聪明人大多会委婉拒绝他 高情商拒绝别人的表白

 gaoqingshangliaomeiliaotianjiluzhongjiaonigaoqingshangjujuenanshengdebiaobai，meiyigerendouqipanhuodeyifenxingfukuailedeganqing，danyoubuyuanyicouhe。youhenduorenningyuandanshen，yebuyuanyigenzishenbuaiderenzaiyiqi，yincibianhuifashengbiaobaibeijujuedenankanzhuangkuang。neima，yigebeigaobaidenvxingruhegaoqingshangdeweiwanjujuenanshengdegaobaini？zheixiegaoqingshangjujuebierendebiaobaidefangfaganjinjixia。womenyiqilaiqiaoqiaoba：

看场所，再回绝

 youyixienansheng，weilegenghaodiweizijixinaiderenliuyounanyiwanghuaidegaobai，huitizaoyixingqinaizhiyigeyuequtiqianzhunbeichangsuo，huizijintouruhenduodeshijianyuqiancai，yehuiyaoyuexuduopenyouyiqiyinzhengzheipiaoliangdeshike。danzaigaobaideqingkuangxia，jiarunvxingmeiyouganjue，taoyanzheigenanren，neimayingduinanrendeshoupengmeiguihua、danxixiagui，tayingdangjienanihuoshibujienani？worenweiqingshanggaodenvrenyingdangxianranglingyifangzhanliqilai，jiedaolingyifangshoushangdehuashu，suihouzaiwanzhuandexiaoyidianxiangshengquhuijue。zaizheimedadechangsuo，yebuhuirangnanshengmianbudiujin。

主要表现友善，先毫无疑问再回绝

 yingduiyigezishenbuaiderendegaobai，kendingshiyaohuijuede。danzenyangwanzhuandequhuijueni？zheijianzhiyimendaxuewen，youhenduorenshuo，lijihuijuea，youshenmehaochiyideni？danwomenyaohuanweisikaoyixiaxia，jiarunixiangyigezishenxiaijiuhaozhangshijianderengaobai，beichuncuidejujuele，haibeiwuruleyifan，cikenidezizunhexinxinhuibucuobaima？yinciwomenzaiyingduitarendegaobaishi，zuixianyaojienalingyifangdeyifanqingyibingbiaoshiganji，ranhouzanmeilingyifang，zuizhongzaihuijue，neiyangyebuhuirangnanshengxinxincuobai，cihouyijuebuzhen，huihuanjienanrenzaiganqingcengmianshoudaodesunhai。

“抵毁自身”胜于“否认别人”

 zaiyingduiyixingpengyoudeqingyishi，jiarunibukeyijiena，zuixianyaolagaolingyifang，dihuizishen。shuoxieleisineiyangdehua：beinixiaishiwoderongxing……neiyanghuiranglingyifangneixinbuneimatongchu。huoshizanmeilingyifang，shuoxieleisineiyangdehua：ninengxunzhaogengqiangde、keyubukeqiugengqiangde……zongeryanzhi，nenggou“dihuizishen”danbubifourenbieren，buyaoshuolingyifangnagedifangjiushinitaoyande，neiyanghuiranglingyifangzaizhuiqiunidequanguochengzhongfangzongziji。

短暂性延迟时间，可暗示着您有刁难之处

 gaoqingshangliaomeiliaotianjiluzhongjiaonigaoqingshangjujuenanshengdebiaobai，jiaoweixinggeneixiangderenhuoxuhuizaijiaoyouruanjianshangxiangnibiaodaaiyi，ninengbikaihuatitaolun，huoshigenlingyifangwanxiao，wanzhuandebiaoshuchunixianjieduanmeiyouzheixiefangmiankaolvdaodeniantou，neiyanglingyifangyehuigaoqingchushishenmeyisi。yaojilao，yuebingbushidangzhonggaobaiderenxinliyuebijiaomingan，yidingyaojiqiguanxinlingyifangneiyiduanshijiandeqingkuang，zheicaisuanshicongmingdenvrenhuijuelingyifangdefangshi。

在回绝以前表述自身的苦处

 zaiyingduilingyifangdeqingyishi，yidingbubimeiyouyiqiebiaoshudequhuijuelingyifang，neiyangninengranglingyifangneixinganjueshizishenbuzuchuse。ninengxianglingyifangbiaoshushuonizaoyixiguanyigeren，shuoniyouyujiatingjingjiqingkuangxiangzhaoyigejiajindiande。biaomingzhuangkuanghuiranglingyifanghaoxuduo。huanjuhuashuoyouyujinqizishenqingkuangbudahao，buyizhujianyiduanxindeqinggan，erqie，biaoshuchulingyifangzainixinlizhishihaopengyoubutaikenengshiqinglvdezhenzhengxinlizhuangtai，neiyangnenggouranglingyifangduinichedisixin。buhuizaizhuiqiunidequanguochengzhongyiciyouyicideshoushang。

应用非防卫性语言表达，但一定要描述清晰

 yingduinanrendexinyi，jiaruzishenbuyuanjiena，qingshanggaodenvrenshiburongyimomocengcenggennanshengaimeide。qingshanggaodenvrenhuilizailingyifangdeshijiaoquxiangzenmecainenghuanjiehuijuelingyifangsuochanshengdetongku。yinciqingshanggaodenvrenyibanhuiyingyongfeifangweixingdeyuyanbiaoda，buhuiranglingyifangbieryuanzhi。

 ganqingzengyan：gaoqingshangdenvxing，shinenggoujiejuehaoshuangfangdeqinggande，burongyibiequzishenmanzubieren，yebuhuimomocengcengaimeisunhailingyifang。zheixiegaoqingshangjujuebierendebiaobaidefangfaganjinjixia。