夫妻间的安全感怎么重塑

　　fuqijiandeanquanganzenmezhongsu，yigechangzairichangrenjijiaowangfangmianjuedejiaolvderen，yidanxianrutanlianai，zhihuigengjiajiaolvqingxu;yigezaiganqingzhongshishikekehaipazijideyushideren，zaizuoyeheqitafangmianyehuigandaojiaolv，henrongyibeisuosuikunhuo。

　　yiyang，meiyouanquangangengxiangshiyigebeijudejiacheng，ruguonimeiyouanquanganshi，wangwanghuizaishenghuodegegefangmianjuedewujindebuanhejiaolv，yingxiangzijiderichangshenghuogegefangmian。

　　怎样培养归属感?

　　guishugannenggoushijifenjiecheng：1.zhangkonggan，2.guishugan，3.kekongxinggan

　　(一)掌控感——懂得以灵便的思路看待事物，懂得珍惜当下

　　meiyouanquanganderenhejuyouandingganrenherenzhijianqubiezaiyu：duiyudabufenmeiyouanquangandereneryan，tamenguodumiqiejiang“xintai”he“xiankuang”lianxizaiyiqi，yejiushishuo，tamenzhiyouzai100%mingquexiankuangyouliangdeqingkuangxiacainengchijijixintai。

　　yitanlianaiweilizi，dangliangrenchuzailianaijieduanshi，pingchangrenhuijinqingxiangshouzheiyiduanshijian，tiantiandoutianmeidaobuxing;danduiyumeiyouanquangandereneryan，tongyangchuyulianaijieduanshi，tamenhuijuedemingxiandebuan，faxianduifangwubi100%diaitamen，aiqingwubi100%laogu，erqiehuirangjianglaichanshengyidingdejiaolvgan——zheileijiaolvganlaiyuanyutamenduiyurelianqiguohoulianggerenganqingdedanfangcaixiang。

　　yejiushishuo，juyouandingganrennenggenghaodexiangshouxianzai，zhangwoxianjieduan，ermeiyouanquanganderenyibanmeifazuodao，tamenshizhongshenchujiaolvdangzhong，bayuanbenyinggaiyongyuchuangjiantianmeiaiqingdejiyudouhuazaichixurenzhenglingyifanggoubugoushandaiziji，zijiyuduifangshibushiyouweilai，jielundangranyanzhongyingxiangaiqingdeshunlifazhan。

　　解决对策：

　　fuqijiandeanquanganzenmezhongsu，xuyaotishengziwoyueshunengli，yishidaoyoushenmeshi100%anquan，jibianxianzaishifenanquan，hennanbaozhengweilaiyebuhuiyouyiwai。yilingbiandesiweifangshiduidaishixia，xuehuixiangshouxianjieduandexingfu。

　　(二)归属感

　　andingganzhichengdedaobixujigefangmianyaosu：jingjifazhanwuzhitiaojian、shehuifazhanshejiaoshiyong、ziwodingwei、gerenjiazhi、ziwojienaherenke、youliangdexingweifangshi。

　　◆经济发展物质条件

　　rentiguishugandezhuyaolaiyuanshiwuzhitiaojian。jiandandeshuo，nixuyaoyouzugoudewuzhishenghuo，rangnideshentijuedepingwen、anquanxing、shoubaohu、youzhixuziwozhangkonggan。

　　yigebunengmanzuzuidishenghuobaozhangxiangfaderennanyihuodeguishugan，yigesuichuweileshengshierfannaoderenjiuwufachedidedaoguishugan，tebieshizaixianzaizheigeshehuijingjifazhanyalihendadeqingxingxia。suiranyourenkuazhangdishuo“meiqiandefufuenailiangbuyi”，danquefayidingdewuzhitiaojiankendinghuizaiqingganzhongyinqidaliangfenqi。

　　jiejueduice：qinfenyongyouzijigongzuo，caifuziyou。

　　◆社会发展社交适用

　　qinren、haoyou、zhongshenbanlv、diantouzhijiao……dangsuoyoujiaosedouyoubutongdehouxuanren，erqiezheixierendourenkehezhichini，yizijizijiweihexinfazhanqushiyizhengtaopingwenrenjijiaowangguanxi，neinizaijingshenshangdeguishuganjiuhuidadatisheng。

　　bingmeiyoupengyouhuolaiyuanyubuxingfudeyuanshengjiatingrengengrongyichuxianmeiyouanquangan。

　　jiejueduice：jingyinghaozijiderenjijiaowang，hefumuyupengyouxiangchuhemu。

　　◆自我定位

　　yigerenyishengzhongshiyangezhonggeyangbutongderenwujiaose，dangnizhenzhengdeziwodingweijingqueshi，dajiacainenggandaoanquan，buranhenrongyitichuzhiyi。

　　liruzaiqinglvguanxizhong，nvhaishichanghuichanshengjiaolv：“tadaodishibushizhendeaiwo”、“womenshibushiyouweilai?”denggezhongwenti，zheimingxianshiyouyurenwujiaosedingweibuzhunsuozaochengde。zaihaimeibianchenglingyifangnvpengyouyiqian，taizaodejiangziwodingweiweibicidenvpengyou，taizaodexiwanglingyifangduiniyouganjue，zaibicimeiyoubiaoxianchuyaohenijiehundeqingxingxia，taizaodejiangzijidingweiweinvyou。

　　jiejueduice：renqingzijirenwujiaose，liru“worujinjinjinyutachupengkanyixia，buyidingyaochengweilenvpengyou”、“womenjiushitanlianai，haibuzukaolvdaohunyinshenghuodeqingkuangxia”。

　　◆个人价值

　　zaiwomenduimuqianziranhuanjingchanshengzhiyishi，meiyouanquanganhuichansheng。

　　yilianaiqiweilizi，dangnifaxianzijibugouqiangdashi，jishiduifangkoukoushengshengshuowoaini，nidexinliyijiuyouxiaogeda——youyunijuedezijidechuseshuipingwufamanzulingyifangdeqing。

　　jiejueduice：suzaoguishugandeguanjianshitigaoziji，buduantishengziji，rangzijibiandegengjiachuse，zhizhizaiduifangdeaiyanqian“bukui”。

　　◆自我接纳和认可

　　meirenjueduiwanmei，meiyouanquangantongchanglaiyuanyuduizishendefourenhebujiena，jibianzaibierenyanlinijiuyijingfeichanghao，dannikenengyiranbuzixin，guodudanxinzishendequedian。

　　daduoshuqingkuangxia，bushaorenzaixingweiyiqianjiufoudingleta：“wojueduimeifazuodao，jibianjinxingleyewujiyushi。”

　　ziwohuaiyiyueda→meiyouanquanganyuezhong→ziwohuaiyiyueda，zheishiyigeexunhuan。

　　jiejueduice：xuehuimianduihechaoyueziji，jibianyouyixiequexianyehenzhengchang，haohaokankangerenyoudian，liru“jinguanwomeiqian，kewotebiejiankang，wohainianqing”。