造成恋爱婚姻不安的欠佳沟通难题

婚后怎么维持好家庭 ?大部分矛盾的原因是夫妻之间不一样的人生价值观与个性化，不一样生活习惯和大自然品性上的差别导致的，而一个人到这种层面是没办法更改的。

 henduobuhemudefuqizhijianbingfeimeiyougoutong，zhishicaiyongleqianjiadegoutongfangfa，biruyizhiyizeguaideyudiaoshuohua，kekelingyifang，yudiaojianke，bunengkuanrongdiduiyupeiou，yizhiduiyupeioudemouyifeichanggerenxingwei，huoshiyitiandaowanmaiyuanlingyifangzheiyemeizuodui，neiyemeigaohao，bingqiequanshilingyifangdeyiwu。hunhouzenmeweichihaojiating?lianaihunyinshiyihuishima?

 shilingyifangmingxiandijuedenantibingbushichuzaimoushiqinghuopingshidemaodunshang，zhishizaizishen，chuandachulaidexinxineirongquanshifourenzishende——“jiushinidecuo，jiushinideyiwu，shizheigerenbutaihao”，yincibidinghuizaochengmingxiandexiaojiqingxu。

 jiaruganqingshenghuoyikaishijiushishuohenyanlide、yankede，jiuhuishifuqijianjiandimaixiangfenlichulai。yibanshinvshihenrongyineiyang，huahenqiangshi，hanyoupipanxing，jinguantabenwuguyi，zaochengdeshijixiaoguoqueshishifenbijiaoyanzhongde。yincinvshiyiban huanshideyongjiaoweiwenroudefangfahao。

 qiadangdefangshi：fuqizhijianchuxiannantiyinglijichuli，bukeyizhangqileiji;yizhichulijinqichanshengdeshier，“jiushilunshi”，erbingbushibawohenzaoyiqiandeshiersuanlaozhang;yongnaxiedefangfabiaoshu“wodejuede”doushihenguanjiande。jiarubahennanshuochuqudehuayongyizhongningjingdeyudiaoshuochuqu，bingjinkenengkeguanxingdilunshukeguanshishi，youliyufuqijinyibujiaoliuhenantidechuli。

 youderenhenfapiqi，quanshenshangxiatianmanlenuhuo，yizhiyujuedewuxu“fahuo”deyudiaoshuohuajiuburongyibiandezhongyao。youdenanrenjuedejiarubudashenghanjiao，yebuxianggenanren。yeshidenvrenyongzheileifangfabiaoshuzishendecunyou，tashishouyizhongshehuifazhanwenhuayishudeweihai。conglingyigeshijiaolejie，zheileirenhenmingan，xintaizhuangtaibingbushihenwanshan。

yeshidebingbushichao，erzaipengyouguanxizhongkaizhan，shijishanghenzao。yincishibushizhengchao，bingfeijuecede。

 youderenyaoyilengchaorefeng、zhisangmahuai、quxiaojiqibuduande、youchengjiande“fengqu”zhuyaobiaoxianchuqude。biruchangchangneiyangshuozishendepeiou“nijiushishuoyiziwoweizhongxin”，“niyiqianbuzhi”，“nijiushishuolan”，“zheigedugui”，“nizongaisahuang”zheixie，jibianrutongbabaduiguinv，jinguanneixinhenrenci，danchangchangshuo“zheigexiaozanghai”;laogongduilaoposhuo“wodelaofunv”，huoxushuozhebingbushiyouyide，danshiyehenzhisi。

 tashuodehuoxuyibufenshiqueshi，danneiyangshuochuquyiranshibumingzhidehuoyouwude。zheihuiduoyudisunhainidepeiou，henzaodeshihuizaochenggengdademaodun，erbingbushidiaojie。

 jinguanneiyangdefuqizaiwanhunshihuoxushitianmanaihereqingde，buzhongshijianghuimoshahunyinshenghuodexingming，baohanyiqiantianmanlereqinghezhenqingdehunyuan。zheileixiaochendexintaishifuqizhongjianyulaiyubukeyigoutong，shiguanlianmaixiangebiandediyibu。bansuizheqianjiaxintaideshengji，hunyinshenghuoyezhujianmaixiangtuoli。

 youkexueyanjiufajue，jiarufuqizhijianshixianghuzhijianqiaobuqi，jifenghemieshide，budansunhailepeiou，yesunhaizishenderenti，tamenbishenxinjiankangfuqigengquyuhuanshangfashaoganmao、liuxingxingganmaohebiedechuanranxingjibing，duibicichangyoufumianyingxiang。

 disanzhongzhuyaobiaoxianshibianbo。tashiyizhongbukeyijienabierendejianjiedexintai。bukeyiqulingting，bukeyisisuotarenyuanyibiaoshudehanyi，yizhiyuanyizhengmingcailiaozishendexintaihegerenxingweishizhengdangxingde。shishishangtamenyaobiaoxianchulaideshi：①weihuzishen②sheirewo，woyebatadahuilai。

 tamenxiadingjuexinzaibushoushang，bazishensuodaoyigexiaoxiaodiaobaozhong，yuwaibuzhinengfeichangshaogoutong。zheileixintaibukeyijienayiqiexinxineirong，yebukeyizuodaorenherenzhijiandehelijiaoliu，duankailegoutongfangshi。

shenxinjiankangdejiaoliuyizhiduiwaikaifangzishende，jibianjianghuizaoshousunhai。

 disizhongzhuyaobiaoxianshitaobi，bingzhongduanjiaoliu。rutongchedaoyiduqianghoubian，fangzhichupengyujiaoliu，liqulunzhanzhidi。lingyifangshuohuadeneishihoudoubuyaokanlingyifang，bingbushikanbaokanjiushishuoliquwuzi，neiyanghaoxiangshiraokailedikang，danlingwaiyeduankailetamendejiaoliu。

 fuqiduichishi，nanrenyizhigengjuedejiannan，yinciduoxuanyongtaobi。congguzhijinnanrenjiuzheiyang，neiyangdemaodunyuduichigengfeichangrongyilingtamenxinshenbuan，rutongluguijindaohuangmo，zaiwuchuwangqian。zaita/tamenyibujianxin“zhengjiu”nenggouzaidushiyiqieshierxiufuruqianshi，biciyibuqutianbuhunyinshenghuodeliefeng，zuihoumaixiangliyi。

 shijishang，youdefuqijiehunhouhenhao，xingfukuaile、xingfu，liangnianhoushifenguaiyidejiangmeimanxingfuguanlianbianweilemaodun，yizhiyujiangnanwangdehuiyizaicixiechutongchu，rangzishenxiangxinzishendehunyinshenghuoshiyichangbuchenggong，zairuhezhengjiuyewujiyushi。

 zheishihouyiban bicidouchizeshilingyifangdeyiwu。zheijianghuishitamenfangfanyishidefangfa，danduihunyinshenghuobuhao，duibicibenrenyeshisunhai。

 fuqizhijianhemujiaoliuhuoshiyaoxianghuifuguolaigoutongjiaoliuyugoutong，yingdangshiliangrenchangchangweichichupenghehuifu，goutongjiaoliushitingzheliuyishuozhedeshuangyan，fabuyixietiyi，wenyixiejilidewenti，jiyuyixiexiaobiaoqinghezishishangdehuifu，neiyanggoutongjiuburongyimanmanzhongzhi。

 huanjuhuashuo，gengshifuqizhijianqianjiadegoutongfangfazaochenglefuqiganqingdeshuyuanbici，jinerzaochenglewuhuabamendejiatinghunyinnanti，yinercongmouzhongchengdushangjianggoutongqianjiacaisuanshifuqiganqingde“disanzhe”，shitadaozhilefuqizhijiandechuguixingwei;eryouliangdegoutong，rutongziyangfuqishudetaiyang，qingchuyecaodezhuanyonggongju。lianaihunyinshiyihuishima?