高情商的重要性 知道这三点很重要

 gaoqingshangdezhongyaoxing，huijianghuashiyizhonggongzuonengli，luopangzai《qipashuo》shangshuo：churuzhichang，huanjuhuashuodangjinshehuifazhan，zuizhongyaodegongzuonenglishiyuyanbiaodanengli。bujinkeyijinxinggaoqingshangdeyoumoduihua，haikeyigaoqingshangduifubanlvchugui。

 dell·daierkanaiji(1888～1955)，shiyingguodangdai“chengrenjixujiaoyubizu”、zhimingxinlixuezhuanjiaherenjijiaowangxuezhe，yucitongshitahuoshiyingguozhimingdechuangyezhe、koucaiyuyanjiangyishudashi，beichengzuo“20xinshijizuijiechudexinlingdaoshi”。

 zaitadezheibu《jiazhibaiwandekoucaike》libian，tijileyigeyouguanhaohaodiliaotiandexiaobiaozhun：biewangji，yunijiaotanderen。taduibozishangdeyikexiaozhidezaihu，henyoukenengheduifeizhoude40cidizhenzaihaihaixuyaozaihudeduo。

zheigexingqihenrongxingdudaozheibenshu，zhidaoyigeyouguanzenyanghelidelingtingdemimi。

一、闭上嘴

 youyigemeiguojizhequliulanniudun，linxingdeqingkuangxia，tawenzheimingkexueyanjiugaoshou，shenmeshichenggongdegongshijisuan。niudunxiangxiangxiang，“jiaruayiweizhequdechenggong，”tashuodao，“neima，gongshijisuanbianshia=x+y+z。xzhigongzuozhong，yzhishoujiyouxi……”

"zshishenmeni？"xinwenjizhewen。

“zheiyi，”niudunshuo，“bianshibazuibiqilai。”

 henzaoyiqianyiqianzai《feibaoligoutong》zhong，jutizhidaodajiabianhuajiaotanheqingtingdefangfa。dajiabuhuizaitiaojiancijishidifanying，zhishiquyimuleranzishendeguancha、tihuihexinyuan，youmudediyingyongyuyanbiaoda。feibaoligoutongdejingcuiqujueyuduiguancha、tihui、bixu、yaoqiusigeyinsudechajue，erbuqujueyuyingyongnaxieguanjianzikaizhangoutongjiaoliu。

 jingchangwomenzaikuanweizuiaiderendeqingkuangxia，yongbenrenzhuguanxingdedianpingshuo“renzhubukushufuyixie”，“nineiyangxialaibuxinga，yingdang……”，zhenduibeikuanweizhefandaoshiyizhonggongzuoyali。genjulingting，dajiajiangyishidaobierenderendebenxingjibicizhijianxiangtongzhichu，zheihuishizishenbiaoshuyuelaiyuefeichangrongyiyixie。

 dajiayuefalingtingbierenyuyanbiaodashenhoudetihuihebixu，jiuyuebuhaipayutamenyichengxiangdaidegoutongjiaoliu。dajiabuyuanyirenrangdeqingkuangxiatongchangshiyouyudanyousangshicaozong，xiangkanqilaiqiangshideqingkuangxia。

二、同理心

 tangruonibuyuanyixiaohaixiyan，qianwanbuyaotaolaoshuoyifandaoli。zhixugaozhitamen，xiyanhenyoukenenghuishitamenjinbuquyuanxiaohuopaobuyingyibaimisai。

 nibenshendebixuchulezishen，henyoukenengmeirenyouxingqu。yinci，shishangzhiyouyigefangshinenggouweihairen，bianshitaoluntamendebixu，erqierangtamenlejieruhequhuode。

 “zheiyeshicuowude”、“zheihaochun”、“neiyigebutaihao”、“zheiyidianyebuyiqiezhengchang”、“neiyangbuhaoe”……meiriderichangshenghuo，dajiadoushizaidianpingrenhuowu，zheizhongguanjianzishifouhenlejie？

 zuozhelvkedebuweikanbujiananquanjiashiweidejiaodu，yifenzhongkanwanyipianwenzhangderenjiaruxieyipianwenzhangyexuyaoyigexingqi，xiguanchaojiuwanwugongxinzuderenyemeifaganshoulinghuojiuyerenyuandegaokuanbisuiyiheziwoyueshudeshijianguanlifangfa。

 gaoqingshangdezhongyaoxing，bote.futeqiche：qudechenggongderenjijiaowangzaiyunibuhuolingyifangjianjiedegongzuonengliguanlifangfa；yeyou，xiangcongnizijideshijiaokaolvneiban，conglingyifangdejiaoduguanchayijianshiqing。meirennenggouguobufenpincihezhongleiderenshengdaolu，keshijiarukeyihuanyizhongjiaodu，shifounenggouduoyizhongganshou？

二、赞扬

 xiangqixiaoyuanneishiqi，nvshengqinshiguodaoderichanghuihua:“qinaidedejinriniyifukuzihenpiaoliang~heiheimeiyoula~”、“qinaidenihaoshouya~heiheiniyebashou~”、“qinaidedejinrizhuanghaopiaoliang~fanganla~~~”

shuozhende，shangbiandejiemianshifouhenlejie，ng，tarenyanlidezishen，shifouzhendeshiyoumeiyoushoupinweiyouhaoya？！

 rutongshulichangshuo：jiarunirenhedongxidoubukeyijiyudeqingkuangxia，qinghuijueyongzhizedefangfaqugoutongjiaoliu。zhizetarenhaowujiazhi。zhizetarenshimeiyongde，yinweitarangrencaiyongdiqiangworuo，bingtongchangshitabuyiyulijizijidabian。zhizeshifengxiande，youyutasunhaiyigerenzhenguidezizun，bingjifabierendedikang。

 daierkanaijidemuzhi：“zheierpingtangzheyigeren，tamingbaizenyangyubitayouxiuderenxiangchu。”bujinkeyijinxinggaoqingshangdeyoumoduihua，haikeyigaoqingshangduifubanlvchugui。