当对方决绝提离婚，和老公有名无实该不该离婚

helaogongyoumingwushigaibugailihun？hunyinheaiqingyoubenzhidequbie。aiqingshilianggerendeshi。zhiyaotamenbicixihuan，tamenjiukeyizaiyiqi。raner，hunyinyijinghuanmanlejishinian。tamenxuyaomianduisuosuideshenghuobixupin，bingchengdangengduodejiasuohezeren。

yidanlianggerenjuedinglihun，zheijiangshishuangfangdejudasunshi，caichan.haizi.jiating.shiye.mingyu.fumudengdeng，zheixiedouhuiyinweilihunerchanshengjudadebodong。

xuduorenduorenyudaowenti，tamenjiuhuicongmangjuedinglihun，haoxiangyidantamenbaituolelingyigeren，suoyoudewentidoujiangbufucunzai。shishishang，hunyinjiuxiangyimianjingzi。hunyindezhiliangqujueyuniziji。ruguonimeiyounengliguanlihunyin，jishinilihunle，ruguonizhaodaolingyige，nirengranhuimianlintongyangdewenti，nirengranbuhuijiejueta。ruguonimeiyouyouyongnengli，nijiubunengzaigengduodeyouyongchiliyouyong。

zaiguoqudejinianli，wofaxianhenduorenhunyinbuxingfubushiyinweitamendeganqinghuohunyinbenshenbuhao，ershiyinweitamenmeiyoujiuzhengzijidetaidu，meiyouxuehuizaihunyinzhongchengzhang。

zheipianwenzhangshiweichengqianshangwanmianlinhunyinderenxiede。woxiwangtanengjiniyixieqingganjiazhiheyouyongdeganhuozhidao，bangzhunizaiweilaizhaodaozhengquedefangfa。

一.绝大多数离婚是因为缺乏沟通

liangrenlihundeyuanyinshishenme？xuduorenrenweizheileisiyuqipian.jiatingbaolidengyuanzewentizhendebushi。diaochashujutigongleyixiexiansuo。zaiyigeshengfendelihunanjianzhong，lihundediyigeyuanyinshi“shenghuosuoshi”。

daduoshurendehunyinmeiyouneimeduogouxuegushi，zheishiyixieputongdesuoshi。zhenzhengdaozhilianggerenzuobidebushiyijiandashi，ershishenghuozhongdesuoshixiaohaolenideganqing。

zaidianshiju《qinaidehaizi》zhong，xiaoluheyinuoyuanbenshiyiduifeichangxingfudefuqi。tamenxiangaiduonian，yinweiaiqingerjiehun，danyihandeshitamenzaifuyanghaizi.poxiguanxi.zaijiatingsuoshidengshiqingdepaohongxia，tamendeganqingrengrancunzaiwenti，zuizhongzouxianglihun。

mingmingganqingzheimehao，weishenmezuihouhaishilihun？

yourenshuoxiaolumeiyouchengdanqizhangfudezeren，dangfumuheqizifashengmaodunshi，budanmeiyouhuanhetamendeguanxi，fanerchengleshuaishouzhangju。

dantazhendeneimelingrenfazhima？shishishang，zuoweiyigezhangfu，tabidaduoshurenzuodegenghao。zairenheshihou，tadouzainuligongzuo.zhaoguqizi。

yigechengnuozainali？yigechengnuoyouwentima？kenengyourenshuotataijiaoqingle，kaishipipingbieren，rangrentouda。danshizuoweiyigemuqin，tabuxiangjiehunma？.jiatingchaozhehaodefangxiangfazhanma？diyicizuoqizi.mama，tameiyoujingyan，tabuzhidaogaizenmeban，duihaizideguofendanxinshikeyilijiede。

shishishang，tamenlihundezuidayuanyinjiushiyudaowentibuzhudonggoutong，zongshixiguanyuyongtaobihelengbaolilaijiejue。

zuoweiyiminghunyinguwen，wojianguotaiduodefufubiandeyuelaiyuelengmo，yinweitamenbugoutong。neixiehunyinxingfudefufubujinyouaiheganqing，gengzhongyaodeshi，tamenyeyougoutonghetonglixin。tamendouchengdanzhejiatingdezeren，weigongtongdemubiaonuligongzuo。

yinci，cuodeyongyuanbushihunyin，ershilianggerenjuedinghunyin。

neixieyizhichaojiadefuqi，zongshipaohenhua.edudenvedai，shenzhibahaizidangzuoquanlidouzhengdewuqi，suoyoudexiongmengzhishiweilefaxietamendangqiandeqingxu。tamenzhiguanxinzijideganshou，erbushibicihehaizideganshou。yinci，xuduorendehunyinpolie，tamendeganqingmanmanxiaohao，yinweitamenmeiyoujianlilianghaodegoutongmoshi。

youyunanxinghenvxingdesiweifangshibutong，tamenduiwentidefanyinghetaiduyebutong。duinanrenlaishuo，zuichangjiandechulifangshishitaorenzuichangjiandechulifangshishizhuizhuhexunwen。suoyilianggerenxianrulezhuiwodemoshi，zheijiangjiasuguanxideehua，daozhiguanxiyuelaiyueyuan。

zaihunyinzhong，ruguofuqizhijianyoumaodun，womenyinggaixuehuiyonggandimiandui，erbushixiangtuoniaoyiyangbatoushenjinshazili，renweiruguowomenbuzhengshiwenti，wentijiuhuixiaoshi。

meiyourendehunyinbuhuiyouwenti，wentibingbukepa，guanjianzaiyunimenshifouyuanyiheyounenglijiejuewenti，bingweiduifangzuochutuoxie。

shishishang，suoyouwentidegenyuanzaiyushuangfangzaifashengchongtushinenggoukongzhizijideqingxu。

dangniyudaowentibushizhizehefennu，ershishitujiejuewentishi，nidehunyinhuiyuelaiyuehao。

yinci，zheizhongguanxinengfoujieshuqujueyunishifouyounengliguanlizhangqiguanxi。ruguonimeiyouzheizhongnengli，wulunnihuanleduoshaoren，nirengranhuiyudaotongyangdewenti，huozhezaitongyangdewentishangbandao。ruguonimeiyounengliguanlihunyinhejiejuewenti，jishiniyudaoyigehaoren，niyewufabawota。

二.婚姻危机该怎么办

1.zhengquebiaodaxiaojiqingxu

xianzai，nizhendehennanguo，danshigaosutayoupaqingxubaozha，rangnimendeguanxigengjiabunenghehao，zenmeban，rennai？

renbuzhu，biezhezhihuirangfumianqingxujiya，zuihouzhenderenbuzhuhuibaozha，gengjupohuaixing。

womendangranyaobiaoda，danzaibiaodazhiqian，nixuyaoquedingnideqingxushiwendingde。

ninkeyitongguoqitafangshijiejueta.faxiefumianqingxu，birupaobu.jianshen.lvyou.genpengyouqingsu.huozhetongkuaidikuyichangdengdeng，faxiefumianqingxukeyijianshaonidegongjixing，rangtaganyujiejinni。

jiarunimeiyoulengjingxialai，chuyubaozhadebianyuan，nikenenghuizheiyangbiaodanidexiaojiqingxu：

“huilaizheimewan，niyanlimeiyouzheigejia！”

nizhangfuyehenshengqi：“niyoubinga，wozheimexinkudegongzuo，bujiushiweilezheigejiama？”

nigengshengqi：“nibajiadangjiudian，xianglaijiuzou，wokannibuhuilai！”

tayebuganshiruo：“buhuilaijiubuhuilai，sheixihanhuilai，woshangbankanlingdaolianse，xiabanhouhaidezaizheilishouqi！”shuowanyishengguanmen，touyebuhuidilikai。

zheiyimu，sicengxiangshiba？

zaizheizhongqingkuangxia，ruhepanduansheiduisheicuo？nikenengyanjuanlegongzuo，xiabanhoubudebuhuijiazuogezhongjiawu.zhaoguhaizi，kewangzhangfuzaodianhuijiabangni.peini；danshizhangfu，takenengbuxiangjiaban。.woyebuxiangshejiao，danshizuoweiyigenanren，tajiadedalianghaishikangjuta，suoyiwobudebujiaban。.shejiao，qidaihuijianengdedaonideanwei...

nitongguofennulaihelihuaneixindekongju，ernizhenzhengxiangbiaodadeshi：“wojinglilebeihushihebeipaoqideganjue，zheijiqilewodebuanquangan，woxiwangwomennengyougengduodeshijianxiangchuhehudong。”

ernanrenshengyingdehuifubeihou，yeyoutacongcuiruodeyimian：“tongguonuligongzuo，wobiaodaleduinideguanzhuheai，yexiwangwodenulinengdedaoniderenke。”

nimenliangdoumeiyoucuo，danshiexingdegoutongfangshiyidianyidianxiaohaozhenimendeganqing。

shishishang，nikeyizheiyangjiaoliu：

“qinaide，woxiang，nishibushijinwangongsiyoushenmeshi，xianzaizheiyidiancaihuilai。zhangfugongzuoxinkua，kuailaiyongbao。”（shishi+gongqing，biaodawolijienideburongyi，xiexiananrendefangbei)

zaijiayiju：“nihuilaizheimewan，wozaijiataihaipale..”（sajiao+shiruo，zhengquechuandaxiaojiqingxu)

ranhou：“niyaozenmebuchangwo，laogong”(yindaobuchang，yukuaijieshoubuchang)

zuihou：“haibugoue，mingwanbanibangzaichuangshang，tingwoshuo，jiuzheiyangjuedingle！”(diaoqinggouyin，rangnanrendeqingxuzuoguoshanche)

shiwen，youzheiyangliangxingdegoutongfangshi，nanrenzennengduinibuhao？

erqiezheixiecaozuodenandianzainali？shiwenzima？shijiqiaoma？bushi，ershinideqingxukongzhinenglihetonglixinnengli。

90%deshibaihunyindoushiqingganshangde。yinci，weilewanjiupoliedehunyin，nibunengrangzijibeiqingxukongzhi。xiangfan，niyinggaixuehuikongzhizijideqingxu。zhiyoudangniyouyigewendingdexintaishi，nicainengyongqingxingdetounaosikaozhengquedefangfa，erbushizaiqingxushangzhuanao，zuihoucuoguoshiqing。

ruguoniyeyudaolehunyinweiji，xiangwanhuiquebuzhidaogaizenmeban，zongshirongyiqingxubengkui.xintaibupingheng，henmimanghenjiaolv，gaosuwonidegushi，wolaibangni！

2.jijijiejuewenti，gezhilihunjiufen

dangnidexintaiwendingshi，nixuyaozuodeshipinggunidehunyinweijichengdu。hunyinweijikeyifenweijiaweijihezhenweiji:

jiaweiji：shuangfangdeganqingjichurengrancunzai，“tilihun”bingbushiduifangzhendexiadingjuexinlihun，ershigengduodeshitonggangongku.weixienideshouduan。zheizhongweijixiangduibuneimeyanzhong，xiangduirongyichuli。

zhiyaonibaochiqingxuwending，zhaoguhaoduifangdeqingxuheganshou，duohuanweisikao，yindaoduifangzuoxialaiyunigoutong，dakaiwujiehexinjie，ranhouxunsujiuzhengnideguanxiguanlimoshi，hejiebingbunan。

zhenzhengdeweiji：zaochenglewufamibudejudasunshi，huozheshuangfangdousihuilesuoyoudedaoluhemiankong，guanxifeichangzaogao，duifanggandaojusang，zhishixianglihun。

zaizheigeshihou，nihuifaxian，wulunniduomekenqiuyutagoutong，tazhiyouyijuhua：“meishenmehaoshuode，ganjinzouba”shuomingnidewentibijiaoyanzhong，zheigeshihounikeyigaosuduifang：

jirannixiadingjuexinyaolihun，rangbierenliuxialaishimeiyouyiyide，neijiukannideyisile。raner，bijing，womenyijingyouzheimeduoniandeganqingle。woxiwangninengjiwoyixieshijian。zheiduiwolaishuobushineimerongyijieshou。woxiwangninenglijiewo。wobixujiwodefumuyigejieshi，haizimenxuyaoshijianqulejie。

zhuyi，suiranwomenzheimeshuo，danwomendechuzhongbushilihun，ershiweizijizhengqubaoguidedongxi“huanchongqi”，yigezi，tuo！

duiyuyigezhixianglihunderenlaishuo，nibaoliudeyueduo，tajiuyuexiangtaopao。zuihaozanshibaochizijidelichang，yuduifangbaochiyizhi，jianshaotadepannixinli，ranhoumenyingdededongxi“huanchongqi”laiwanliuhunyin。

3.zhenzhengdeqiangzhe，douzhidaoruheshiruo

zaihunyinzhong，nvrenxuyaobeiai，nanrenxuyaobeichongbai。henduoshihou，nvrenzongshixihuanhuxiangyapo，gaogaozaishang，jiaoaoziman。zhongsuozhouzhi，niyingdelemianzi，dannishiqulenanrenbaohunideyuwang。

找一个双方都比较放松的时间，聊一聊无关紧要的轻松话题，然后你及时吐露自己的心声：

shishishang，nizhendeshiyigehaoren，yigefeichangfuzerendezhangfu。buxingdeshi，woxianzaicaiyishidaozheiyidian。taiwanle。raner，worengranganxieniduonianlaiduiwodefengxianhekuanrong。

huazhongdian！cishidegankaizhishijiandandegantannanrendehao，biaodayihanhezhufu，erbushibaoluxuqiugan，fouzeqiangongjinqi！

ruguoyigenanrentingdaonidehua，tadeqingxufeichangqianglie，tashuoshenme“wanle！nizaozuoleshenme！”zheiyangdehuayiweizhetaduinihaiyouhenduoqiwang。tazhishibuzhidaoruhexiaohuazheixiejusangdeqingxu，dannirengranxuyaobaochiqingxuwending。yidantabunengbanidaizou，nijiuhuilijibaozhabingfanji。zheizhihuirangnizaicixianruzhengchao。niyinggaijixugensuiduifang，anzhaozuichudezishiheyuqibiaodanideyihan.ganenheyihan，yuanzeshishiruo，bangzhuduifangfaxiehexiaohuaxinzhongjileidefumianqingxu。

xiangxinwo，ruguoninengchenggongdishudaoduifangdeqingxu，nanrenduinidetaidujiuhuifashengzhidebianhua。

xiangfan，ruguonanrendeqingxubijiaowending，meiyouzhizenidejixiang，nikeyichenredatie，weizijixibai：

 wocongxiaojiushenghuozaizheilixxxzaiwodejiatingli，wodefumuconglaimeiyoujiaoguoworuheshuodehao.haohaogoutong，wobulejienanren。henduoshiqingdoushizheiyangxiangde，danshishuochulaijiubianchengleshangrendehua。xianzaixiangxiang，zhishiyinweihaipashiquni。

mianduihunyinweiji，“wocuole，wodougaile”zheizhihuirangtagengkanbuqini。zhiyourangtajuedeniyizhiaizheta，danshiyinweiniaicuolefangfa，nicaihuizaochengshanghai。tongshi，nimeiyouhetahejiedeyitu，zheikeyihuanjienideguanxi。

4.chuangzaoxiangchudejihui，yindaohuiyiguoqu

xuduoxueshengfanying，tayidianyebuhuaijiu，wozenmehuiyitadouwudongyuzhong。

shishishang，bingbushitawudongyuzhong，ershiniyindaojiyideshijihebiaodafangshishicuowude。

ganqingyoutuichaohezhangchao。dangnitichulihunshi，taduinideganqingqiahaoshizuididian。nizenmenengzaizheigeguantouyindaojiyini？taxianzaiduinidefumianyinxiangtaiqiangliele。niyueshiyindaoguoqu，tajiuyuejuedeyigecengjingruciwenroukeaidenvhaixianzaizenmehuichengweimuqinyecha？

zhiyoudangshuangfangdeqingxudoupingjingxialai，niyeduinidehunyinwentizuochuledianfuxingdegaibian。dangtaduinideganqingmanmanjinruzhangchaoqi，duinidejieshouduyuelaiyuegaoshi，nihuijishizhirujiyi，liru：

nifagequxxzailvyoudepengyouquanli，gantan:shangciyijiarenlaizheili，haishijinianqian，guoqulilizaimu，xianzaideshiqingbianle。bijingrenhaishiyaowangqianzou，guohaomeiyitian。

huazhongdian！wenandiaoxingshinidejiyi.bushe.duochoushanganyoujianqiang，biaodaniweilaidemeihaoshenghuo。zheiyangdejiyihuixingchengtongyangdepinlvhegongming，zuizhongyaodeshijita“xuanze”quanli，erbushiniyixiangqingyuandiqiangpotahuijia。helaogongyoumingwushigaibugailihun？

manzuletaderenke.beizunzhongdehexinxuqiu，tazaiciaishangniyeshilisuodangrande。

5.用外力刺激

hunyinshejigengduodezhangai，zheiyiweizhenikeyishiyongdaliangdewaibulilianglaicujinheping。liru，rangfumushuangfangshuohaohua，fenxilibi，youxiehuanishuotabuyidingyuanyiting，danfumushuoxiaoguohuigenghao，biruranghaizibiaodaqinmihebuyuanfangqifuqin，yijifabicibuyuanfangqijiating，dengdeng。

zaiqitaqingkuangxia，xuduoxueshengzaihejieshibeikunzaizheili。xianran，womendeguanxijihuyijinghuifu。weishenmewomenbunengchuopozuihouyicengchuangzhi？

zheiyinggaifenweibutongdeqingkuang。liru，youxienanrenaimianzi。tamentichulihun，hehao，dazijidelian。jishitamenxianghehao，yehennanshuo。zaizheigeshihou，womenxuyaozhudongtichuyigebuzhoulaiyindaotahejie。

birunikeyishuo：zuijinguimitiantianzaipengyouquanlishiai，chigouliangdouchibaole，woyexiangweitagouliang，keximeirenpeihe。

helaogongyoumingwushigaibugailihun？nanrendeyouyuni？nikeyishidangdiyinrudisanfangjingzhengjizhi，rangtakandaoqitananrenbeinidemeilisuoxiyin，diaodongtadejiduhezhanyouyu，danyinggaizhuyideshi，nibixuzhangwoguimo，buyaonongqiaochengzhuo！