恋爱结婚 教你假如解决婚外恋

一、正确认识婚姻矛盾的两极化方式

 1. hunhouzenmeweichihaojiating ?hunyinmaodundegenbenyuanyinzaiyipeiouguanlianshiqupingheng，yifangduihunyinguanxifeichangzaiyi，erlingyifanggengjiadanduyuziao。

2.hunyinguanxigangkaishiebianshi，feichangzaiyideyifangjinghuangshicuo，yincizuochuerzhongbushandefanying：

a)kuijiu、weiquqiuquan、qilian、chuanchuzijinweixienaizhishizhezijindeng“soft love”defangfa;

b)eyuzhongshang、menglieyoukuyounao、niuda、bashiernongdewurenbuxiao，sunhuailingyifangdezhimingdu。

 3.zheierzhongbushandefangfa，yexulinshikanqilaimeiyouranghunyinmashangwanbi，dantamenwuyiliwaidoujinyibuebianlehunyinguanxi，weijiexiaqudegengcaogaodeexingshijianchushilebiaozhun。hunhouzenmeweichihaojiating?lianaijiehunshiyihuishima?

二、解决婚姻矛盾的2个关键标准

1.aiwubishizizunxinde。

 dubusenjuede，hunyindebuhemujibenshangyizhishiyuyumieshi，youshihoushirenmenjijishengchanzhizaolepeioumieshirenmendebiaozhun，youshihoushipeiouyouxinxiangmieshirenmen。jiarutingrenzheileimieshifazhanqushixialai，hunyinmaodunbidinghuizaocheng。yinci，wubiranghunyinguanxiweichizhetanrandezizun、xinxinhewenminglimao。

2.aiwubishisuiyide。

 dubusenjuede，tongchangqingkuangxia，peiouwangwangxiangtaochu，youyurenmenbatachandetaijin。yaoxianglingjiehunhoudeguanlianyiranjubeilanmanyanse，jilingyifanghezishenyiyidingdesirenkongjianshishifenbixude，zhinengneiyangnicaihuilingpeioushizhongduiniweichizheqiuzhiyu。tazaishuzhongjiuzheiyidianlijulehenduoshili，zheixieyuanbenduipeiouhaoxiangqueshileaihaoderen，dangjiandaopeiouyibusichantashi，fandaohuiqiguaidiqukankanpeioudaodizaiganshenme，erreqingyecongererwenshi。

三、不忠的配偶常说的假话

1.tahuigaosuni，tayuanbenyagenjiubujiehun。

2.tayikaishijiumeiyouainineimeduo。

3.liyishiyizhongzhenchengdetiaoxuan。

4.dangnimeiyouneimaduonanti，tajiuburongyiquzhaotaren。

5.tayunifenshoushiyibianninhao。

6.tayunifenshoushiweilebaobaohao。

7.tarendoujuederenmenyingdangliyi。

 bubirenweiweiyounidebuzhongdepeioucaineiyangshuo，zuoyouzheizhongyujushishishangshiquanbubuzhongdepeioudouxiaishuodejiahua，tamendemudishichangshijinijianxin，tabuzhongjiushinidecuo，lingwaidoushiyibianjiangditazishendeshiluoganheyiwu，nibubibeitamencaozongbingshuozhendejuede，tabuzhongfandaojiushinidecuo。

 1.peioudiyiciyoubuzhonggerenxingweishi，haiyaoyingyongduichi，yutadouzheng，erbingbushijiaoxingxintai，zhiwangtazishengaidiao，neiyibanzongshilingtazaizheilushangyuehuayuelaiyueyuan。

 2.chuochuantade“zhongshi”dejiamianju，jiaruchuochuanquanguochengshihuirangtarenlejie，neiyemeishier，youyucuozaita。danjilao，bubiyouyikuodahua。

 3.tahuizuochutiaoxuan，xiangyaoni，huanshiyaodisanzhe。bukeyifangrentajinenggouxiangyaoni，younenggouyaodisanzhe。tashixuduonanshengqingxindejushi，bubikaolvta。

 4.qingjilao，zheixielanxingderen，tamendeyouyueganbingbushizailanxingzhong，eryiranzainagezuipingwendepengyouguanxizhong，taduizheiyiguanliandeyikaoshuiping，yuanchaonidexiangxiang。jiarunishizheiyiren，neimayaoyoudanliangquduichi，tahuifajue，niyeshizuiguanjiande。

 5.zhanshiqinei，juebujienanideqingdi。yexuqingdiyeshizuigainilianmindediqu，danzheileilianminyaoliuzaizhanshiwanbizhihouzaibiaoshu。

6.jiarutarenghedisanzhexiangchu，jiububihetaxingshenghuo。

7.shitabudui，yincizaijiejuezheiyisanjiaoguanxishi，bubitahuizuoguanlizhe。

 qingjilao，zuoyouzheizhongdouchuangjianzaiyigejibenshang：youchongzuzhijiezhengjushuomingpeioubuzhong。dangnijinjincaiji，neibianshiciwaiyigenanti，zuoyouzheizhongfangshibushihe。lianaijiehunshiyihuishima?