怎么挽回吵架的婚姻

　　zenmewanhuichaojiadehunyin，dangganqingchuxianwentishi，youqishidangnidelaogonghaoxiangyijinglizijijianxingjianyuan，wanhuilaogongchengweizhongduonvshicunzaidekunnan。shijishang，wanjiuhunyinbingbushiyijianrongyideshiqing，danyebushimeiyoukenengde。zaizheipianwenzhangzhong，womenjiangyaotantaoruhewanhuilaogong，bingweinintigongyixieshiyongtiyi。

　　一、思考自己的问题

　　zaiwanhuizhangfudeguochengdangzhong，shouxianyishidaozijidenanti。youhuoxunizaihunyinshenghuozhongguoyuqiangshi、bulijieduifang、huomeiyoujiyuzugoudeguanxinyuai。zheizhongxingweidouyoukenengdaozhifuqiguanxideshengshuhechongtudejiazhong。

　　qianghanshihenduonvxingpengyouzaihunyinshenghuozhongfeichangrongyifandecuo。tamenhenyoukenenghuiduizijidelaogongzengjiaguoduofudan，changshicaozongtadesixianghexingwei。zheizhongxingweihuishilaogongjuedeshouyueshuhejuewang，jinerchanshengfanganhebumanqingxu。

　　lingyifangmian，bulijieduifangshidaozhifufuguanxiehuadelingyigeyinanwenti。youyixielaopokenengduilaogongdegongzuozhong、pengyouhuojiatingzhuyaochengyuanjinxingpipingbaoyuanhe，zheizhongzuofahuisunshanglaogongdezizunxin，bingpohuaifufuzhijiandexinrenyuqinggan。

　　ciwai，bingmeiyoujiyuzugoudeguanxinyuaishidaozhifufuchanshenggehedeyigezhongyaoyuanyin。suizheshijiantuiyi，henduolaopokenengduijiatinghehaizizijintourugengduojingli，erhushilelaogongdejingshenxuqiu。zheizhongzuofahuishilaogongjuedebeihulvehebuzhiyiti，jinerchanshengbumanyiheweiqu。

　　yaowanhuilaogong，shouxiansikaozijidewentibingchengrenzijiguoshi。dangnizhenzhengkeyizhengshizijidenantibingqieyuanyigaibianshi，cainengzhenzhengdiwanhuilaogong。yaoxuehuilijielaogongdejianyihetihui，jiyuduifangchongfendeguanzhuai，erqiefangzhiguoyuqiangshiyukongzhidechulifangshi。weiyouruci，cainengzhongxingoujianqixianghuzunzhongyuzunzhongdefuqiganqing，jinerranghunyingengweixingfuyuxingfu。

　　二、学会交流与聆听

　　hezuoshichulihunlianwentideguanjianyinsu。zaitansuowanliuhunyindeguochengzhong，yuzhangfukaizhanyouxiaogoutongshishifenzhongyaode。weilenengfujianyuzhangfuzhijiandexinrenyuqinggan，bixutanchengdihetagoutongjiaoliuziyideganshouhexiangfa，tongshihaiyaoqingtingtadexiangfaheganshou。

　　genjuzhenchengershencengcidejiaoliu，keyizengjinshuangfangzhijiandezhangwo，jiangdiwujie，jinerweiwanjiuhunyinchuangzaoyigehemu、xinlaideqifen。zuixian，yaogoujianyouxiaodegoutongjiben，bixuzunzhongduifangdeganshouhexiangfa。zaijiaotanzhong，yidingyaobimiangongjixingyanciheqingxuhuabiaoshu，ershiyongpingjing、lixingdetaiduxianghujiaoliu。

　　yucitongshi，xuyaozhuyigoutongjiaoliudejihuihefangfa。xuanzeyigeheshideshijiandidiankaizhanjiaotan，bianyushuangfangkeyiquanshenguanzhudilingtinglingyifang。chucizhiwai，yaoshizheyongjianjiemingledeyuyanbiaodabiaodazijideguandianyuxuqiu，fangzhishanshuoqicihuoguoyufuzademiaoshu。

　　zailingtingcengmian，yingjiyuzhangfuchongzudeguanzhulejie。dangtajiangwanziyidexiangfaheganshouhou，yingjiyujijizhudongfankuihedafu，yibiaomingzijidesikaoheguanai。neiyangkeyizengqiangbicizhijiandexinlaigan，weiwanjiuhunyindiandingjichu。

　　zongeryanzhi，fenshouwanhuihunyindeguochengzhong，xuehuiyuzhangfujinxingyouxiaogoutongshishifenzhongyaode。genjuzhencheng、zhongshi、renzhihelingting，nenggoujiejuemaodun、cujinganqing，weihunyinshenghuodewanliuchuangzaoyigejijizhudong、rongqiadeziranhuanjing。

　　三、给与时间与空间

　　zenmewanhuichaojiadehunyin，zaiwanhuizhangfudeguochengdangzhong，yaojiduifangchongzudeshikongjinxingsikaoyuchulizishendewenti。zaizheigeshihou，buyaojigongjinli，yebiebububijin。meiyigerendechulifangfahesikaowentideshijiaodoubujinxiangtong，yiner，womenyaolijieduifangdexiangfaheganshou。yucitongshi，yeyaoxiangxinzijidezhangfukeyijinxinghelidequeding。zhiyouzaitaganjueshenxinfangsonganquanxingshi，caikeyizhongxinsikaonimenzhijiandeguanxi，bingshenzhongkaolvyuanbuyuanyihuidaonideshenbian。

　　zaizheiguochengzhong，womenkeyicaiyongduozhongduoyangxiucifangfalaitishengbiaodachulaideshijixiaoguo。liru，keyiyongxingronglaipinpaixingxiangdimiaoshunanti，keyishiyongpaibijulaitishengyushi，keyishiyongfanwendaolaiyinqisisuo。yucitongshi，yidingyaozhuyiyuqiheshejifenggedeyizhixing，shizhongbaochizhuanyeyugaozhiliangdexingwenfengge。

　　liru，womennengzheimexie：“zaiwanhuizhangfudeguochengdangzhong，yinggaixiangzhongxiayikezhongziyiyang，jitachongzudetaiyang、chenluyushijian，shitaziranerranshengzhangfayu。buyaojigongjinli，yebuyaoguofenshangfei。jianxinzijidezhangfujiuxiangneikezhongzi，zongyouyitianhuizhagenfaya，zhongxinsikaonimenzhijiandeguanxi。”

　　zaibiru：“zaiwanhuizhangfudeguochengdangzhong，yinggaixiangyizhiyigebingrenyiyang，jiyuduifangchongzudeguanxinzhichi，rangrengandaobeiaigenbeirenlijie。buyaojigongjinli，yebuyaoqiangxinggenggaitadexiangfa。jianxinzijidezhangfujiuxiangneigehuanzhe，zongyouyitianhuihuifulai，zhongxinsikaonimenzhijiandeguanxi。”

　　bulunshicaiyongnazhongxingrongfangfa，yeyaozhuyixiucifangfadeyingyongyaoqiaruqifen，buyaotaiguoyuqiliershiquzhuanyeyugaozhiliangshejifengge。yucitongshi，yeyaozhuyibaochiyuzhongxinsixiangheyudiaoshejifenggedeyizhixing，yihuodegenghaodebiaodazuoyong。