情感咨询不肯退款投诉有用吗?女孩子怎样提高情商？

 qingganzixunbukentuikuantousuyouyongma？henduorendoulejieqingshangzhishangdebiyaoxing，lejieyoutadebaojiahuhang，motu、facailudengcaihuigengchenggongxie，yehuirangshenbianrenganjuexinkuangshenyi。

neizenmecainengyouzheqingshanggaoni?

说白了“高情商”的人无非这两个方面

 wojuedemeiyigerenzhendui“qingshangzhishang”dejiedinghenyoukenengbuyiyang，danxiangxinmeiyourenhuifoudingyigerendeqingshangzhishangyiyangguanjian。

qingshangzhishangjinyouzaiyigerenyubierenzaochenglianjiedeqingkuangxiacaigengyouyiyi。

 youyutangruoyigerenbuyongyusuoyourenxiangchu，neimatadeqingshangzhishanggaoaidouburongyiweihaidetaren，qingshangzhishangyejiumeiyouyiyi。

yinci ，worenwei，qingshangzhishangshikaoliangyigerenweihaibierenqingxubodong(zhenglianhuofumianxinxi)dezhibiaozhi。

 dajiazhaoxunairendeqingkuangxia，chukaikaolvdaolingyifanggezhonggeyangyingjianpeizhishiyongjiazhi(biaomian、jingjifazhanbiaozhundeng)，haihuijixuchongfenkaolvhenzhongyaodetexing：

genzheigerenjiaowangshibushiqingqingsongsong、yukuai、shufu。

yigegaoqingshangdenvsheng，bidingyouzhezheileigongzuonengli，dangranyekeyitisheng tazainannvguanxizhongderuanshiyongjiazhi。

juwobenrenguancha，shuobailegaoqingshangderen，doubidingjuyouerzhonggongzuonengli：

qingganzixunbukentuikuantousuyouyongma？mingbaizunzhongbierendeyaoqiu;

shanyufajuebierendejijizhudongdian。

想提高情商?能够从这四个层面下手

1)调整情绪

jiaruniyaobianchengyigegaoqingshangderen，neiwubijuyouyigezuijibenbingqiemeifachaoyuedebiyaotiaojian——wendingqingxu。

tigaoqingshangyouhenduozhaoshu，danjiaruyigenvshengxintaihenbuwending，shoudiancijixingjiuqingxubengkui、gerenxingweipianji。

neimazongranzheiyinvshengpingshizaiweishenmehuizuitianmaiguai，neiyebutaikenengbaoliuzhuneixin。

youyuwomenyaogaoqingchuyigeshehuixinlixueshangdekeguanshishi：

zhenglianxintaifeichangrongyixiaotui，erfumianqingxuzefeichangrongyijilei。

lirumouyitiantingleyigehenhaoxiaodeduanzi，henyoukenengxiaoyixiaojiuwangjile;

 danjiarunibeilaobanxunleyidun，ninanshouqueyoubukeyibianbo，neikenengdemihuobujiehaojitian，bingqiehenyoukenenghuiyinerbuxihuannidelaozong。

 yinci jiarunidepiqibaozao，zongshiranglingyifangjileiduinidefumianqingxu，neimenizongranzuodezaiduoyelabuhuijianidechengji。

pingwendexintai，wulunshizairichangshenghuogongzuozhonghuanshiganqingguanlianzhong，doushihuijinishouyifeiqian。

zhenduixintaifeichangrongyibuwendingdenvsheng，jiaodajiayigeyouxiaodefangshi：

纪录“情绪日记”。

 maiyigebenzi，meirizaizishenxintaiyouqifu(jijizhudonghuoxiaochen)deqingkuangxia，jiuzaibenzihshangjilu“shijian、xintai、pingfen(-5～+5)、exingshijian”。

 jianchibuxie，niyejiuhuiyulaiyurenshizijidexintaibodongguilvxing，lejiezishendexintaiminganquyoushenme，congerpingwenzishendexintai。

2)嘴吐善言

yurenxiangchuzhongzuichangjiandefangfabianshiyuyangoutong，yuyandeliliangjianxindajiadouqingxi。

举个事例：

 zaiwaimiangongzuozhongbenmangyiniandeni，zongsuanxinchunjiajieguonianhuijia，muqinrangniganleyidacanzhuocai，nihenkaixin，duimuqinxinhuaiganen。

danshi，jiarunihaimeiyouchiliangkou，nimamajiugangkaishilaotao：

ruhehaizhaobudaonanpengyoua?

gongzuozhongzenmebuqinfena?

doubuqingchunifumuduodanyouniya!

 qingxuyishunjianzhuiruledigu，jiusuannilejiemuqinguanzhuzishen，dantayudiaohecuocijibenshangshifumianqingxu，jinichangranruoshi，wufajiena。

dangwomendoushiyige“tihuizhe”deqingkuangxia，nengshifenqingchuzhangwodaodiqingshangzhishangrangwomenchanshengdenanshougan。

danshirichangshenghuodedajiayecengbuzhibujuexiangmuqinyiyang。

 lirujinrinishengchen，nanpengyouyongxinjinixuanzeleyifenlipin，shiyizhinizuiaipinpaidechungao，xiangrangniyiwaijingxi，danshiniyikaiqimiansejiufashengbianhua：

“ruheshizheileisediaoa，chedibuchenwodepifuyanse，bumingbaijiubuyaoluansongma!”

tayigegangtiezhinan，naermingbainayigekouhongsehaoheshini?

nengxiangqimaichungaosongniyejiuzaoyishihenhenhenyouqingyilehaome?

neiqingshanggaodenvhaihuiruhezuo?

高兴冲上去：

 “waou~qinaidede!nizenmezhidaowozuixihuanzheiyipinpai?huanshiwozuixihuandehaose!qinaidenizheimuguangtaibangle!ainiainiaizheni!”

huoxuxiayicitajiusongnichaneldanxiangshuile。

ziran，youguanzenyangrangnidelingyibangengdongnideaihao，yeshilingyigefeichangdadehuatile，zaiduxianbujinxing。

yinci yaoxiangyouzheqingshanggaogongzuonengli，jiuxuyaoxuehaoliangxiajigefangmian：

fajuetarenjijizhudongdeyimian，bingkaizhanguanjiandianzanmeizanyang。

liuyizhitiyuyanheshipinyuyinyuqi：xiaoronghenzhongyao，fangzhimeiyouqinggandeyipiangaiquan。

shidangyingyongshentiyuyan，qingganzixunbukentuikuantousuyouyongma？nenggoujinide“shanyan”biaoshudegengxuxurusheng。