过了三十岁的年轻人，30岁谈恋爱还有感觉吗

 suhuashuo：sanshierli。jushuorenmenyinggaizaisanshisuishijiehun。danzaidangjinshehui，rengranyouxuduonianqingrenzai30suishirengrandanshen。suiranwomenhaimeiyoujiehun，dan30suisihuyijingchengweirenmenrenshengguanheaiqingguandefenshuiling。30suitanlianaihaiyouganjuema？

 xuduorenshuo，30suiyihou，tamenkaishifashengbaozhaxingdebianhua。qizhongyigebiaoxianjiushitamenkaishijinruaiqingjuandaiqi。yibanlaishuo，tamenyuelaiyuebuxiangzhuiruaihe。neimeweishenmeni？

一、三十岁，告别单纯却不想将就

 30suidenianqingren，wulunshinanhaihaishinvhai，zaiwanchengxueyehouzhishaogongzuole5-8nian。jingguojinnianlaishehuishenghuodemoli，nianqingrengaobieleguoqudejiandan。duiyuaiqinglaishuo，tamenbuzaixianglianaizhongdegaozhongsheng，chongmanlangmandehuanxiang；tabuzaixiangyisuolvseermeilidedaxue。tachongmanlexiyuehegudu。

 tamenxinliqingchudizhidao，aiqingdezuizhongmudeshijiehun，zuchengyigejiating；erzhangjiudehunyinbushijiandandexindong，ershigefangmiantiaojiandepipei。

 kanzhezhouweiderenkaishijiehunshengzi，xuduonianqingrenweilezunxunyibandeshenghuojincheng，zhudonghuobeizhangbeicuicu，fenfenjinruhunyinshichang，kaishixiangqin。danyoushiwohuiwenziji，juedewodeyushenghenzhang。worengranxiangzhaodaoweiyidelinghunbanlv，buxiangjiangjiu。

 ranhouchuxianleyigeqiguaidexianxiang：xuduonianqingrenzaihunyinshichangshangbenpao，kewangdedaozhenai；zaineixinquanhenglibidetongshi，takewangbeiwenrouduidai。zuihou，tachenglelianggehuaiyiaiqingdenianqingren，tanlunyiduanbuwenbuhuodeaiqing。

wangxiaojiezaihangzhoufenxiangleyiduantadexinlihua：

 “cong27suidao30sui，wojinglilehenduoxiangqin，yehexiangqinduixiangtanguojicilianai。zuirangwoshoubuledeshiwojuedemeiyouganjuedexiangqinduixiang，danshiwodezhangbeishuozheigenanrengefangmiantiaojiandouhenhao，suoyirangwoshizhehetaxiangchu。woyeshizhefuchuwodexin，danwozongjuedeaideganjueshaole。

 chulegudingdehuiyi、chifanhekandianying，lianggerenganjuebudaobicideguanxin。xiangfan，tamenjingchangbeiwenjishouru、jiawuhepengrendengshijiwenti。suizheshijiandetuiyi，zheiyangdeaiqingjibukuaileyebupijuan。gongzuohenlei。wozhendebuxiangzaitanzheiyangdeaiqingle。”

 wangxiaojiedehuayinggaishuochuxuduonianqingrendexinsheng。tamenzhidaozijiyijingdaolejiehundenianling，xiwangnengyudaoyigeyuanyiheta/tagongduyishengderen。

raner，suizhenianlingdezengzhang，zaifanfudelixiangzhijiandefanfuchongtuzhong，xuduonianqingrenduiaiqinggandaoshiwang。

 xuduorenjuede，yuqitanlunyiduanmeiyoujingxihexingfudeaiqing，buruzainianqingshiguoshangshushideshenghuo。bijing，wulunshenmeyangdeshenghuo，doushiyigerenzhiyouyicideshenghuo。yinci，yuelaiyueduoderenzai30suiyihoubuzaidanxin，yeyuelaiyuebuxiangzhuiruaihe。

 shishishang，meigerendeshenghuodouyouzijideshiqu，suoyimeiyoubiyaoyutarenbijiao；aiqinghehunyinshishenshengde。jishiniyijingsanshiduosuile，niyebubidanxin。bijing，nideshengminghenzhang。buyaoyinweiyiduanbuyukuaideguanxierqingyishiwang。

 womenyinggailejiezheigeshijie，erbushishisude。womenxiangxin，ruguowomenzhenchengdifuchu，womenzongnengyudaotongyangpinlvderen，danwomenbunengbeidongdidengdaichuqutanlunyiduanbufenshoudeaiqing。yourenhuijiniyifenniqidaideai。yexunihuichidao，danniyongyuanbuhuiquexi。

二、三十岁以后，人生价值定位更加多元化

 20suideshihou，henduorenkeyiweileaiqingerjuewang。neishihou，tamenmannaozidoushizijixihuanderen。20suideshihou，henduorenkeyibasuoyoudeshijianhejinglidouhuazaitanlianaishang；20suideshihou，henduorenhuiyinweishilianeraoyekuqi。

ershiduosuideshihou，aiqingduiyunianqingrenlaishuojibenshangjiushishengmingdequanbuyiyi，meiyouaiqing，fangfoshiqulezhenggeshijie。

 erjinrusanshisui，xuduorenkandaolegengjiafengfudeshijiehegengjiameimiaodefengjing，shenghuodegejuheshiyeyebujinxiangtong。shenghuodezhongxinyekaishimanmanzhuanyi。

 yiqianzhikandaoaiqingheairendeyanjing，kaishikanshijie，kanshu，kanfengjing。congqian，wozhiqidaiaiqingdewanmei，kaishiqidaishiyezhengzhengrishang，yuelaiyuehao。

 chuleaiqing，zheigeshijieshanghaiyouhenduozhideqidaideshiqing。ruguoyouqingrenyiweizaiyiqi，neidangranshizuihaode。danzheishiyigeliuxingdegaobieshidai。xuduorenzoulushihuifenshou。30suitanlianaihaiyouganjuema？

henduorenyihou，henduorendoumingbaile“buyaoweisachulaideniunaikuqi”meiyitian，zheigeshijiedouzhideqidai。

 yuaiqing、shiye、shenti、zhishi、shiyedengxuyaomingyunheshuangfangnuliweichidenenglixiangbi，nizhinengtongguozijidenulihuode，zheixienengliyoushikeyiwanquanmibuaiqingqueshidexingfu。yinci，xuduonianqingrenmanmandibuyuanyihuashijianhejingliquai，zheibuyidingshiyizhongshouhuo，wogengyuanyihuashijiantouziyuziji。

 sanshisansuidelixianshengshuo：“zhuiruaihehuiyouyizhongxingfugan，danaiqingdexingfuganhuihenkuaixiaoshi。womennengfouzoudaojintouqujueyumingyun。zheishiyigewomenwufaganshangdeshidai。nianqingrenyinggaiyoumengxiang，ganyuzhuiqiumengxiang。

 tamensuoxuedaodezhishihenenglijiangshitamengandaoshenghuofeichangfengfuheguangkuo。suiranwoyijingsanshiduosuile，danwobingbudanxinzhuiruaihe。worenweizuihaonengyudaoheshideren。ruguowobunengjianmian，wokeyihuashijianchongshihetigaoziji。”

 30suiyihoukanshijie，aiqingbushiquanbuzhenli。zaiduanzandeyishengzhong，meigerenxinzhongdouyoubutongdelixianghezhuiqiu。zheigeshijieyeweirenmentigonglegengduodejinbufangshihejieti。wuluntamenxuanzeshenmeyangdeshenghuofangshi，tamendouxiwangzhuisuizijidexin，guoshangwennuanerfengfudeshenghuo。

 youjuhuadajiapubianrenke：“hunyinshiniderenshengxuanze，bushiniderenshengxuanze”。shishishang，tanlianaiyeshiruci，tanlianaiyeshiyizhongxuanze，erbushiyisheng。

 30suitanlianaihaiyouganjuema？wulunnizuochushenmeyangdexuanze，woxiwangnibuyaoduiaiqingshiwang，yebuyaolangfeibaoguideshijian。zhiyaonibuhouhuinidexuanze，zheishiwomenzhidedeshenghuo。