历数婚姻9宗罪 全方位解救“三痛七痒”

婚后怎么维持好家庭 ?都说，婚姻是感情的墓葬，甚至有称婚姻为“恶魔”，归根结底，就是说广泛大家对婚姻的观点全是带著变色眼镜来应对的。

 chuduixiangnenggoutanhaoshinian，danwanhun，yexuyiliangnianquanshijiannande，shuobaile“sannianzhitong”、“qinianzhiyang”bingbushimeiyoudadaolide。jinqiyoudiaoyanfajue，xianjieduanbeijinglihunlvtiejin40%，bingqieliyiquntili，80houchixushangshengfazhanqushi，zaidiaoyanyihoufajue，yinqi“santongqiyang”delihunliyoujibenshangruchuyizhe，yuanguzhibuguoshixialiehaoduoge。hunhouzenmeweichihaojiating?lianaijiehunshiyihuishima?

一、对婚姻的希望过高

 jianxinduguo《antushengdetonghuagushi》zheizheishudepenyou，doushifajueyigehenguaiyidezhuangkuang，jiushishuowulunshinajiaxiaogushili，xiachangquanshishifenlingrenxinweide，doushizai“gongzhuhewangziliangrencihouguoshanghaorizilemeimanxingfudeyishizhuxing”zuowanbi，jineryecushidahuoerdaxiaojiuduihunyinhuaizheqidaihexiangxiang，xiangxiangzhehunyinnengxiangyuyangushilineibanyongyouyigexingfueryouxingfukuailedexiachang。

 jiehunqian，yixiebudadeshiqingjianghuiyebubeikanzaiyanzhong，liru“sheizhufan”，jianghuizaijiehunqianquanshixiaguanzi，yaobujiushishuocengfumu，jiehunhoubanchuqudulichanshengyigexiaojiatingdeneishihou，nandaoshuomeitianxiaguanzi、cengfumuma?xianeryijianbushishijide。

 xiangneiyangnengyinqiliyide“daohuoxian”zaijiehunhouzhendeshitaiduo，youbukeyichedidefangzhi，xiangzheizhongshiqingrijiyuelei，shubuzhidahuoerdouqidaikeyizaihunyinzhonghuodekaolv，dansheiyouxiangyaozhanchuqunulini?pobudeyizuizhonghuanshiyifenli、liangdifenju、liyizuoweishouwei。

 jiejiu：zaimeiyouwanhunyiqian，xianxiangqingxi，wanhunyihoudexiwangshisha，tangruoliangrendeqifuzhenshitaida，neihaowuyiwenbuhaode，shikeyizaihunqianzuoyigezhidao，youyuxianghujiandelejiehuijizhihoudehunyinchanshengzhongduodenanti，erzheiyizhidaozenenggouhelidechulijiehunhouyaozaoyudejiannanhenanti，suihouxianghuchuangjianyigeshihedexiwang。

二、夫妻间的不信任

 keyidedaotarendexinren，xiangxinshidahuoergengweixiwangdeshiqing，beixinrenhuanjuhua，beitarenxinrenjiushishuohuodetarendehaowuyiwen，youmeiyoushenmebizheiyigengzuigaizihaode?

 haijideyouyigepenyou，tagenhaoduogepenyouhehuorenkaiguoyijiazhizaochang，lijingdabanniandeyunxing，gongchangmanmangangkaishiyongyoujingjixiaoyi，chuanyannianmohaifenhongle，shijiwankuai，yihoutaxifujiumeitianbiwenzheizhongchuanyanyoumuyou，genzhangfutongshidelaopotantinglaitantingqu，yizhizaicaiyi，tadoushimeitianweizheiyishiqinghetaxifuzhengchao，jieguoyouyuzheiyishiqinglilehun。

 jiejiu：fuqizhijiandexinrenzhiguanzhongyao，ganwanjinliangbuyaoranranshengqicaiyidexiangfa，huoxuchidakuijiukuizaizheiyixiangfashang。doushuofuqijianduojiangqingshaojiangdaoli，huashineimeshuo，danhuanshidechuangjianzaixinrendejibenshangcaikeyixing，wanhunguoshenghuo，huanshitanchengxiangdaiweiyi，fangzhilecaiyi，shiricaiyoupantou。

三、化学物质层面的不能满足

 aimeizhiqingrenjieyouzhi，nanshengyeshixiaihaier，jinjinnvrendeaimei，chukaibinanshenggengwanquan，gengfengkuangyixieyiwai，haiyouyigemangmupanbidezengjiazhi，yinci，dangnvrenaiqimeilai，neikeyishuoshijingtiandiqiguishen，wulunshisha，haiyao“meili”de，nvbaoyaolv、coachde，hufupinyaohedioryigecengjide，bingqieguanjiandeneiyangdexintaizhuangtai，bansuizheyicicikaolvyihou，haihuichixudezisheng，nongbuhaodaoshihouhaiyao“tianwainihongdeng”zuodenvbaole。

 tangruo，biaozhunrongxuneiyangde“aimei”neidaziranyihaobaihao，danjiaruneiyangdehuaxuewuzhiyaoqiumeifabeikaolvshi，neiyejiudaibiaoshijieweirijijiangdaolaile，kanjiantarenkaibenchibaoma，zishenkaibenbenbaolai，kanjiantarentuzhechaneldemeizhuang，zishenhaiyaobuzhumingde……

neiyangdexiachangshizhongjiude，nenggoushuo，qudaoneiyangdeta，zishen jiushishuoyijiankebeideshiqing。

 jiejiu：meishahaodejiejiufangfa，nengzuodejiushishuosuzaoyouliangdexiaofeiguan，ronghebenshendexiaofeigongzuonenglilaitiaoxuanzishendehuaxuewuzhiyaoqiu，yeyoujiushishuojinkenengbieheneiyangderen“xiangshouzhongshen”。lianaijiehunshiyihuishima?