第一次约会聊什么？ 是我不可爱吗？

 shiwobukeaima？shizhijinri，dalingshengnvzaoyibianchengyizhongshehuirenzhinanti，haoxiangjuguoshangxiadouhuiguanxinzheiyirenqun。youxierenhaozhaodalingshengnvyaoxuehuifangxiagaoaozida，caikeyijiejuedalingshengnvzhenshishenfen;yeyouxierenshiyongdalingshengnvmenyaojianchibuxiezishen，zhaobuzheshihedeguoduanbujia。shubuzhisheiyounengzhenshizhangwodalingshengnvzheiyizhenshishenfendenankanni?tarenwenduodaledouguoyibuqubaozhenzhengnianji;chunjiehuijiahaipabaomingcanjialaotongxuejuhui;jiandaotongxuemenpenyouzaishineikongjianshaijiehunzhaoertongzhao，zishenzhiyoushaidanshenzhao;xiangqinyuehuiquanguochengzhongpengdaodegezhonggeyangqiguai，duocidianranqidairenweizhenaijiuxuyaodaolai，daozuizhongqueyeshiguowangyunyandewukenaihe。neimerenrendoushuowoainiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanshijiehewoaizhenixinlixuedewenzhangba。

 dalingshengnvmenshijishangyeshifenqipanxunzhaoyigezuiaideren，xianglianjiangchiyizhidaolao。dankeguanshishihaoxiangzongbibushangrenyi，jiandaobierenliyidouerhunle，huanshimeiyouduideren，duideneirenjiujingzainaerni?shijishang，gaibudiaobuzhengquedezishenjiushizhongyubushangdongnideren。genjuduidalingshengnvhejihunnvshierzhekaizhanguanchafajue，beishengyudezheixienvshengzaizhaoduixiangxinlizhuangtaishangtarulelianaidexinlizhuangtaicuowuguannian，tamenyaoxiangzhaodeneileirenyagenbuhuiyouhuoshifenfenqi。yaoxiangxunzhaodongnideren，shiwobukeaima？huanshiyaogaizhengbuzhengquedezishen。

1、过度自身的恋爱心理状态

 quandouguidinglingyifangtingzishende，conglaibuzaiyilingyifangshizenmexiangde，lingyifanghuiyounaxietihui、yaoqiu、xihaoyibuzhongyao，yaoshiyiziwoweizhongxinjiuxing，henbunengjianglingyifangdeshenshangquanbude“gexinghua”douyiwangdajin，zhanjinshajue，dazaochuyigezishennengjienahekanzhongde“haohaodinansheng”。yuanxianlianaide“buxing”jiuzheiyangwenshide，zhibuguoshizheierdezhurengongyigeshizishen，lingyigeyidingshizishendenanpengyou。

2、眼高手低的恋爱心理状态

 tashiyizhongxinbitiangaozhidacaishu，bukeyikeguanxingduidaizishendexinlizhuangtai。zaishehuijingjigenjuhunyinshenghuohuo“rangwaibixianannei”defangfalaigaibianxianzhuangdeyunshibucengbuneng，danmeiyoupiaoliangmeinvdeduiwu，jiububichaoshehuijingjixuedefanweilizuan，neishibushijide，yeshichilibutaohaode，yeshijiangjiade。zheirutongnabingkuaiwangluzishangkao，burongneishibutaikenengde。xianshishenghuozhongyouhenduowupinshibixuyongduidenglaihuodede，lianaihehunyinshenghuoyibuliwai。yinci zaikanzishendeqingkuangxia，bixuyouyigekeguanxing、gongping、qiuzhenwushidemuguanghexintai，yifangguohou“meilianqujianjiangdongfulao”，zheijiaoshiyanerfei，shizhijizhibibaizhanbaisheng

3、敏感多疑的恋爱心理状态

 xintaijibuwending，xiaishixiaopiqi，changyizishendeaihaolaiyingzaolingyifang，changyongzigaozidadediaochongxiaojilaimolianhecuicanlingyifang，shaoyoubuchengxinruyi、bushunxinhuozhelingyifangruoyouniyi，bianhuiyongyikuernaosanfenshoulaiweixielingyifang。zaizheigequanshijie，luoyeyemeiyouliangkuaitongyangde，genghekuangshilaiziyu2gebuyiyangjiazhongderenni。zhenduilianaizhongdereneryan，suiranlixingzheileiwupinyixieqingkuangxiashibutaiguanyong，danbixuderentonghekuanrongshibukeyishaode。

4、从众心理随流的恋爱心理状态

 qianquexiangfa，kanshaquanshitarendehao。tarenjianghaobianhui“renshengdeyimatiqing”，bierenshuobutaihaobianhui“chefengfalibaihuican”。caigaobadoubeikanzhongdeqingkuangxia，zishenyegensuikanzhong;qiancaiyingxianglihuoredeqingkuangxia，zishenyegensuiqiang。gendaoyidingshuiping，qiangdaozuizhongbuqingchuzishendaodibixudeshisha?danwulunnayizhong，doubixuchouzhunle，bubikanzouleyan，nongcuolerenjiuxiangdangyunongcuolehunyinshenghuo。buzhengquedehunyinshenghuorutongrenzitidacuoleqianggen，nifeiledabantiandejingzongsuanpashangrenzitidedingbu，quefajuerenzitidacuoleqianggen，chulaideqingkuangxia，qizhongdehuiyihejiankujinyouzishenzuiqingxi。chuxinbenlaishixiangzhaoyigehaode，jieguomeichouzhun，kanzouleyan，yinrenyunyiyunerduansonglezishendexingfuaiqing，zheijiaoyinxiaoshida。

5、过度实际的恋爱心理状态

 “menbudanghubudui”dangranshilianaihunyinshenghuodeyouxuan，nenggoufangzhijiehunhouhenduoduoyudebubian。dantaiguo“shigan”，tongchouweitainong，huiranglingyifangzhangerheshangmobuzhetounao，fenbuqingaideshiqianhuanshiren?nongbuhaolianzishendoujianbiechubulaibaaiqingfangdaolenaer?jiaruaiqingzaixinzhong，qingchadanfanyiyangnenggouzhuangtimeirongyangyan。

6、盲目跟风的恋爱心理状态

 huobihuoyougoutou，renbirenmeibentou。mangmupanbimeigerendoushihuiyou，nantishiyongdaohaolabianshiqudongli，yongdebutaihaojiushishufu。erdelongwangshushiyixielianaizhongdenvxingfeichangrongyituxiandexinlizhuangtai，tarenyoudeyinweiwodeyou，tarenmeiyoudewogengdeyou。jingchangxiaigentarenbiqian、biku、biyingxiangli，pianyaobubiwennuan、zhenxinheqinggan，shijianjiule，baquandoubimeiyoule。

7、不劳而获的恋爱心理状态

 shijiehewoaizheni,fanlaizhangkouyilaishenshoudeshenghuosheibuyuan，buyuandeyidingshidinenger。danyebukeyiconghuideguoquletou，yizhiyubatazuoweiyizhongmoulvehefangshi，daotoulaichidakuidezhiyoushizishen。qizhinvrenqinglvchujiayaolianjiayoudaozaixian，buranzongshibatarenhetuile。

8、完美主义者的恋爱心理状态

 baqinglvkandeguodulixinghua，yinciguifandingdetuolishiji，“zhaitaigaozhu”，chaoguoleshijidehenyoukeneng。qibuzhi，beinikanzhongdebuyidingheshiyuni，heshiyunidebuyidingbeinikanzhong。

 zongjie：renrendoushuowoaini,dalingshengnvmenyaoxunzhaozishendeaiqingchukaizaixiankefuzhishangbuzhengquedelianaixinlizhuangtaiwai，haiyouyigehaoyongdexiaofangfabianshiduoyunishenpangzheixiejihuntongxuemenliaoyiliao，tamenzuoweiyoujingyanrenhuirangnichushiyigebuyiyangdeduidainanshengkanhunyindeshijiao，shirangzishenzaizhaoduixiangexingshijianshanggengkeguanxingdeyigefangfa。danhaiyaoliuyifangzhiyixiebuliangyingxiang，jihunnvshiduomaiyuan。