我与人总是有距离感，怎么办？为什么我总给别人有距离感

 weishenmewobuxihuanjuhui？buqingchuweihe，woyurenyizhiyouyizhongmoshenggan，wulunshiduomedezuishuxideren，wohaiburongyibaxinshigaozhilingyifangshiweishenme？weishenmewozongjibierenyoujuligan？

 quanshijiezuiyaoyuandejuli，moguojinyouzhichizhiyaodelianggeren，zhengzhongjianquexianggezheyizuogaoshan。jibianyingduizuilejie，zuiqindepengyoumenhejiaren，nidexinliyeshizhongguanzheyidaomen。

woherenyizhiyoumoshenggan，gaizenmeban？

 zaibierenlaikan，woshiyigehenwenjingdenvhaizi，xianliaoshiyizhiketaoermosheng，zhinengdiandiantouhuoshixiaorong。buqingchuweihe，woyurenyizhiyouyizhongmoshenggan，wulunshiduomedezuishuxideren，wohaiburongyibaxinshigaozhilingyifang，zheibianchenglewodeyizhongxiguanxing。woxiguanyinzangzijidegexinghua，niantouhexintai，xiailezigedeshieryigerenkang。

 weishenmewobuxihuanjuhui？woyufumudeguanxilenglengdandande，tamenduiyuwoguanxintitie，danwoyizhibuyuanyiduitamendakaixinfei，jiangdianhuashiyizhishufenzhongjiuguadiao。hetamenquguangjiedeqingkuangxia，yinweiwobuyuantarenduizishendefumuneimaqinmiyiyang，woyizhijianmomeiyouhuashuo。wozouzailushanghuidanxinpengdaolejiederen，youyujuedewenhaowuqububianyounankan。wozixiaoyiqizhangdadepengyouyeshiyinweijianju，guanxidanlehenduo，wochengleguimiquanliwuguanjinyaodechenmoderen。

 worenweiguanzhutarenhenguaiguaide，buqingchuruheshiyongyuyanbiaoshuzishenxianshideqinggan。womingbaizishenbuzujiji，yizhixiangduobi，burongyirenzhenquyunyingherenzhongjiandeqinggan。wohentongchu，lejiezheizhongquebuzhiconghegaiqi。wogaizenmezuo？

 niyizhizairenjiguanxizhongdabukaizishen，yizhiyouyiherenlakaijuli，naizhiyufumuzhongjiandouqianqueqinmiwujiangan，yineryurenherendeguanxiquanshiqianqiande。niyeqipanyubierenchuangjianqinmiguanxi，keshiniqueyizhixiangduobi，yinerjiaolvqingxu，tongchu，fandaojianjianditaobiqinmiguanxi，yusuoyourendouwufashenjiao。zheizhongzhuduozhuyaobiaoxian，biaomingnidanxinqinmiguanxi。

meifaherenchuangjianqinmiguanxi，henyoukenengyousangeyuangu：

一，初期关系挫败

 nirujinyufumudeguanxiyejiaoweilengmo，biaomingniyizhizaiyounianmeiyouyufumuchuangjianqipingwen，anquanxingdeguanxi。jiaruyigerenzaitongnianshi，fumuchangchangzhengzhi，naizhizaochengjiabao，neimabaobaobianhuidanyoufumupaoxiazishen，zaidanyouzhongfazhan；xuduoxiaohaiquanshiliushouhaizi，youshishifumuhuoqiyuqinrenbuzaishenpang，duziyirenfazhanqilai。tamendewuyishizhongdexinrenganshimingxianqueshaode，keshiweilenengcunhuo，weilegenghaodirongru，tamenhuiqianyishifourenduishejiaoguanxideyaoqiu，jinerjianshaoyilai。zhangdayihou，tamenyehuizaiciyunyongzheileishejiaoxiangchumoshi，wufayutarenchuangjianqinmiwujiandeguanxi。weishenmewozongjibierenyoujuligan？

二，外伤历经：童年时受到好友的损害

 youyixiexiaohai，zaifazhandeguanjianqi，kenengshiyinweiwujie，huoshishiyouyuyixiemoca，yuhaoyouzaochengmaodun，jieguojiedaohaoyoudesunhai，liruhulve，manma，beijiaoshegen，shitamenduiyouqingzaochenghaipa。youyumeiyoujizaoxiubuxinlidewaishang，tamenchengrenhouyejiubuganxiangxintaren，weicilaibaohuziji。weishenmewozongjibierenyoujuligan？

三，不当相处，欠缺社交方法

 youderenwufazhangwoxiangchudexiandu，doubushanyukaizhanhuatitaolun。tamenyecengqinfenguo，keshicuowudelijingshitamenningkeyubierenbaochiwaibiaodeguanxi，yebuyuanyizaidushizhe。zheileishejiaofangfadequefayeyufazhanzhongdekunnanshiguanyude。tamenbuyuanyifanfuzaoqiandecuobaiganshou，yincigenjuweichiyuqitarendejianju，laidedaoguishugan。

 weishenmewobuxihuanjuhui？meiyigerendoushiyouzishenneixinshenchudezuai，zheileiwufashenjiaodetixianbudanhuizhijieyingxiangdaonideyurenxiangchu，genghuizhijieyingxiangdaonideganqingshenghuo，naizhishiyihoudefazhanqushi。yinci，nitexianggenggai，queyoubunenggenggai，youyunibingbulejienantidegenbenyuanyinzainaer。tiyinizhaoxunjishuzhuanyedexinlifudaodexiezhu，xiubuxinlidewaishang，xuexipeixunshiyongdeyurenxiangchufangfa，manmanyuxiaohuobanchuangjianbijiaowendingdeguanxi，bingfazhanqushiqinmiguanxi。