那些被“第三者”的傻女人 不要将渣男的套路看成是真爱

　　yunqinanrenchuguidaibiaoshenme？zheiyinantiyinqilerenmenduijiatingwendingyuqingganxinlaidesisuo。huaiyunqijianzhenduinvxinglaishuo，shishenxindouchengdanhouzhongyalijieduan，bixulingyibandeguanxinyushiyong。danshi，yixienanxingzaiqizihuaiyunqiyiranjuedingwaiyu，weibeileyuanxiandedandanghefuwuchengnuo。zheizhongzuofabaoluchugerenzhenduihunyinyujiatingjiazhiguandebufuzeren，dailailejidadeshanghaimeiyouanquangan。yucitongshi，yeyushizhenanxingkenengchuxiandebugouchengshuyubufuzedetaidu。yiner，huaiyunqijiannanrenchuguisuodaibiaodeshiyizhongduijiazhong、duilingyibanyuduizijizerendebeichi，bixuzaochengwomenduihunyinjiazhiguandezaisikaoyutuijin。

　　yunqinanrenchuguidaibiaoshenme

　　jinxienian，youguanhuaiyunqijiannanrenchuguiwentiyinqileguangfantantaoyuzhichi。zheiyizhuangkuangjielulefuqiganqinghejiatingwendingmianlindenanti，yucitongshiyefanyingchudangjinshehuidaodeguanniandegaibian。neiyang，huaiyunqijiannanrenchuguijiujingdaibiaoxieshenmeni？

　　1. 归属感与信任的裂开

　　huaiyunqijianzhenduinvxinglaishuo，shiyigeshentideqingxuqinshenjinglijubiandeshiqi。tamenbixugengduoguanzhu、shiyongheguanai。danshi，jiarulaogongzaizheigeteshudejieduantiaoxuanwaiyu，zheizhongjiangcuihuiqizidexinlaiganheguishugan，shiqizijuedepanbianxingshanghai。zheibudanduifuqiganqingzaochenglejidadechongjixing，yehuiduiyunmamadeshentijiankangzaochengbuliangdeyingxiang。

　　2. 对婚姻职责的轻视

　　huaiyunqijiannanrenchuguibaoluchuduihunyinzhizedeqingshihebugouchengshuxintai。hunyinshiyizhongfuwuchengnuohehetong，bixufuqiliangrenzijueweihuhezhenxi。danshi，dangyigenanrenzaiqizihuaiyunqijianchuguishi，tamenxianzhuhulvelezheiyiyiwu，bingbagerendebenxingfangzhijiazhongyubanlvxingfuyishang。zheiyangdebufuzerengerenxingweibudanshanghaidaoqizi，yebanghaizichengzhangzengtianlebuwendingyaosu。

　　3. 敏感自尊心与自卑感

　　yibufennanshengyoukenengzaiqizihuaiyunqijuededuizijishiwang，youyujiaolvqingxu、jinzhangzibeixinlijingchangbansuitadexinjiaosebanyanyouxi。danshi，taxuanzewaiyubingxunzhaowaibuchengjiugan，tongchangzhishiyizhongzhegaineixinminganhemeiyouanquangandexingshi。danshi，zheizhongzuofagenbenwufachuliwenti，fandaojiazhongleyigejiatingdemaodunhebanlvguanxideliekai。

　　4. 对于家庭价值观冲击和思考

　　huaiyunqijiannanrenchuguidaibiaozhejiazhongjiazhiguanchongji。chuantongjiazuguannianzhuzhongfuqijiandezhongshihehubanghuzhu，erxiandaishehuizhuanxingyuyalijingchangduizheigeguanniantichutiaozhan。zheiyizhuangkuangqushidajiazhongxinshenshihunyindejiazhiyujiazhi，ruhegenghaodijianliyigelaoguzhangqiwendingjiatingjiben。

　　5. 沟通与情感困惑积累

　　hunyinlidegoutongyuqinggankunhuotongchangzaihuaiyunqijiannanrenchuguizhongleiji。fuqizhijiandehudonghegoutongbudaoweijingchangzaochengbicizhijiandeqingxushuyuanhebumanyi。nanrenchuguihenyoukenengjiushitamenmeifayouxiaobiaodazishenxuqiuyuqingganshangdeyizhongduobifangfa。yiner，shulilianghaodegoutongdefangshihechuanqizhifuchengxuyouweizhongyao，yifangzhihunyinlidekunjinghewaiyuchansheng。

　　6. 婚姻价值观的重构与修复

　　huaiyunqijiannanrenchuguiyeweiwomentigonglezhonggouhunyinjiazhiguanhehuifufuqiganqingdejiyu。fuqizhijiangenjuchengxin、baorongyulijiededuitan，zhongxinsikaobicizhijiandeqidaiyuxuqiu，xunzhaojiejuewentidebanfa。yucitongshi，nanrenjiuyinggairenshidaozijidedandangherenwujiaose，lijisikaobinggenggaitamendexingwei，zhongshuyigejiatingdehemuhexingfu。

　　yunqinanrenchuguidaibiaoshenme，zongdelaishuo，huaiyunqijiannanrenchuguidaibiaozhejiatingchengyuanguanxihehunyinjiazhiguanmianlindenanti。zheiyizhuangkuangtishimeiyigeren，bulunshinanshenghaishinvsheng，zaihunyinzhongxuchengdanqizerenyuyiwu，xieshougongchuangyigepingwen、wenxindejiaziranhuanjing。weiyoutongguogoutongjiaoliu、lejieheguanhuai，cainengzhenzhengdexiufuzhonggouhunyindejiazhiyiyi，wanchengshuangfanggongtongchengzhangyuxingfukuailemubiao。