如何学会拒绝：怎样拒绝别人更礼貌

 zenyangxuehuijujuetaren?duibuxiguanxinghuijuedequyuezhemeneryan，youyixiefangshi nenggourangtamenxunlianhexuehuijujue。ruhexuehuijujue?zenyangjujuebierengenglimao?ruhe ☞tuodan ？

一、如何学会拒绝：怎样拒绝别人更礼貌

1、学习培训回绝的小窍门

ruhexuehuijujue?zenyangjujuebierengenglimao?tuoshijian，bubimashanghuiying。

 nibixujizijitiqianzhunbeiyiliangjutuoshijiandeyongyu，bubishangqujiulikeshuo“shi”，liru：“xianzaiwobukeyimingquewoxingbuhao，yanwuzairangnihuiyinghaome?”neiyangyigejianyidegerenxingweinengxiezhubaituomeifahuijuedeliangjihua，yekeyijinizhengdesisuohezuochuqiadangtiaoxuandeshijian。

 buduandishuohuijue。jiarulingyifangsichanlanda，jiniyidingyaomashangjigehuiying。zaizheileigongzuoyalixia，nibixuzuodeshijinkenengjingquedizhuanshunisuoxiangzaoshoudelingyifangdexintai(“wozhidaonirujinhenji”)，bukoumendibiaoshulianmin(“woshifenlejienidejingyu”)，ranglingyifanggaoqingchunitingdaoletadexuqiu。

 ranhou，nikeyizuodeshifanfunitiqianzhunbeihaodetuoshijiandeyongyu——“danxianzaiwozhenbuquedingxing，yanwuwoyidingrangnihuiying”。yingyongzheiyifangfadeguanjianhuanjiequjueyu，nikeyifangzhiduilingyifangshijiayalideshijishangneirongzuochuhuiying。buran，huihuadefazhanqushihuifeichangrongyibaituonidebawo。

 yunyong“zuiheshidejihuafangan”xunlianshuo“bu”。jizijizhengdedaoshijianhou，ninengsisuosanzhonghuiyingfangfa：tongyi、huijue、zuiheshidejihuafangan。yixieshinihenxiangtongyi，keshinifajuequeshimeifazuodao，zheishihouninengjiyigequdaijihuafangan，liru，penyouyaochumenlvyou，xiangjinibangtazhaoliaoyigelibaidexiaochongwu，neimanidezuiheshidejihuafangannenggoushi：“wonengbangnizhaoliaota，danwozhiyoukanlibaitianertian”。

 “sanmingzhifangfa”bangnixuehuijujue。dangniganjuelijishuo“bu”henmeilimaohuoshidanyousunhaiqinggan，ninengshiyishibahuijuejiajinliangjuhuagongweihuazhengzhongjian。liru，“wotongdianhuashixianggentashuoyiqianniyaowobangzhudeshier，ganxienikeyixiangqiwo。danbaoqian，ciciwojiushiqubule。daoshihouhaiyoujihuirenmenzaiyiqiba，zhunimenshunlikaizhan”。neiyangdeyongyukeyijiniduikenqiuhuoyaoqingdehuijuejuyouhuancundegongxiao。

 shidudi“dihui”zishen。nenggouqiangdiaozishenlejielingyifangdeyaoqiu，keshizishendegongzuonenglibunenggousheng，liru，“nibixuyigehuixxderenbangnizuozheijianshiqing，danwobingburongyizheiyizhuanyejineng，wojuedewomeifarangnichushixiezhu”，yizhiyu“wodanyouzishenzuobutaihao，fandaogaozanidegongzuozhong”。danbubibazishendihuideguofenle。

2、取悦者们，在说“不”后，少给表述

 quyuezhemenyibianhuanjiezishenshuo“bu”deneijiugan，huixihuanzaihuijuehoubiaoshuyidadui，xiangjindishushuozishenweihebu。danquyuezhebixudongdeshaojibiaoshu，huoshijinjindechujianyi、jianjiemingledebiaoshu。

 youyu，jiarujiletaishijideguanjiandian，lingyifangjianghuihuiyunyongnidebiaoshuzhuizhenizaiciguiding。liru，jiarutashuo“wojinyedejianjiaren”，lingyifangjianghuiyaoshuo“neimenimingrikebukeyi”。

jiaruqueshixinlixinlibuan，yuanyidechubiaoshu，nenggouyizhaoxialiedefangfa：

 ruhexuehuijujue?zenyangjujuebierengenglimao?ranglingyifanggaoqingchuzheibingbushizhiduiyulingyifangyiren，zhishiyunidangqianzhuangkuang/biaozhunxiangguan。liru，dangpenyouxunwennijiekuanshi，nenggoubiaoshushuo：“wobuhuijijieqiande，najiapenyoulaigenwoshuowohaiburongyijiekuan”。

 gaozhilingyifang，juecequanmeiyounishouli，bingbushiniyigerenzuochudejuece，yinciduifangweinitiguidingshibuqizuoyongde。liru，“wotongyiguowoairenwoyibu10dianzhihouzaiwaibianyinjiude”

3、不断地训练

 jinjinxuexililunfangfashibuqizuoyongde，huijuehaibixubuduanxunlian。quyuezhemennenggoucongpingshide、xiaode“bu”gangkaishixunlian，tiaoxuanganjueanquanxingdewupin。liru，huijuepengyoudejuhuiguiding。zaizheiyiquanguochengzhong，quyuezhenenggoudiaojiezishen，xunzhaoyizhongtamenshushideshuo“bu”defangfa。

 chucizhiwai，meiyicijiangguo“bu”houdouweizijishunxiangjili，wulunshixinlidejijizhudongzishenhuihua、kuazishen“zuodehao”，huozheweizijixuyaowuzhijiangli。

 youyizhongzenyangdiaozhengyanegandefangfashi，zaikuijiushizuoyijianbangzhubierendeshi，liruhuiyingbierendezhilu，huoshijuanyixiaobiqian，gaozhizishen“huijuebierenbuyiweizheqishiwoshigecaogaoderen”。

 ruhexuehuijujue?zenyangjujuebierengenglimao?zuizhong，quyuezhemenbixudingqijianchafujianzishendezhichixitong。duohezheixienibuyongquyueyekeyirangniguanaihejianrongderendaoyiqi。jiarudepengyoulianyidianhuijuedoumeifachengdan，zheiyexubingfeiquyuezhemenzishendenanti，zhishixiaohuobanmenbixuchuli“weishenmebukeyijienabeihuijue”。