夫妻没有安全感了怎么办

　　fuqimeiyouanquanganlezenmeban，jinbuzhuzongaikanzhangfudeshoujishang，tabuzaiwoshenbiandemeishimeikezongquchadegang，wozheishizenmele?

　　womingbaizhangfuzhaokaihuiyi，keshitabuhuixinxideshijianyehaishirangwoganjuenanao，wojiushitaipashiqulemeiyou?

　　laogonglengbaoli，yuebujiewodianhua，wojiuyuexiangda，xianzaixiangqilai，neigeshihoudezijihaoxiangyigeguzhidexintaishenjingbing。

　　《qianrengonglve3》linjiabengkuitongkudeshihoushuo：

　　“zhiqianmengyunzaiqiyezhengyejiabanjiadian，wofenhaoyebuhuidanyou。”

　　“shiwomeizuohao，mengyungongzuoyuelaiyuehaotiqianzhunbei。”

　　“womenxuyaotapeiwo、yaotazaizijishenshangyongxinlaiyanzhengtaaiwo。”

　　bianshizheizhongxuyaomeishimeikepeiban，bixuwushiwukedebiaoshiaiyicaikeyidaijizijiandingganganqingzhuangtai，dajiabatachengwei“jiaolvxingyilianrengetezhi”。

　　shenmejiao“jiaolvxingyilianrengetezhi”?

　　jiaolvxingyiliandenvzi，nengzuochuhenduolingzhangfuyalizhongzhongdeshi，rushoujixinxihongzha、husiluanxiang、shoujiweizhi、manmachize、laoshihusiluanxiang。

　　zheizhongxingweisuoyoudouyuanziyu，xinliduiganqingdemeiyouanquanganhefeichanggaodeqingganxuqiudemeidedaomanzu。

　　jingchangqutongguodiaojielingyifang，laihuodechengjiugan。yidanduifangmeiyouzuodaozijideyaoqiuyugu，jiuhuishengsilijie，xintaibaozha。

　　neijiaolvxingrengedoushiyoushenmebiaoxianni?

　　1、处在情感中，也会更加过于敏感

　　fuqimeiyouanquanganlezenmeban，zaiqingganzhong，jiaolvxingyilianrengepinzhinvrenhuidetexinghuifeichangxianzhu。zaitayanzhongjiazhangfushishenghuodeyiqie，erqieduihaizidechengzhanghelaogongdegerenxingweifenwaibijiaomingan。

　　jiarushitexinggaodetebiejiaolv，zhangqiqianquezhenduiziwodandurenzhiguoduoyilailaogong，shenzhihuiyinqiqingxuwufakongzhi，zaochenghelaogongzhijiandeguanxijingchangshenxianchongtuzhong。

　　duoduobirendeqingkuanghuirangzhangfutuihuimeidifangtuiqingkuangxia，jiuxiangyaotao。

　　cengkandaoguoyigefufuyouyuyigedianhuazhengchaoxiaqudexiaoshipin，libiandexifujiutixianleguyaojiaolvxingrengedeguoyuminganzheiyitexing。

　　yuanyinshilaogongjietongshideyigedianhua，bingbiaoshizijizaiwaijiachebubianliaogongzuo。

　　xifu：“sheidedianhua?”

　　丈夫：“同事。”

　　xifu：“neimeweishenmejiyuguadiao，yoububianjietingde?”

　　zhangfu：“wozheibushizaikaichema。”

　　xifu：“shiyouyuwozaicheshangba。xiangyixiangzheixieyuenizonghaiyoubufangbiandeshihou。”

　　zhangfu：“buyaozheiyang，haoma?”

　　xifu：“wobuxiangxiangyigepofuyiyang，weishenmeyaozheimeduiyuwo，weishenmewoyaoshouzheizhonga”

　　zhangfu：“duibuqikebukeyi，niburubadianhuadayiwangwenyiwen?”

　　xifu：“nibieshuozhiqian，woyijudoubuyuanyiting。”

　　erqiejiuhuixiangyaobiaoxianchule，jiranduiyuwobuzaiyi，neiwoyewusuoweile。

　　zhanzaiyigeleyigeshoushangweizhishang，chuandachuzhenduizhangfudebumanheyanfanxintai，youdehaihuinaizhishangshengzhigongjibierendezizun。

　　2、欠缺巨大足够的安全感，怕失去

　　zaifuqixiangchuzhidaozhong，jiaolvxingyilianrengetezhengderenjiuhuidichufenlihehaipabeipaoqi，danyidanxiangqiyigejiatingdefensuihebeiyiqideqingkuang。

　　jiuhuiganjuezheishiyizhongpohuaixingdezainan。jiusuanhelaogongxiangchuqingkuangzaoyijiweicaogao，yebuyuanyiquyingdui。

　　zhishiyiweipinmingdiduilaogonghao，xiangrangzhangfuyikaotadehao。

　　buzhengshiwenti，danxinshangdaozishen，ganxingtouruchaoguolixingsikao，jiusuanjuechadaoletongchudegenyuan，yebuyuandiaojieyuzhangfuxiangchuqingkuang。

　　bujinxinggoutong，renweimuqiandezhuangtaicaishihaode，lveweixiangqianzouyibudouhuijuedehuijiangshieryuelaiyuegengcha。

　　3、控制欲很强，专制制度

　　jiaolvxingyilianrengetezhengdelaopo，huiyiaidemingyiquqianzhiyiduanhunyin。

　　xinliyizhijuede，wojiushiyinweiai，wocaimanmanzuozheizhongde;wojiushiyinweiai，wocaimanmanyaoguanlizhewomende。laizixunliwojingchangtingdaozheiyangdehua：

　　“pingchangzaiqiyejiayigeban，tadouyaoduanshipinchaqin，zaibierenkanlaishixiangai，worenweibianshizaijianguanwo。”

　　“tazaiwoshoujishanganzhuangdingweishoujiruanjian，meirikanliaotianjiluyijingchengletabennengfanyingshangbanle。”

　　“meirishenmeyangdeyifu，mianwachuanshenmeyansede，zhabuzhalingdaidouxuyaotingtadefenpei，doubiwomahaixuyaoducai。”

　　yidanduifangmeiyouanzhaozijideyiyuanquzuoshi，jiuhuikuangzaozaodongbuan，xiangbumingbaizenmeshixintengni，erniquebumanzu。yiranhuibiaoxianchuzijishoudaoleshanghai，nijuranbuzhidaozuocuoshiledemoyang。