquqimaobuyang，erdanshenyedianlizheixiemisirendepiaoliangmeinvqueyunshibujia?

huaerjiejinrongjiadehuitieyixia：

 congzuoshengyideshijiaokanlai，gennijiehunshigecaogaodeyunyingguanlijuece。dadaolizaigaoqingchudanshi，nichangshuodeshiyibijianyide“caimaomaimai”，danniderongmaohuixiaoshi，keshiwodeshouyiquehenkenenghuizhujianzengzhang。yiner，nishidiaojiacaichan，keshiwoshishengzhicaichan。duiyijianhuijiakuaidiaojiadecaichan，mingzhidexuanzeshizuyong，erbushigoumai。shundaishuoyiju，nidaonenggouxiangbanfabazijibianweinianxin50wanderen，zheibiyudaoyigefuyoudeshazideyingmianyaoda。

 aideyongheng,yinci youxierenhuizongmouhunlianjiemushangdenvhaierdexuqiuzhibuguoshi：fuyou、shuai、zhongchengshifoujiqiyouduoaizishen。danshijiujingdajiayouzheshenmekeyiyouzhenaxie?——dajiaduideqishangyaoxiangyouzhedema?dajiahenagenanrenqiguxiangdangma?

bonade.ermotanjuede，zhenduiyigexinairen，yousanleixinxineirongweihaizheguanliandefazhanqushi：

 cijixing——zuikaishiyushangdeqingkuangxia，tamenduixianghudexiyinzhuguanjiangenju“cijixing”xinxineirong，baohannianji、biaomiandeyouhuolidengxianzhudetedian。

 shiyongjiazhi——zai“shiyongjiazhi”huanjie，xiyinzhuzaiyuxintaihexinnianshangdeleisi，dajiagangkaishizhangwotamenshibushixiaiyiyangdeshicai、yingpianhexiuxianyulefangfa。

 renwujiaose——“renwujiaose”dejianrongmoshiyuelaiyueguanjian，airenmenzuihouhuifajuetamenzaizuofumu、gongzuo、jiajudenggeleirichangshenghuomeirirenwudejichucengmianshibushiyizhi。airenzhongjianbansuizheguanlianfazhanqushidesangehuanjiemanmantishengzhangwo。

 ruguowomenyouhuiyuechuqudequanshilirushibushiyouquanshenjirou、bojinchuxukahuoshikaishenmechehaoneiyangdehuati，dajiayejiuzaiyouhuidediyigefangmian，zheiyifangmiandelianjieshifeichangrongyikailiede，yeguaibudezaitongjifenxizhong，youyibanrenduiyouhuidouyixinhanerguizuoweijieguo，youyuyouhuizhongjiushiganqingdexiangrong，yaoshimeiyoushiyongjiazhiherenwujiaosefangmiandegoutongjiaoliu，zheileiguanlianbidingzhiliuzaiqianbodefangmian。aideyishu,dajiazuichunfengdeyidejiarujinjinfengzi，jiuhaowuyiwenbawomenzijidihuiweicaishimaidefanqiele。erruguowomenyebalingyifangdangzuoshiqianjiahemingxingzhaodehua，yefeichangrongyiranglingyifangjuededaonideganqingdeqianlou。