外遇被老公发现怎么办，挽回还是离开

waiyudeqizilunlishishenme？qiziyouwaiyuzenmeban？fajueqizichuguidezhuyaobiaoxianhou，gaizenyangchaikaidisanzhe?zaifajueqizichuguihou，nizhiweikuangbendaotamenyanqianwenweihe，genghenbunengbaozoudisanzheyidun，shitalejiezishendeqiangda。erzheileizuofachanshengdeshixifupobudeyinidezhenshe，yincipeizainishenbian。danyouyuninanyishihuaitadepanbian，nijingchangweiciweibashouranglingyifangtongkubukan，dajiadeguanlianjiangchibuxiazhong。waiyubeilaogongfaxianzenmeban？

qiziyouwaiyuzenmeban？chaikaidisanzhedemudishiweilegenghaodirangxifufanhuizishenshenpang，danchaikailetabianhuihuijiama?nandaoshuoburongyiyouciwaiyigedisanzhechuxianma?zhixudajiazhongjiandenantimeiyouchuli，tahuanshiduidajiadehunyinshenghuobumanyi，neilingyifangyiranhuizaiwaiyu。yinci ，bibushangyongzheileiquzhedefangfalaichaikaidisanzhe，jitigaozijideshiyongjiazhizaicixiyinzhuxifu，dangxifufajuehuanshizainipangbiannengganshoudaojingcaifenchenghekaixinshi，bianhuijijiliqudisanzhe，zheibushichaikaidisanzhedezuihaofangshima?

一、妻子出轨的缘故

waiyubeilaogongfaxianzenmeban？youyuxinhan。youduoshaowaiyudedenvxingshiyouyuduizhangfuzaochengxinhanerzaochengwaiyu?zuishaozaigendajiaxuexiaolaoshixunqiubangzhudeqingkuangxia，jiufajuexuduonvwanliuzheyouyuwaiyuhouzaolaogongpaoxia，bingqieyizhichizhizaozhijinri，houhuimojidangshidexinlizhuangtai。zenghenzishenmeiyoushouhaozishendeqiuzhiyu，guanbulezishendeaimuxurong，bulizhideyongzheileijiduanhuadefangfalaizhengshibenshendefengcai。dangyiqieshizhezhihou，zhenshiqingkuangbingbushizishenxiangxiangzhongdexingfu。zhishineijiu，kuijiu，geshuyijiandefumianqingxuquzhiruowu，keqiunagebeichongdongmituchuxindezishen。

bikaixinlizhuangtai。youyixieshiyouyuguzhennanmian，ertaruzhaoxingbanlvdelumian。xuduonvshiyouyuchibuxiaoyishiguduertarulezheitiaolu，suihouquechengshoubuqiguohoudebingfazheng。tamenyizhiguanxingliyongshanduo，duobidexinlizhuangtai，mamuzishenmeiyouchanshengguozheiyijianshier，yiciyaoxiangzishendexinlizhuangtaifanhuianfaqiandepinghengzhuangtai。bingqiezaigaoxinkejiyulaiyubijiaofadadejinri，zhaoxingbanlvdegaoxiaolvhechengbenfeiyulaiyuchengdaliangrenqingyi，keshizhaoxingbanlvbingfazhengquebingbushimeiyigerendounengchengshoudele。

biaoxinliyi。zheileinvshiyou，danyinggaishifeichangshaoyibufen。tamenduizishenyoufeichangdadexinxin，juedezishennenggoubaaihexingfenlilai。ganjuezishennenggouzuodegennanshengyiyangxiaosa，naizhibinanshenghaisatuo。jishizourulehunyinshenghuodeshufu，tamenyehuanshibiaoxinliyi，yongzishendehexinlinianguozhezishenderichangshenghuo。jishimouyitianbeilaogongfajue，tamenhaikeyizhenzhenyoucidebiaoshushuo，wozhishibarentijilelianren，keshiaihuanshijiaojini。zheileinvshihuozhulanmanlixianghua，danquehenzisizili。

二、了解本身义务

yaoganyufuzeren。nanshengzuixianyaoganyufuzeren，dangzaitanlianaihuohunyinshenghuozhong，jiarupengdaofenqi，nanrenyaojijifuzerenhejijizhudongjiejuekunnan，erbushibanantidiujinvxing，haipafuzerendenansheng，zaipengdaonantideqingkuangxia，yizhitiaoxuanduobi，huoshibanantipaojinvxing，rangnvxingzishenchuli，neiyangdenanrenshizisizilide，jibushangnvxingxingfukuaileheguishugan。

yaoganrencuo。xuduonanshenghaiparencuo，jibian lejietashizishendenanti，danyouyuaiyuqingmian，zuizhonghuanshibuyuanchengrencuowu，zhangqixingneiyangzuihouzaochengnvpengyoudetichufenshou，wanliuxuexiaoshuoguo：“nanrenyaoyaoganrencuo，zhiqianhechengrencuowubingbudiuren，nvxinghaihuijixuyouyunideyingyongchengrencuowueryunihehaoruchu”，yigechengshunanrenyizhiyaoganrencuode，youyutamenjuedezaizhangqixingguanlianzhong，zishendelianrenbiqingmiangengguanjian，tamenchengrencuowudelingwaiqinfenjiejuekunnan，weihubaoyanglezishendeqinggan。

三、提升使用价值

zaizaishenghuoshang，nideshenghuozhuangtaizenyang?shichangchangmilianwangyou，huanshiyilansanweituocirenpingzishenrouroujiansheng?wanliuxuexiaodelaoshishuoguo：“shenghuopinzhishizhangqixingxiyinzhuzuizhongyaodeyigeyinsu，youyushenghuopinzhiyueyuegaoyuejingcaifencheng，jiuyuenengzhangqixingdexiyinzhudaoshenbianderengenniyiqishenghuo。”nixuyaopaoxiayiwangdexiaochenrichangshenghuo，duojiaopengyou、yaogantanxian、yundongjianshen、xiangshourensheng、zhuiqiumengxiang，zheizhongcaisuanshixiyinzhuyixingpengyoudeshenghuoxiguan。

zaiyuyancengmian，yiban shanyugoutongjiaoliudenansheng，dounenghenqiadangdijiejuekunnan，youlianghaodegoutongfangfazishenbianshipindexiuyangdefanying，zaiqinggankeyihenvrenhaohaodigoutongjiaoliu，nengjiejuexuduofenqi，rangqingganwendingfazhanqushi，shinanshizhanxianfengcaidefangshi。danqiewugaotankuolun，ziwochuixu，neiyangzongshiyoufanshijixiaoguo，rangnvxingganjuenimeichenwen，bunengxinlai。

四、给与使用价值

qingxujiazhi。jianyideshuobianshiyaorangnvshigaoxing，keshibujinjinshigaoxingbale，zhishizaochengyizhongxinmao，rangnvshizhixugennizaiyiqibianhuizaochenggaoxingdejuede。nenggouyunyong，pingshidajiajiaowang，shengchanzhizaodaliangdelanmanhekaixin，nenggouqukanyanhuo，keshiwubishihenizaiyiqi，nenggouyiqiququwan，qujingsepiaoliangdelvyoujingdian，yiqiqufengkuang，qubaomingcanjiapiaoliudeng。jinliangbimiandajiazhongjiandebuyukuai，dajiazhongjiandebuyukuailijinghuishilingyifangtichuzhiyidajiadeguanlian。yunibuduandegaoxing，neiyangzhangqiyihou，xinmaojiuzaochengle，nvshimeiyicijianniyimianbianshixingfukuailedejuede，nenggouranglingyifanghenizaiyiqifanyingchuhenqingqingsongsong。

rentongshiyongjiazhi。budanshinanshibixubeirentong，nvxingyezheiban。“dangnvxingchangshixiangnizhanxiantazishen，zaixunzhaoniduitaderentong，niyidingyaoyishidaotazaizhengshizishen，bingjitaniderentong。jiarunineishihoumeiyoujitarentong，niyizhizaiyanzhongbianshimeiyouanquangan，quefazixindenansheng，huoshihenyoukenenggengzaogao，beidangzuoshishejiaomeitizhilihendideren。”bianshidangnvshizaigennichuandikuailehuoshifalaosaodeqingkuangxia，nanshiyingdangzuoweiyigelingtingzhe，haohaodiqulingtingta。yebixushidudeshiyonglingyifangdejuece，lejietadegerenxingwei。

jiazhi。jiazhibianshijiyunvshihuaxuewuzhishangdewupin。jiarunizhangdetingshuai，youfuyoudezhuangkuangxia，jiukeyikaolvtadeaimuxurong。ruguozhishangyemeiyouhuoshibuquandehua，nenggoujiyutamenyixieshenghuoshangdehuaxuewuzhi。jiubiru，tazaigongzuoshangyounanyijiejuedejiannan，ninengxiezhutaquchuli，richangshenghuo，tabixuhuandengpaozheileidebujiandandejishuhuo，ninengjijiquxiezhutaquzuo，neiyangnenggoutuxiannideyiwuhegongzuonengli。jiyutajiazhi，huirangtajuedenidekaopu。

waiyudeqizilunli，fajueqizichuguidezhuyaobiaoxianhou，gaizenyangchaikaidisanzhe?congyuantoushangeryan，qingganguanlianzhongchuxiandeyiqienanti，quanshinanshengdaozhide，youyutameiyoujinhaolingzheyigenvrendeyiwu，caizaochengtazoupianzouwai，meifazuodaoyitongxinyoulingxi。erbaochizhangqixingguanliandefangshishi，bianshiranglingyifangduijianglaiyouzhewujinxiangxiangshineikongjian，bingqieganjuegennizaiyiqihuishifenxingfukuaile、shifenjingcaifencheng、shifengengyouyiyi。yinci ，zaiwanliudequanguochengzhong，nixuyaozuodebianshiranglingyifangjiandaozheizhongqidai，nidewanliucaiyoukenengqudechenggong。