女友互删后怎么挽回？

　　nvyouhushanhouzenmewanhui？wanhuiqiannvyouzheijianshi，shijishangshizhangshishifenzhongyaodeyigedian!haoduorenwanhuiqiannvyouwangwangbuchenggong，shiyinweitamenmeiyouzaizhengquedeshijiandianquganzhengquedeshi，wanhuiqiannvyoubushiyijiansuiyidishier，taqishibixuxiangjincehua，zhengquewanhuishijianduan+zhengquewanhuigerenxingwei=wanhuiqudechenggong，buzhengquedewanhuishijianduan+buzhengquedewanhuigerenxingwei=chedidifenshou!

　　ruguobuxiangchedidisangshita，neiyangbenwenjianghuiweinihendadezuoyong，youyubenwengaosuniwanhuiqiannvyoudezuijiashiqi，jiqigaosuniruhequgan!

　　wanhuiqiannvyoude“zuijiashijidian”

　　haoduorenwanhuiqiannvyoushi，meiyouyidianshizhangdiandegainian，yizhiyizhaozijidexinqingquwanhui，jieguobayiduanyuanbenkeyiwanhuideaiqing，xianhuode“zuo”meiyoule!

　　wanhuiqiannvyoushi，niyidingyaomingbai“zuijiashijidian”zheigegainian，youyuzaizheigeshijiandianquganzhengquedeshi，neiyangwanhuiqiannvyouchenggonggailvhuidadatigao，naizhinengrangwanhuiyuelaiyueyirufanzhang!

　　1. 刚分手的一个星期(情绪宣泄期)

　　gangfenshoudeyigexingqi，shixuduorenwanhuide“jinqu”，haoduorenwanhuibuchenggongbianshi“si”zaizheigeshihou!gangfenshoushi，qiannvyouduiyunidexiaojiqingxushifendebijiaoyanzhong，zheigeshihounilaiwanhuiqiannvyou，jibendouhuipengyibizihui，haoduorenwanhuiqiannvyouchangjiandefangfajiushi：xinxihongzha、dianhuahongzha、jinzhuibushe!

　　keshizheizhongxingweihuirangnideqiannvyougengjiayanfanni，gengjiaxiangyaotaolini，youyunizheigeshihoudejudongzaijitazaochengfudan，yuanbenfenshouzheijianshijiurangtatebiefanzaole，jieguonizheigeshihouhaiyaoqu“saorao”ta，neitaduinidetaiduzhihuiyuelaiyuecha!

　　yincigangfenshoudeyigexingqi，nibiejinxingrenhewanhuidejudong，nizhiyaozuoliangjianshi：

　　yongyuanxiaoshi：bunengchuxianzaiqiannvyoumianqian，qianwanbuyaoqulianluoqiannvyou，jitayigelizhikongjianheshijian，tongshiyeweizijiyigelizhikongjianheshijian。

　　gaibianxianzhuang：zheigeshihounixuyaorenzhendesikaodajiazheifenganqingfashengwentideyuanyin，suihouzhaodaozishenwentierqiejiayigaijin，haoduorenfenshouyihou，yebuhuiqusikaozishenwenti，laojuedefenshouquanshitazijidecuo，benshenyidianwentidoumeiyou，neiyangruguozheiyangdehua，jiusuanniwanhuichenggong，neinimenyiranhuiyouyuleisidewentierzaicifenshou，yinciwanhuizhiqianyaoxiansikao!

　　2. 分手后的一个月(情绪过渡期)

　　fenshouhoudeyigeyueshiwanhuiqiannvyoudezuijiashiqi，jingguoyigeyuedelizhi，qiannvyouduiyunidexiaojiqingxuzaoyijibenxiaoshile，bingqiezheigeshihoutaduinidejiebeixinliyejianshaole，bingqietazhenduigenghaodeshenghuoyejibenshangshiying。

　　neiyangzheigeshihounijiunengchuxianzailetademianqianle，keshifashengdexingshibubihenshengying，yebuyaozhijieledang，nikeyigenju“weixinpengyouquan”defangshichuxianzaitademianqian，liru：fayixiezishenjinqizhuangtai，rangqiannvyoukanjiannidegenggai，ziranzheizhongzhuangtairuguoyangguangxiangshangde。

　　ruguonijuedeqiannvyouxianzaikaishiguanzhunideqingkuangxia，neimenijiukeyixunzhaoyigetupokoulaiheqiannvyoulianxishangle，liru：tafaleyigeweixinpengyouquan，nikeyijitaguanzhudianzanhuozhepinglun，keshipingjiadejutineirongbubihencusu，yebiepuluzijidexuqiugan，nikeyijiandanpingjiayiju：zheigebucuo。

　　ruguonijuedeqiannvyouxianzaikaishihenihudongle，liru：tajiukaishihuinideliuyan，huozhetakaishizhudongdejinidadianhua，neiyangzheigeshihounijiukeyixuanzejinyibudegenqiannvyoulianxishangle，liru：yuetachuqupengmian。

　　3. 分手之后的三个月(情绪手术恢复期)

　　jiaruqianbiandeliangjieduannizuodehenhao，neiyangdaolezheigejieduan，nimenzhijiandeguanxiyingdangyihuifudefeichanghaole，naizhihuoxuyijinghuifudaolepengyoudeshenfen，keyizhengchangdeliaotianyuehuile。

　　neiyangzheiyijieduanwomenxuyaozuodeshiqingjiushi：gengxinnimenzhijiandeguanxi，banimenzhijiandeguanxizaipengyoushengjichengaimeiguanxi，ranhouzaicongaimeiguanxishengjichenglianren。

　　shengjiguanxizuihaodebanfajiushi“youhui”，youyuyouhuinengrangdajiagengjialejieduifang，haikeyirangnimenzhijiandeguanxigengweideqinmi，zaiyouhuideguochengdangzhong，nikeyitongguoyixie“dongzuo”laijianceqiannvyouduinideganqing，liru：shouqianshou、loujian、xiangyong、jiewendeng。

　　jiaruqiannvyoubingmeiyoujujuenidezheizhong“dongzuo”，neijiushuomingtayijienani，nimenzhijiandeganqingzaoyikeyishengjile，zheigeshihounijiunengdadandechangshigaobaile，ziranbiaobaifangshibubihenshengying，nikeyizhaoyigeheshidetupokou，liru：nimenyiqikandianyingdeshihou，nikeyizhenqingdekanzheta，suihougentashuo：“niqingchuma?wozhendehenxihuanni”。

　　wanhuiqiannvyoude“xingweiguifan”

　　wanhuiqiannvyouchukaiyaojizhu“zuijiashijidian”yiwai，haiyaolejie“xingweiguifan”，youyujishinizaizhengquedeshijiandian，ruguozuobuzhengquedeshier，neiyangyehuishiwanhuiqiannvyouyuelaiyuejubuweijian!

　　1. 控制好自己的情绪

　　wanhuiqiannvyoudeguochengdangzhong，niyidingyaodiaozhenghaozijidexintai，bieyinqiannvyoudemouxiexingweihuoshiyanci，daozhizijideqingxubengkui，liru：qiannvyougenqitadenanhaizizoujiaojin，nijiukaishifapiqi、qifen、naizhimanmaqiannvyou。

　　zheizhongxingweihuirangnideqiannvyougengjiayanfanni，youyuqingxubengkuideren，zaitarendeyanlishi“kepa”de，meirenxihuangenyigeqingxubengkuiderenzaiyiqi，yinweiheneiyangderenzaiyiqihuiquefaanquangan，yinciwanhuiqiannvyoudeguochengdangzhong，niyidingyaodiaozhenghaozijidexintai，jibianqiannvyoujinxingleshinibuyukuaideshiqing，niyebuyaobiaodachulai。

　　2. 不必暴露自己情感需求

　　wanhuiqiannvyoudeguochengdangzhong，qianwanbiebaoluzijiqingganxuqiu，yejiushibunengbiaoxiandehen“nannai”，liru：gangfenshouneiniquqiuqiannvyoufuhexing，huoshibuduandigenqiannvyoushuo：“woxihuanni”、“wobunengmeiyouni”zheizhonghua。

　　zheizhongxingweihuirangnideqiannvyougengjiashuyuanni，youyunizheigeshihoudeqingganxuqiutaiqiangliele，nongliedeqingganxuqiuhuijirendailaigongzuoyali，ermeirenxihuangongzuoyali，yinciwanhuiqiannvyoudeguochengdangzhong，nixuyaoyanzanghaozijideyaoqiugan，bunengrangqiannvyouhuijuedeni“nannai”。

　　3. 提升自己的价值

　　wanhuiqiannvyoudeguochengdangzhong，niyidingyaotishengzijidejiazhi，youyujiazhijuedingyouhuoli，nijiazhiyuegao，huoxuniduiqiannvyoudeyingxiangliyejiuyueqiang，wanhuiqiannvyouchenggonggailvyeyuegao。

　　tishengzijidejiazhi，nenggouconglianggefangmianxiashou：

　　waizaijiazhi：yejiushinidebiaomianpinpaixingxiang，nikeyihuanyigegengweifuhezijidetouxing，chuanyixiegengshihenideyifu，jingxindabandegengjiashuaiqi、jingshenshizhi。

　　shijijiazhi：yejiushinideneizaixiuyang，nikeyiduoyueduyixieshu，tigaozijidezhishichubei，yekeyiduoquyixiedifang，kuankuozijideyanjie，ruguonijinglideduole，zhidaodededuo，huoxunishunlichengzhangjiuhuibiandegengjiadexinxin、youqizhi。

　　4. 创建舒适度

　　wanhuiqiannvyoudeguochengdangzhong，chuangjianshushidushihenzhongyaodeyibu，suoyizhiyoudanglianggerenzhijianyongyoushushidu，neinimencainenggouzhongxindexiyinzhubicizhijian，cainenggouzhongxindezaiyiqi。

　　chuangjianshushiduzuihaodebanfajiushi：xianliao，youyuxianliaonengrangdajiagengjialejieduifang，haikeyirangnimenzhijiandeguanxigengweideqinmi，zailiaotiandeguochengzhong，nikeyiduoliaoyixieqiannvyouganxingqudeshi，yekeyiduofenxiangyixienizijishenghuo。

　　keshiliaotiandeguochengzhong，yidingyaozhuyibuyaotanjiganqingdewenti，yebietanjiyiwangbuyukuaideshiqing，nizhixuyaojiangxianliaodangchengyizhongxiangyou，yizhongjieyadefangshijiuxingle。

　　5. 适度的表示爱意

　　nvyouhushanhouzenmewanhui？wanhuiqiannvyoudeguochengdangzhong，ruguonijuedenimenzhijiandeguanxiyihuifudechabuduole，neiyangzheigeshihouniyejiukeyishidangbiaoshiaiyile，keshibiaodaaiyifangfabubihenshengying，yebiezhijieledang。

　　nikeyitongguoyixie“dongzuo”laibiaodanideqingyi，liru：shouqianshou、xiangyong、jiewen，huozheshiyixieguanxindehua，dangqiannvyoujieshounizheizhong“dongzuo”he“guanxindehua”yihou，neimenijiukeyikaolvdaogaobaile。

　　keshigaobaideshihouyidingyaozhuyichangsuohefangfa，bunengrangqiannvyoujuedeyalihenda，yebunengrangqiannvyougandaobushufu，nikeyizhaoyigeheshidetupokou，yongyizhongqingqingsongsong、qingsongyukuaidefangfagaobai。