提高情商的方法:怎么做才能提高自己的情商?

 henduorenqingshangdi，budongdeshuohuazuoshi，congerbeibeirenshuyuanshenzhipaichi。qishiqingshangshikeyitongguoquanmianxitongdekechengpeiyangtigaobingqiegaibiande。xiamianjieshao tigaozijiqingshang defangfa,xiwangduidajiayousuobangzhu。

首先，学会自信。

 henduorenzhisuoyibudasuantigaozijideqingshang，shiyinweijuedezijijishinulileyebuyidingnengchenggong，haiwangfeijingli，nizhiyouxiangxinnizijizhendenenggouchengweiyigegaoqingshangderen，nicainengkuachuzheiyibu，ranhourangzijijianchixiaqu。

（zenmezuocainengtigaozijideqingshang？）

自我训练，从识别情绪开始。

 youxierenhuihenyiwaidifaxian，zijiyixiangdeyiderenjiguanxi，juranchulewenti。buzhizenmedi，tamensihaobuzhidaozijideyixieyanyuhuoxingwei，cenglingqitarenganjuehenbushufu。

 liru：xuduorenzaiqingbierenbangmangshi，zongshidashengdishuo：“wei，niqubaneijiandongxijiwonalai。”yexushizijueheduifanghenshu，suoyishuohuadekouqibijiaosuibianxie，qishibingmeiyoueyi，dantingzaitarenerzhong，jiuhuixiangdangbushufu。ruoshihuangekouqi，heyanyuesedishuo：“mafannibangwonaneigedongxihaoma?”ruhe?ganjueshibushihaoduole?

 youxierenquesihaobuzhidaozijidewuxinzhiyan，wangwangduibierenzaochengmodakunrao。liru：dangnanxingkandaoshencaifengmandenvxing，yuanbenxiangchengzantadeshencai，danbuliaoshuochukoudequeshi：“nidagaiyaochuand sizedeneiyiba!”shuowanhaiqingtiaoditiaoleyixiameimao。zheihuatingzainvfangerzhong，lingtajuedefeichangbuyukuai，juedezijibeidangzhongqingbo，jirongyigouchenglesuoweide“xingsaorao”，yushihaoyijiubianchengleeyi。zheizhongqingkuangchuxiandeyuanyinquezaiyushuohuazheduiyubierendeqingxuwufajishichajue，bulejiezijideyanxingduijieshouzhehuizaochengdekenengyingxiang，yizhiyuzaiwuyijianshanghailebieren。

通过赞美他人传播正能量：

① 如何发现可夸赞之处?  nixuyaoyifenminruideguanchali，yaonengsuishisuididezhuyizhouzaoderenhewu，faxianduifangzhenzhenglingnixinshangdedifang，erzheifengongli，yeshiwomenzhongyaodeshejiaojiqiaozhiyi。

② 抓住“心动”时机  ：zainizhuyidaotarenkequankediandexingweishi，yinggaizhangwozhuneilingnixindongdeshiji，likedegaosuta(ta)nidexinshangzhiyi。zheimezuonengrangbeichengzanderendedaolijidehuikui，erxintaixuejiamenlaozaojiuzhengshilezheixiangzuofadewujinmoli。yinweidangyigerenzaixingweiwanchenghou，likeshoudaopangrendezanmei，xinzhongdegaoxingshiduozhongde，chulegaoxingyubierenzanxuxinshangzijidesuoyansuoxingzhiwai，gengweitarensuishisuididezhuyidaoziji，gandaoyigushoudaozhongshidexingfen。tongshi，zaiganjuechanshengzhijiqubiaodaqingyi，wangwangzuinengshiqiedechuandaxinzhongkanfa，taidushizuichengkendele。

③ 称赞要具体  ：wozaimeiguogongzuoshiyouweitongshidaibi，tade“chengzanshu”shizaigaorenyideng，lingwoqinpeibuyi。jideyouciwozuogezhongyaodejianbao，shiqianzuozhunbeishimangderenyangmafan，feichangxinku。jieguohaisuanchaqiangrenyi。jieshuhouxuduorenxiangwozhiyi，shuodebuwaishi“henjingcai!”、“zuodehao!”。weidudaibishuo：“wojuedenizaijieweishidefenxifeichangyouchuangyi，xianchunizaizheifangmiandushuyigedeyanguang。lingwai，nidetaifengzhenmiren，meigerendoucongtoudaoweimubuzhuanjingdetingzhe，zhenshiyicichenggongdejianbao。”zaineiyishunjian，wozharanlejiedaibizhisuoyimeilishizudeyuanyin，zaiyutabudanyongxinzaipengyoushenshang，gengdongderuhebazheifendutedexinyibiaodachulai。

 suoyi，ruguonixiangchengzanbieren，yuqizhishifanfandeshuo：“nidexinfaxinghenhaokan。”buruduoyongdianxinsi，gengjutidezanmeita：“nidexinfaxingtuxianlenideyanjing，kanqilaihaoyoushen!”yuqishuo：“niduirenhenhao”，buruhuancheng，“nizongshititieruweidezhuyidaopengyoudexuyao，zheifenyongxinrangnichengweiyigehentebiedepengyou。”bachengzanjutihua，xiangxinzheiyanggaoqingshangdenihuishoudaogengduorendexihuan。

④ 强调他人内在特质  ：ruguohuixiangyixia，womenzairichangshenghuozhongdedaojishifuchudezanmei，sihuyouguanyuwaibiaodezhemozuiduo，liru：“nizheitaoxizhuanghenhaokan。”、“nihaoxiangshoule，zheiyangkanqilaihenyoujingshen。”、“nidepibaohenhaokan，shimingpaihuo，henguiba?”zheiyenanguai，bijingyigerendewaibiaoshizuixianeryijiande，suoyiziranzuirongyichengweitarenchengzandemubiao。danjiuyinweichengzanwaixing，shirenrenjiedongdezuofa，yinciruoxiangchengweichengzangaoshou，jiubixugengshangyicenglou，cainengfahuiyuzhongbutongdemeili。

⑤ 大方地接受赞美，展现你的风度：  qianmianjigeshouzedoushiyouguanruhecaiquzhudongchengzande，qishichengzanshishuangxiangdexingwei，suoyichengzangaoshoumenchulehuizhangwozhudongwai，yeyingzuohaoyingduidegongfu。

 youxierenhenhuichengzanbieren，danzhiyaoyibeibierenshuoliangjuhaohua，jiuzuolibuan，shenzhihaifanbojiaoxunduifang，jieguolingduifangdeshanyimeidedaozhengmiandezengqiang，duibicideguanxishanghaijida。