情感咨询不肯退款投诉有用吗?和她聊天的男人都觉得如沐春风？

 qingganzixunbukentuikuantousuyouyongma？yixienvhai，feichangrongyibianchenghuatizhongjizhe，zaixiangqinyuehuihuoyuyixingpengyouchupengshi，buqingchuyaoliaoshenme，gengbumingbaizenmejiehua。

jingchangyouyuzheizhonggoutongjiaoliushangdenantierzaocheng xiangqinyuehuibuchenggong，yuanfenduanlexian。

eryixienvhaiqueshixianliaogaoshou，tamenfangfozixiaojiuquandoudong。

buguannaxiedenanhaizizhaotaxianliao，tadounenghuihua，hainenglingrenxinkuangshenyi，shendenansheng/bierenxin……

zheiyigongzuonenglizaichuanshuozhongde“lvchaye”yizuyouqixianzhu。

neitamendaodifangzhileshenmexianliaojinqu，bawoleshenmexianliaofangshi，caikeyididameigerenyanxianderenshengjingjieni?

 jinri，woyeyixiangqinyuehuizheiyiqingjingweilizi，jiang“lvchayemen”deliaotianhuatiqingsongyingyongzaizheiqizhong，jinishifanxingyichangwugongzuoyalide、kaixindejiaotan。

weiheyoushixianliaoxiangchaxunhukou?

1)封闭式提问

“niganshenmegongzuode?”

“woshizaiyinxingzhiyuande。”

“nimeigongzuozhongdeqingkuangxiaquganshenme?”

“wobuhuigongzuozhongdeqingkuangxiaqudalanqiu。”

“你收益多少钱?”

“woshouyishi5000。”

……

xiangqinyuehuishi，youyubicibulejiehuoshibawodexinxineirongshibijiaoyouxiande。

 qingganzixunbukentuikuantousuyouyongma？erdajiayouxinji，yaoxiangxunsuzhangwolingyifangshi，jiufeichangrongyihuiyongfengbishitiwenfangfa，qudedao jingquedehuida。

gongzuozhong，yejingchangxuanyongfengbishitiwendefangfa，youyuneiyangdegoutongjiaoliushizuigaoxiaolvde。

liru，jingyuanshenzuifan，chaxunhukou。

danneiyangdetichuwentiyigeranhouyige，qietamenzhongjianbingmeishenmeguanxi，jirendejuedehuihengan，meiyouganqing。

yinci ，jiaruniyuchujianderenyongmibishidegoutongfangshi，huirangxianghumeifajifaqifen，“ganliao”bianshineimelaide。

youyu，renxihuandeshiyizhongwugongzuoyalidejiaotan。

 erdajiabennengfanyingdetiaoxuanzheileimibishidetichuwenti，shiyouyuyongzheileifangfadedao dexinxineirongshizuijingquede，lingwaiyeshizuishengshide。

liru：niwenlingyifang“nixihuanchihunancaima?”

ninenghuode“shi”huo“bingbushi”，zheijiushiyigejingquedehuida。

danniwenlingyifang“nixihuanchishenme?”neilingyifangdehuidahenyoukenenghuichuxianyibaizhong。

2)fengbishishidetichuwenti

fengbishishidetichuwenti，bianshilingyifanghaisuanzuoyoutiaoxuande。

 liru，niwenlingyifang“nishixihuanchihunancai，huanshixihuanchiyuecaiguan，huanshixihuanchisichuancai?”lingyifangshinenggou3xuan1de。

3)changkaishidetichuwenti

changkaishidetichuwenti，bianshilingyifangdehuidanenggouyouhenduo。

例如，

“你喜欢吃什么?”

“你喜爱干什么?”

“nixiexideqingkuangxiaxiaiganshenme?”

……

 neiyangtichuwentilingyifangdehuidanenggoushihenduozhongduoyang，bingqiehuibinilijiyizhengciyandiwenqi，ru：“nixiexideqingkuangxia，xiaidalanqiuma?”haoxuduo 。

 youyu，duiwaikaifangyiweizhechixuyouxindeshujuliangjindaoxianliaozhong，neiyangdahuoerjiukeyiyijuxindexinxineirongzaiciliaoxialaile。

 yinci xiangqinyuehuizhong，dajiazuixianyaoqubiezishendegoutongfangshishisha，caikeyilejieruheyiyizhongwugongzuoyalidejiaotanfangfaqugoutongjiaoliu。

 rangxianghudejiaotanrutongshuiliuyiyanghendangran，henwenhe，qingganzixunbukentuikuantousuyouyongma？yirunwuwushengdefangfaqujindaodaoniderichangshenghuo。