sixinhunyinzenmexiufu。hunyinshenghuodeliekaibingbuyidingshiyixizhijiansuofashengde,fanershizhangqijileidefenqi、wujieheqingxushuyuandedaodejieguo。dangfuqiganqingshenxianlengbaoli,xuduorenhuigandaowulinaizhibengkui,danxinliyanjiuhehunyinzixunshijianbiaoming,genjukexuefangfahechixubuduandeqinfen,fuqiguanxiyirancunzaixiufuhenyoukeneng。benwenjiangcongqinggansiwei、yuyangoutongjiqiao、xinlaifujiandengjiaodukaolv,tigongyitaojingguoyanzhengde5bukexuezhinan,xiezhufufubaituoxinlijiongjing,fujianhunyinguanxi。
第一步:鉴别情绪破裂数据信号——创建忧患意识

1.1 dangxinhunyinshenghuode“shenwangsiqishi”
meiguoxinlixuezhuanjiayuehan·getemangenju40nianhunyinshenghuoyanjiubiaoming,zhize、miaoshi、fangyuhelengbaolishizaochengliyidesidayujingxinhao。dangfuqiduihuazhongjingchangchuxian“nicongbuzhaoguwo”(chedifouding)、“nijuedezijihenbujiandanma?”(eyizhongshang)dengmiaoshushi,biaomingguanlianyijingjinrugaofengxianqingkuang。
shili:chennvshifajuelaogongbuhuizaizhudongfenxianggongzuozhongsuojiansuowen,erzhangfuzemaiyuanlaopo“lianjiawuhuodoubuhuizuo”。zheileibicidihuideduihuamoshibuduansangeyuehou,liangrenkaishifenchuangqiju。
1.2 zhizuoqingxuwenduquxian
tiyifufufenbieyongshijianxianbiaomingjinjigeyuelideguanjianchongtushijian,bingbiaozhuneishihouqingxukangyaqiangdu(1-10fen)。bizhaoerzhangshujutubiaojiuhuifaxian,68%defufuduitongyishijianqingxujiyicunyoumingxianchabie,zheileicuowurenzhiqiahaoshixiufuguanxidetupokou。
kexuelunzheng:renzhikexueyanjiubiaoming,zhangqixingxiaojiqingxukeyigaibianrendedanaoqianeyefanyingfangshi,rangrenduilingyibangerenxingweizaochengguoduoxiaochenjiangjie。
第二步:中止矛盾螺旋式——创建情绪缓冲区
2.1 zhixing“20minlizhiguilv”
dangzhengzhifashengdeshihou,lijiqidong“shenglilizhi”tizhi:

taolixianchangzuishao20min(wanchengyiciquangutongdaixiezhouqi)
kaizhanshenxiqi(4-7-8fushihuxifa:huxi4miao、pingqi7miao、huxi8miao)
zhuanxiexintairiji(jilukeguanshishibingfeidianping)
2.2 jianli“qingxuyiyaoxiang”
tiqianzhunbeibaohanyixiawujiandeshitifuzhugongju:
fufumiyueqixiangpian(jihuajijizhudongjiyili)
jilulingyifangsangeyoudiandexinyongka(dikangxiaojichengjian)
shuhuanqingxudechuganxiaowanju(rujianyamofang)

shujuzhicheng:jiazhoudaxueyanjiubiaoming,xuanyongxintaiguanlimoshidefufu,maodunhouguanlianxiubuxiaolvtigao40%。
第三步:复建深度交流——非暴力会话实践活动
3.1 yingyong“guancha-tihui-yaoqiu”gongshijisuan
canzhaomaxieer·lusenbaodefeibaoligoutongshitimoxing:
guancha:“shangxingqininyou3tianwanshang11dianzhihouhuijiale”
tihui:“zheirangwoganjuedaoguduyujiaolv”
yaoqiu:“womenxuyaomeigexingqi3tianyiqichiwanfan”
yaoqiu:“nengbunengdiaojiehuiyishijianhuotiqiantongzhi?”
3.2 jinxing“qingxutoushe”huihua
轮着进行下列句型:
“ruguoni______shi,woganshoudao______,yinweiwoshencengcixiaofeishi______。”
jinliangshiyong“nizong”“niconglaibu”dengjueduibiaoshu。
shili:sunxianshengyuanhua“niyitiandaowanjiumingbaikanshouji”diaozhengzhi:“ruguonicanhoumashangdakaishoujishi,woshenganbeihulve,youyuwoqipanyunifenxiangjinrideyouqudeshi。”
第四步:重构信赖管理体系——情感账户储蓄法
4.1 shijianhuodong“5:1jijizhudongbili”
getemanshiyanshifajue,pingwenhunyinlihudongjiaoliuyuxiaochenhudongjiaoliuzhanbixubaochi5:1。dingqizuoxialie“xiaoecunkuan”:
zhenxinshiyizanyang(jutixingwei+jijiyingxiang)
6miaoxiangyong(kaiqisuogongsudaixie)
tishengfuwuzhiliang(diyibeishui、anmojianbang)
4.2 zhixing“qingxidujiansheguihua”
huiji:gongtongshangdingshenghuokaizhishujukeshihuabaobiao
shejiaomeiti:jijixiangxijieshaoyixinghuanjingguanlian
xingji:tiqiantongzhirichengzhuanbian(bingfeiguohoushangbao)
renzhikexuejiaodu:xinlaifujianbixu6-18geyue,yinrendedanaoxuyaoyiduanshijianzhonggouduilingyibandeyucezhunquexing。
第五步:共铸辉煌景象——关系升级对策
5.1 shejifangan“hunyinshenghuozhongxinqidongdianli”
zaicipaizhaohunshazhao(huanqifuwuchengnuojiyili)
xiudinghunyinqiyue(mingquezhizefengongyudaodedixian)
zhengtiguihuabenniandu“qingxucaiwushenjiri”(pingdingguanlianjindu)
5.2 dajian“fazhanxingguanximoxing”
xuexijineng(yitongbaokaoxingtikehuoyuyanban)
jianlijiazhongqiyeyuanjingban(jiqijianglai5niangongtongdemubiao)
shijianhuodong“tanxianyouhui”(meiyueshizhequanxinshengjizhutihuodong)
zhangqixinggenzong:hafodaxue75nianxingfukuaileyanjiufaxian,gongtongchengzhangdefufuzhongguolihunlvbiduizhaoshiyanzudi73%。
jieshuyu:hunyinxiufubenzhishangshigongtongjinhua
sixinhunyinzenmexiufu,wanjiuhunyinbingbushihuidaocongqian,fanershichuangzaogengduoguanximoxing。zheiwugebuzhourongruleyilianlilun、renzhiliaofahexingfuxinlixuedezuixinchengguo,danqudechenggongdeguanjianshifuqiliangrenchixubuduandeqinfen。ziliaoxianshi,jianchishijian6geyuezhishangdefufu,guanlianmanyilvjunzhitigao58%。danglengbaolimanmanxiaorong,dajiayexuhuifajue,zheichangweijifanerchengweileguanxishengjidejihui——yinweizhenzhenglaogudehunyinshenghuo,shizhongshijianlizai2gedulidegetibuduandelijieyuyiqichengzhangyishang。
tebietishi:ruoshejijiabaohuoyanzhongxinliwenti,qingjishixunqiuzhuanyezuzhixiezhu。hunyinshenghuofeichangzhidezhengjiu,danrenshenanquanshizhongyouxianxuanze。
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