经常冷战的婚姻要继续吗 打破冷战的方法

 lengzhanshishanghaifuqiguanxizuiyanzhongdeyinsuzhiyi。weishenme?zaihenduorenyanli，sihuzhiyouyiduanshijiandelengzhan，ranhoujiuhuihaoqilai。tabuxiangzhengchaoneimejilie。guojitianjiuhaole。raner，zhengshizheizhongguanniandecunzai，shidexuduohunyindeliehenyuelaiyueda。lengzhanyongyuanwufajiejuehunyinwenti。tahuizaibuzhibujuezhongjinidehunyindailaijudadeloudong，xiamianyiqilaikandapolengzhandefangfa。

1. 婚姻是如何发生在冷战时期的

 dangfuqizhijianfashengmaodunshi，zhangfuyouzijidexiangfa，qiziyeyouzijidexiangfa。lianggerendoubuxianghoutuiyibu。zaizheichangduikangzhong，huiyouyizhongjuewangdeqingxu，yinweitamenkanbudaojiejuewentidexiwang。

 zheigeshihou，kenenghuiyouyigerenhuibi，tahaizaiduikang，danshitahuihulveduifangdexuqiu，xiangrangduifangyichenmodefangshiganshoudaoyali，rangduifangzidongqufu。

 zaizheichangdouzhengzhong，ruguoqizihaipa，yuqibianderouhe，huozhefangqi，jixujianchizijidetaidu，neimenanrenhuichangdaozheichangdouzhengdetiantou。tajuedezhiyaotadeqizijianglaibuqufu，tajiuhuiyongzheigedongzuo。

 qitarencongfumuneilixuexi。dangtahaishigehaizideshihou，tajingchangkandaofumudelengzhan。suiranzheizhongganjuehuirangtatebieyinuhuohaipa，dantafaxianzheizhongxingweikeyijiejuewenti。

2.遇到冷战时，我们该如何应对

 xuduorenhuizailengzhanzhongzuoyixiejiduandeshiqing，fouzetamengenbenbuzaihu，fouzetamenhuixiangyaolihun，womenyigeyigeditanlun。

 shouxian，rangwomentantanwomengenbenbuzaihudeqingkuang，yejiushishuo，lianggerendouranglengzhandeqifenfajiao，danyouxierenkendinghuishouku。suizheshijiandetuiyi，duifangjianghennanrenshou，budebuqufu。

 lingyizhongqingkuangshilihun，zheijiuyaoqiuwomenqingchudizhidaolihundeyuanze，yejiushishuo，dangfuqiguanxiwanquanpolieshi，jishimeiyouwaibuganraoyinsu，tayehuizaitichulihunzhiqianzifadijuedezheiyangdeshenghuoyijingzugoule。

 erqitashihou，tabingmeiyoutidaolihun，zhishiyongchenmodefangshiyuniduikang，shuomingnimendehunyinzaitayanlihaishikequankediande。

zheili，womenlaitantan“dapolengzhanwubufa”zainimenduikangdeguochengzhong，renheyigehuanjie，dounengpojiexianzhuang。

第一步：指出他的目的

 gaosuta“zhangfu，nizaihewodalengzhan。nidemudeshirangwotingnide，danzheibushiyigehaofangfa。ruguonibuhewodalengzhan，womenkeyitanlunwomendexiangfa，wokeyizunzhongnidexiangfahexuyao”。

第二步：打破丈夫的防御机制

 zaizheiyibuzhong，nixuyaoduitayouyigejibendelejie，yejiushishuo，mianduizheijianshi，rangtatebiexingfen，huozhenibixujianchidemudeshishenme?niyiqianyudaoguozhongdachuangshangshijianma?tarenweiruguomeiyoulengzhan，zheixiewentijiuwufajiejuema?

 dangnizhidaotadexiangfashi，nihuigenjuzheixietedingdekadianyutagoutong，zheiyangtajiukeyikandaowentibingbuxiangtaxiangxiangdeneimezaogao，takeyikandaowentikeyiyonglingyizhongfangshijiejue。

第三步：打破冷战的利益模式

 buyaorangnizhangfuchangdaolengzhandetiantou。womengaizenmeban?dangnixuyaozaicilengzhanshi，nibuyinggaituoxie。ruguotajileniyidianhuiying，jishitazanshituolilelengzhan，niyeyinggaijishikendingta，gulita。

第四步：积极反馈他的反应

womenyinggaizhidao，jihusuoyoudelengzhandoushiyouyuwomenshiyongduikang，hushileduifangdexuyao。

 yaoxiangdapojiangju，shouxianyaorangtajinqingbiaodaziji;dier，womenyinggaicongtadeyuyanzhongkanchutatebieguanxinshenme，yijiruhejiejuewenti。

dangnikantouletajiujiedewenti，nijiuhuidadaoshuangyingdezhuangtai，lengzhanjiuhuibeidapo。

第五步：让他看到冷战的破坏力

 xuduonanrenzhisuoyishiyonglengzhan，shiyinweitamenmeiyouyishidaozheizhongxingweiduibanlvzaochengdeshanghai。suirantamenyezhidaolengzhanbuhao，dantamenkanbudaoduibanlvdejutishanghai，suoyitamenwufalijietadetongku。